To think on the whole mumsnetters are kind and supportive?

[EverlongYouAreGoldAndOrange]

Been here years, I've seen loads of different types of threads but I think mostly posters are lovely, do give appropriate support, do look out for each other. I know there are some idiots about sometimes too.

Or am I delusional

I think you are right Everlong.

I agree totally am very new but having a very difficult pregnancy and the support I've had on here has been amazing.

YANBU, we are all lovely

No I think you are right.

There are a fair amount of twats but in the main MNers are generally good eggs.

YANBU, we're fab!

yes, they are. There are a few supercilious wagons but 95% are supportive and chatty and normal. Most people don't come here to prove how smart they are but there are a few who do.

This website would not have grown as it has, and developed such a profile if it was not, in the main, a good and supportive place

So where does the 'nest of vipers' thing come from?

Absolutely. Of course there's always going to be the odd bellend knocking around but that's just life!

MN has been an amazing support to me over the last 2 years. I'd be lost without it.

Some people, some times, don't get responses that they think they should have got < shrugs >

It's not a fluffy, "there there you poor thing" kind of site, and many new posters are taken aback by the straightforwardness. The more robust ones stick around and grow to like it.

There are also some long standing posters who periodically moan about certain sections, but make the decision to stick around despite hating the place

I think nest of vipers comes from MN not having any truck with naff stuff eg tickers, txt spk, excessive lols and huns and not being passive aggressive. Folk get told stuff straight here and then some get offended and huffy. It appeals to a certain type I think.

Pretty much, yes.

I like that people speak sense and don't just do autopilot lovey-dovey replies. I used to go on a wedding forum when I was getting married and everyone was very sugar-coated, loads of 'aw, love, so gorgeous, you are totally right that your MIL dipped in tar and set on fire will be a fab decoration, your SIL is such a meanie, bless you xxx'.

It was like getting drowned in very sweet venom because if you are going to be indiscriminately sweet to posters, it means you have to be very indiscriminately nasty about a lot of people you've never met!

that's it. Robust types

YANBU

If you doubt it, then have a look at the WoollyHugs blog.

That's what I like anyfucker , the diverseness of responses.

Yes MmeLindor is right, i am very proud to be involved with Woolly Hugs in the smallest way.

The wooly hugs is amazing

Those blankets, purses etc are absolutely beautiful. Such clever ladies with hearts of gold.

I can't look at their website often cause they make me sob. Such a wonderful group of women.

The support and encouragement I have received on MN over the years has been incredible. Yes, there have been times when I have been told I was being unreasonable, and not to be a silly twat (or words to that affect) but generally I have found if you are not an arse, you don't get called an arse.

The problem of course arises when you think you are not an arse but are actually being an arse, but that is due to your lack of self-awareness, not MNetters being nasty.

YANBU, what I really like about it is the honesty and lack of sugar coating, that does lead to a bit of nastiness in AIBU but it's a price worth paying I think.

I agree, I've been on MN for about 3 years or so and its been fab.

I think maybe some people are more "robust" in what bothers them than in real life but I think thats true of most parenting sites (I'm not an MN exclusive )

I do think sometimes people get an unfair response because someone is in a vile mood. I've had a right go at someone before and had to go back and apologize after, which isn't great. But I think that is partly just life, isn't it? And I do think there's a reasonable amount of a culture of apologizing on MN, which isn't true everywhere.

oh yes, I have sincerely apologised several times on here

Yeah I agree with that LRD sometimes our mood or what's happening in RL can spill over to here, I know I've done it. Saying sorry is the way forward.

I had amazing, wonderful support on a thread last night. There are some amazing people in here who are willing to stand up for the right thing, that's for sure.

Yanbu, I love MN.x