To be fuming at friend who gave 7mo a fredo?

[villagelife92]

I went round a friends house this morning and left DD (7mo) with her while i popped to the shop. I came back to find her eating a fredo. I was absolutely furious but didn't want to make a scene in front of the children (her DD is 9mo). I did tell her that imo she was wrong to give her chocolate and i was upset that she had. To which she replied that her DD has two fredos a day and hasn't done her any harm. I replied that I don't want DD having chocolate and left. She then text me saying that she won't give her chocolate again but can't see why I'm so upset. AIBU to be upset and furious or was she BU to give her a fredo?

A friend of mine once looked after dd1 while I was working and was going to take her with her ds for a picnic. When I picked dd up they had eaten mcdonalds happy meals in a field.

I hate mcdonalds (except for cravings during pg) and at that point dd hadn't had chips. In fairness she was 2 and I know lots of toddlers eat mcdonalds but it's not something I wanted for my dd. However, my friend is a good one and she'd really helped me out with childcare.

Basically, I would never have given dd1 a Freddo bar at that age (she had 3 chocolate buttons at 8mo on a long car journey where we'd been stuck in traffic) but that was my decision so I would be surprised for a friend to feed a baby chocolate. But not worth falling out over. Some people have very different views on food - tbh I'm far more laid back now I have dd 2&3 and at 12mo they loved sharing a choc ice cream (but again, my decision to give it to them).

I can't believe a 9mo eats 2 a day. dd1 is 4 and has one a month if that! Children can survive without chocolate seems to be a statement that would shock many.

For a 7 month old - a couple of buttons, maybe, a whole Freddo, no. I wouldn't give my 2 year old 2 Freddo's a day though I bet he'd eat them!

I don't think you're being unreasonable in being pissed off but if she says she won't do it again then just let it go and forget about it. She was wrong to presume she could just offer your baby chocolate, personally if I was looking after a friends DC I would first ask what food they could have and if I didn't know I would offer fruit if they appeared hungry. Chocolate certainly isn't a neccesity.

Her 9 month old has 2 freddos a day!??

YANBU as friend knew you didn't want her having chocolate. Don't have her babysit your DD again.

yanbu, absolutely not.

7 months. 7 months???!!!!!!

For as long as I almost exclusively control what is put into my child's mouth (ds 2.1), then he will only have chocolate very rarely.

When he is going to school and birthday parties, playdates without me present etc etc, then I have no problem with what he is fed (within reason). So from around 4 years onwards.

But at 7 months????? No no no. I reiterate, you are not being unreasonable at all. You didn't provide a list of do and donts to your friend as i guess you just presumed giving your young baby chocolate was the last thing she would do.

It's a freddo, not kiddy crack.

and this country has an obesity problem? What a surprise!

I can see why you're upset - I didn't give DS chocolate either when he was a baby and was a bit anal about his diet. Looking back, it strikes me as a barking.

TBH, it's clear you and she have vastly different ideas about what is suitable food for small babies so I wouldn't leave your DD with her again

My first comment was going to ask what a Fredo was! I've learned that it's a bar of chocolate. I don't buy much chocolate so haven't noticed it in Sainsbo's or Asda but I haven't looked at the confectionery aisles anyway.

A couple of buttons yes but 2 freddos a day is nuts. Just how to get your child hooked on sugar/diabetic/fat/heart problems in the long run. Start em early, ruin their health years down the line

Hardly the end of the world. Total over reaction in my book.

YABU Freddos are well lush. Mine have been raised on them and chocolate buttons

You should thank her for giving the baby dinner too.

The ones with caramel were the taz's weren't they?

I have just eaten a Freddo and my 6 month old ds is playing with the shiny packet, having a great time. Poor love, doesn't know what he is missing! :)

the yellow packets of freddo have caramel. They are the best imo

I'd be angry too. How in their right mind gives chocolate to a 7 months old???? Bad enough if it's your own child but a friend's? Really??? Do people on here REALLY think that's normal or ok????

Mrshuxtable the people who give their babies chocolate (like this friend) clearly don't think its wrong or an issue. So why wouldn't they give it to another child they have charge of.

And its not about 'normal' or 'ok' its about it not being the end of the world and making the OP furious.