To want ONE morning off this week?

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Dh works FT, I have two voluntary jobs that take me a total of about 15 hours a week. I do all the housework-type stuff except hoovering - Dh will wash up once in a while if I ask him to but it's usually me. I get up around 6.30, have a cuppa, sort out breakfast and wake Dd at 7, we have tea & breakfast together then she gets ready for school and heads out at 8.15.

Dh is off work this week as we are planning to move house soon and he wants a week to get everything sorted and partly packed.

I asked if he would take one morning this week and get up with Dd so I could have a bit of a lie-in on a weekday (bliss!). He was a bit , asking what time Dd has this, what time he should do that, what should he do for breakfast (point at the cupboard FFS, she can get her own cereal!), I felt like he was trying to make it so awkward that I'd tell him not to bother.

Today I mentioned it to my mum, and she was all "oh you can't do that, he gets up early every day, he works hard, it's his week off, let him have his week's lie-ins".

I don't get a day off. I don't ever get a day off. I want one day where I can stay in bed till 8.30 with a cuppa. AIBU?

Have your lie in,why on earth are you up at 6.30am?!
Why is your husband asking what your daughter will eat for breakfast?!
Let him deal with it and let your daughter sort herself out for a day-at least-and enjoy a bit of time to yourself

She´s 14?????

Get her to bring you both a cup of tea!

Fourteen... bloody hell 50 years ago she'd be out working by now!

She sleeps like the dead, an alarm would never wake her up, it takes a hefty shoulder-shake until she grunts so I know she's alive - she has slept through every alarm we've tried, including her mobile ringtones. Maybe I need to introduce an old-fashioned alarm clock with a loud bell...

Christ-I think that I do too much for my 14yr old daughter by getting up (an hr after her) to make her a snack.

You do know that she will be leaving home in the next few years... She will need to learn to get up. Maybe this is the time to learn

This is the maddest post ever. 14? I had a part time job at 14 and I had to catch 2 buses to school which meant I had to get myself up very early.

In her defence, she has a heart condition which means she gets a bit more tired than 'normal' and consequently sleeps very deeply.

I've just realised that the hovering over-protective mother of a sick toddler has developed into a real mother hen.

Fuck.

Thanks for setting me straight...

That's great OP. What does DD plan on doing in 2-4 years? University, college, work? Mother hen has to turn into independence trainer!

Obvs not the heart condition being great but the realisation.

"an alarm would never wake her" is a big pile of crap.

She's never needed to get herself up has she? She doesn't have a cognitive impairment that means her brain doesn't register alarms?

I bet if tomorrow morning she could have breakfast with One Direction (or whoever) but had to get herself up at 6am she would have the ability to wake up to an alarm.

Have a lie in every morning! Treat your DD as a young women and not a toddler

Thanks for the , will go nicely with the cuppa.

Are you real?

Um, yes run I am...

Well I have to say this thread has opened my eyes! I would have expected most 14 year olds to need some parental input in the morning, seems I am wrong, and they should all be sorting themselves out while the parents lounge in bed!

At 14 I was quite capable of getting myself up because I could shock horror work an alarm clock myself, get myself my own breakfast and be out the door and walk to school.

OP, she's 14. She'll be taken her GCSEs (or whatever they're going to be calling them) next year and she'll have to be responsible for her own revision timetable etc so she might as well start with taking responsibility for her own wake ups.

Does she not do any chores around the house or anything?

Since I was about 8 and I have an older sister and younger brother, Saturday night was: the Kids cook night. We thought it was great fun and my parents had the night off!

My DS (11) makes my morning cuppa and sometimes wakes me up.

That's why we have DC surely?!

Was about to comment then realised I'm exactly double your DD's age despite still feeling like I only recently left high school

I'd had a job for a year at that age.

What were doing for yourself at 14, NOt?

I stay in bed to keep out of the way as much as anything.

Then up at 7.15 to make daughter´s snack-then everyone is out of the house at 7.30-& I get ready in peace!

Even my 11 year old gets herself breakfasted and out to school in the morning. My 14 year old gets up at 6.30 and does his paper round first. I wake the 11 year old up at 7 and then go back to bed as I don't need to be up till 8 with my 7 year old. Don't get the empty house bit as my kids know I'm awake and pop in and out of my bedroom if they want anything.

diddl, it was a long time ago, but as far as I can remember we always had breakfast as a family, so there were always parents up and about to nag me keep me company in the morning. I am 36 now, and I wouldn't fancy getting up on my own every morning while everyone else slept in!

I think you are getting some harsh comments oops - I agree with you that it is nice to have breakfast together as a family if you possibly can (I often go back to bed with a coffee and the papers once DH & DS have left the house ).

This thread is hilarious. From the first few posts I was imagining a 3 year old, just able to get her own cereal out of the cupboard. But 14. Hahahahhahaha. That's brilliant.

I think my idea of what responsibilities a 14yo should have might be a little... skewed.