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AIBU?

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Original poster

to have fallen asleep and not replied

95 replies

Justhadenough · 15/09/2012 22:34

Last night I was sitting here mumsnetting being very productive. All the DCs were in bed. DH had locked the doors and I had told him I would come up in a minute. SIL (DHs sister) text me asking could she come and visit. She visits a lot at night, because she says it's easier for her.
I said no we were all in bed. I then fell asleep on my chair Blush
DH left me where I was. So I didn't wake up till this morning. I had 9 missed calls and 16 messages from SIL most of them telling me to call her back soon.
I rang her back and told her I was sorry, I had fallen asleep.
She said I was rude for doing so and she wanted to come. I said I was sorry, I really didn't mean too. She told me to get lost and she wouldn't ask me again she would ask DH from now on.
I feel really bad now, because she is upset. But at the same time I didn't do it on purpose.
So AIBU?

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holyfishnets · 15/09/2012 23:08

I think you should just go to bed when ever you need to go to bed

anonacfr · 15/09/2012 23:08

OP you have posted before about your mother and the chickenpox mess haven't you?
As if you didn't have enough problems you poor thing. Sad

I'm sorry but your SIL is clearly a selfish nutter. Surely she must realise that with young children and babies the last thing you need is a ridiculously late night because she decides she wants to visit?

EverybodysDoeEyed · 15/09/2012 23:08

Wow. She is seriously unreasonable then.

When I had one 3 month old I would have torn to shreds anyone who tried to keep me awake - let alone triplets and 3 older kids.

I'm going to take a guess that she isn't very supportive?

Original poster
Justhadenough · 15/09/2012 23:08

She works afternoons in a shop so she is not in work till 1. Her DH looks after the DCs while she works and until she wakes up in the morning.

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Teeb · 15/09/2012 23:09

Oh gosh op, you sound like you've got enough on your plate without your SIL being a pain in the bum. Don't worry yourself about her at all anymore and leave your DH to deal with her, I think it will be easier for him to tell her when to back off with her being his sister.

I hope you can look after yourself a bit with enough sleep and that your little one gets better soon.

whethergirl · 15/09/2012 23:10

This is just getting worse and worse. As well as three kids, you have three small babies to look after, one of which you must be so worried about....and she's hassling you and demanding your attention?!

AgentZigzag · 15/09/2012 23:11

'She has always been very dramatic and can get upset when things don't go her way.'

You mean she tries to emotionally blackmail you with her tantruming?

Original poster
Justhadenough · 15/09/2012 23:11

She can be okay sometimes. She loves my DCs, I think she is just used to getting her own way.

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Original poster
Justhadenough · 15/09/2012 23:12

I guess that is what I mean AgentZigzag

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MadBusLady · 15/09/2012 23:12

Of course YANBU! Confused

She sounds very strange.

OTTMummA · 15/09/2012 23:12

I remember your chicken pox thread, i hope your little one in hospital is ok? [hug]
Just ignore the crazy SIL, or do what i'd do and tell her to Fuck the Fuck off you Fucking selfish crazy Bitch!

Original poster
Justhadenough · 15/09/2012 23:15

My little one in hospital is getting better Grin

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AgentZigzag · 15/09/2012 23:21

I remember your thread too, even if you had no children she'd still be unreasonable.

What do you make of the amount of calls and texts she sent Justhad? Is that normal for her? It'd really freak me out if someone I knew was so determined over just a chat so late at night.

Original poster
Justhadenough · 15/09/2012 23:32

It is normal for her if you don't reply to send loads of texts. Never had loads of calls before though.

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AgentZigzag · 15/09/2012 23:49

Aside from your overbearing SIL, I think you were bloody lucky to get some kip at all with so many potential Sleep Disturbers under one roof (and one who wasn't) Grin

HaveALittleFaith · 16/09/2012 09:21

What the actual....? You have kids including tiny twins and one in hospital who is improving? I can't imagine how much stress you've been under?

Yes how incredibly rude of you to fall asleep at 11pm and not reply to her texts! Hmm Seriously with behaviour like this, the best thing to do is not reply, not give in to her demands. I wouldn't want visitors after 11pm and we don't have any DCs yet (#1 on the way). Defiitniely don't apologise, you didn't do anything wrong! Maybe she'll learn front hs she can't keep taking liberties!

Bunbaker · 16/09/2012 09:40

"Sorry it was 11:20 when she asked."

Next time she asks tell her that your phone gets switched off at (insert a time eg 10, 10.30) and you are going to bed and will not answer the phone.

Your SIL is being extremely unreasonable and selfish. How dare she expect you to be deprived of sleep just for her. If anyone wanted to see me at that time of night I would assume that it was an emergency, not just a social call.

I hope your little one in hospital is home soon.

HecateHarshPants · 16/09/2012 09:45

What was there to stay awake for? You'd already said no.

conversation over.

She wanted to browbeat you into turning no into yes.

Well, sod her.

I suggest that you go to bed when you're tired, whether she's there or not. She's only caring about herself. You're her entertainment. Where's her consideration for you? Noticeable by its absence.

WelshMaenad · 16/09/2012 10:07

She wanted to come visiting at close to midnight? That's not what normal people do, that's what people looking to score drugs do! What a fruitloop.

auberginesarenottheonlyfruit · 16/09/2012 10:24

So, if you'd gone up to bed "in a minute" with your dh, you could have been shagging or anything when she first texted.

Oh, wait a moment, you've got 6 kids, 3 of them babies. Not surprised you were passed out in a chair.

Kalisi · 16/09/2012 10:28

Tell her to put her kids to bed earlier if she wants to come round. Who the hell still has kids up past eleven on a regular basis anyway?! Not sure why you're even posting on here tbh, telling her to Fuck right off seems like an obvious response. YADNBU!

tulippa · 16/09/2012 10:32

If she comes round at 11pm what time does she leave?

thepeoplesprincess · 16/09/2012 10:43

Is she on coke?

NopofacehaveI · 16/09/2012 10:46

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diddl · 16/09/2012 11:27

But you did reply.

You said no-you were all in bed-did she expect you to answer texts in your sleep, or did she think that you were lying??!!

I don´t know why you rang to apologise tbh.