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People who say WE are pregnant.

85 replies

jellybaby25 · 13/09/2012 22:33

This really annoys me & smacks of smugness. Your husband cannot be pregnant along with you! Why not say I am pregnant?

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mathanxiety · 14/09/2012 05:35

I nearly corrected my dear cousin when he said this about himself and his wife. Bit my tongue. It's just not so.

But not worth alienating people over. He is a good dad and adores his (lovely) wife.

ClaudiaSchiffer · 14/09/2012 05:45

Perfectly put QueenofDiamonds. "We" are pregnant makes me cringe.

I know a couple who talk this kind of crap - they also request "playdates" and OMG how unforgivable is the the fb page for a bump!

Am staggered.

ChicMama25 · 14/09/2012 08:08

URgh agreed. SO annoyiing.

FrankelSaysRelax · 14/09/2012 08:18

My work colleagues daughter and her husband signed all birthday/Christmas cards "wife name, husband name & baby name" from her 20 week scan onwards Hmm

panicnotanymore · 14/09/2012 08:19

I've never said it... and never would, but in a way I think it is sweet when people do. Obviously the dad wants to feel involved. That's a good thing isn't it?

B1ueberry · 14/09/2012 08:20

You think THAT is bad, I know a man who said 'we had six stitches'. I laughed in his face. He taught me to drive. I taught him self-awareness Wink

hellsbells76 · 14/09/2012 08:23

I had a brief relationship with someone who said that about him and his ex. 'when we were pregnant' and then, even worse, 'when we were in labour'. I laughed hysterically and I think he saw the error of his ways.

anonacfr · 14/09/2012 16:01

It's very American isn't it?

geegee888 · 14/09/2012 16:19

YANBU. Not at all.

Keepthechangeyoufilthyanimal · 14/09/2012 16:23

YANBU - I hate it too!
Agree about reminds me of couples who wear matching jumpers! Grin

Evasmum12 · 14/09/2012 16:25

Ugh. It's just wrong.

My exp liked to tell people "we had to have an emergency c-section". No. I did.

BalloonSlayer · 14/09/2012 16:26

Grin at arthurfowler and "I keep thinking, there'll be no we're pregnant when those contractions ramp up and he's there, waving a flannel."

SheppySheepdog · 14/09/2012 16:27

Oh no...

I don't like this either. Unless they are both going to give birth, in which case it's a fair statement. Grin

squoosh · 14/09/2012 16:27

YANBU

People who say 'we' are pregnant are knobs. Fact.

Fakebook · 14/09/2012 16:27

Sounds like something the Queen would say:

"We, are pregnant"...

Which reminds me of that Blackadder's Christmas Carol, when Queen Victoria knocks on the door and exclaims: "We are Queen Victoria", and Baldrick goes: "What? All three of you?" Grin...

SamuelWestsMistress · 14/09/2012 16:33

I know. It makes no sense.

When DH has diarrhea I don't say "we've got diarrhea" but HE'S got diarrhea.

Same bloody thing.

Fedupnagging · 14/09/2012 16:34

FB page for a 'bump' - obviously very advanced for his/her age Grin.

No YANBU, it makes me cringe when I hear 'we are pregnant/give birth'. I certainly didn't feel like my 3 pregnancies and pretty gruesome labours were a joint effort!

TroublesomeEx · 14/09/2012 16:47

We are having a baby - yes. Because we, as a couple, will be having a baby.

We are pregnant - no. Because men are not capable of being pregnant.

It's inaccurate and meaningless.

TwistyBraStrap · 14/09/2012 16:51

DP was not allowed to say "we are pregnant" unless he was part of the morning sickness, the indigestion, the backache, the inability to sleep, or (and this is the most important) the labour.

I did ask him if he could take the pregnancy off me for a few days so I could get some sleep and drink some Wine , sadly he declined due to "biological impossibility".

He was therefore not pregnant. Twat.

Obiwan · 14/09/2012 17:10

I left my one and only antenatal class after 10 minutes when one of the couples started telling everyone how the husband was suffering morning sickness, tiredness, swollen ankles etc. in sympathy with his wife.

Everyone else was cooing and 'poor you-ing', and it was all I could do not to throw up (I'd have risked asphixiating myself, what with my teeth being clenched in a homicidal grin).

I often wonder whether they made it to the end of their pregnancy still a couple, although his wife actually seemed to feel sorry for him.

amybelle1990 · 16/09/2012 17:57

Monster I do that too! It doesn't help that my DH needs to have regular ultrasounds due to his kidneys Grin

MardyArsedMidlander · 16/09/2012 18:17

I once was speaking to the husband of a pregnant wife, who said 'WE've decided not to have pain relief'. Mighty big of him when he was actually going to have any pain.....

scarletforya · 16/09/2012 18:25

It's cringeworthy! Reminds me of the type of bloke that pretends to be all 'sensitive new age guy' but in reality is a sappy, whipped secret misogynist.

BLEUUUURGH !!!!

AnaIsAlwaysShocked · 16/09/2012 18:37

DP used to tell people "we are breastfeeding" Hmm until I caught him and asked if he would like the masitis aswell.

HmmThinkingAboutIt · 16/09/2012 18:42

squoosh Fri 14-Sep-12 16:27:47
People who say 'we' are pregnant are knobs. Fact.

Correct. A male friend of mine has just had his facebook feed unsubscribed to since I'm fed up of 6 months 3 weeks of it and I'm about to explode if he does any more of this we business. Latest picture update today made me wince. Its due next week; I couldn't bare the next month of it and would say something rude.

Nice guy, just being a total knob on this.