I have been thinking about posting this for a while, I'm somewhat of a lurker but have name changed too.
I am 22 and DP is 23, we have been together for three years now and are madly in love have been from day one. DP has a stable, reasonably well paid job. I however am a student coming up to my final year.
I have never had the desire to be in a high flying job, but the degree I am doing will lead me into a professional role, I have no intention of giving it up and will give it my all (I am enjoying it, progressing well- with high marks). In my heart I see myself as a mum and it may sound cheesy but that's what I want to be. The job is to support us.
DP wants children too, there is no pressure from either side and it's a joint decision. He has relatively young parents, I myself did not... Dad 40 and mum late 30's when they had me.
Here's where it gets tricky. If I was to have got pregnant earlier I wouldn't be doubting things but we have been trying to conceive for 2 years for people of our age that's unusual. I have had blood tests that have come back clear and we are waiting to do a seamen analysis. I'm just scared that there will be something wrong with one or both of us. The infertility world is not set up for people of our age. IVF is 23, we would get laughed at if we wanted to adopt.
I am not naive about having children, over the years I have been trusted to look after other peoples children, I know it's hard. There are pros and cons to having children young and there are pros and cons to having them late.
Perhaps this isn't an am I being unreasonable? But, I'm looking for some experiences, comments or ideas.
Please be gentle - but honest too.