Women who let their hair go grey

[CJ2010]

I don't understand why women, except the very old, say age 70 plus do not cover their grey hair?

I know a couple of women who have just turned 40 who are letting their grey come through and are just leaving it. It makes them
look so much older and washed out. I don't understand it really. I appreciate that some women are into the 'natural' look and are not fussed with make up and hair dye but I think by not having colour on your hair you age yourself dramatically.

Grey hair looks so wrong on younger women. AIBU?

My very first

Hair dye is not available on the open Market in Sweden. That's why you see more Swedish women with grey hair

really why not ? do women who do dye their hair have to get it from 'under a counter'

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I dyed my hair stupid colours for 20 years, now I'm 35, and have a few greys. I'm letting it go, the condition is great. Maybe I'll feel different once they're obvious to other people, but I don't think so.

I really dislike badly dyed hair, and you see so much of it! And people who have obviously been using the same colour since they were 25 and found their first grey, by the time they're 40 their skin tone has changed, and it looks wrong.

It is actually OK to look your age, you know!

what I want to know is what happens when you get to be 'very old' like 70 or something and then it's OK to be grey. Do you have to let the dyed stuff grow out and have 2 tone hair, or will you be forced to keep dying it and look odder and odder the older you get?

Everlong-if I´ve misunderstood, I apologise.

Your post read to me that women should have a reason to not dye their hair.

what I want to know is what happens when you get to be 'very old' like 70 or something and then it's OK to be grey

Old lady who used to live upstairs used to run out the door at 85 with RAVEN BLACK HAIR she was fabulous

Do you remember that gold-medalist gymnast a few weeks ago who was criticised by someone for not having good enough hair during the event?

Do you think the OP could be the very same vacuous pillock? She got pilloried for criticising a 16 year old gymnast, so she thought maybe it would be okay if she vacuously criticised women for looking "older" instead.

I am 42 and have curly, mid-brown hair which has been slowly going grey for a few years now. I have never dyed it and have never used straighteners on it, and rarely blow dry it. As a result, it's in good condition. Maybe it could look better if I did some or all of those things, but I don't give a toss. I like it relatively low maintenance and looking reasonable rather than spending a fortune in time and money to make it look great. And if I did, maybe my hair would look great but then what about the rest of me? I'd have to get a whole new wardrobe and start wearing makeup every day and so on.

Oh, and a neighbour complimented me on my highlights the other week. I think she was quite embarrassed when I said (without thinking) I hadn't got any. It was just the grey!

My hair started to grey in parts when I was 16. I did dye it for a while from 47ish when it was 'brindled' and it looked better and I know I looked younger and found a lovely man to marry. then I let it grow out, finding that it was white and looked distinguished. I think it depends on your hairstyle really and how many wrinkles you have and I have few wrinkles too.

When I used to get a few highlights (for fun - usually red), I told the hairdresser to leave the grey in (shiny silver) - I need the authority as I am quite youthful looking and have a fair few staff, some of whom did NOT appreciate a young wan being the boss.

Our family goes grey early, my gran used to dye hers until a couple of months ago but is now bedbound and can't (aged 93). Weekly hairdresser visits (every Friday afternoon). I can't be bothered.

Her daughters were all going grey by the time they were 20 and have all been dying ever since. They've all said to avoid it as long as possible, if we (the nieces) are happy with what we've got. The boys all allowed nature to happen, and it suits them.

My 3 sis's all colour theirs - as much for fashion as for covering grey - but all see the grey coming through in between times. I have a few shiny bits glistening through, but I like them. And I definitely don't think that they make me look old.

I'm sorry super it's my fault. I only read what I wanted to see and I missed the part about your cancer.

Oh, and despite the greys (have had a few for more than 20 years now), I was asked at the last set of elections if my mother or father were at home (was wearing a tracksuit as I answered door, as had just changed after work). That made my day at 36 and with a 5 year old!!

No diddl that's not what I meant.

I mean from the OP's pov where she thinks women in their 40's look older and washed out, apart from them liking their hair there could be other reasons why they don't dye it and people shouldn't judge.

That's what I meant

Apology accepted Everlong

thanks super

Personally I think the cut has more impact than the colour. A really good haircut can take off 10 years.

Anyway, what's with the criticising other women's look? I don't get it. Grey hair, dyed hair, too much make up, no make up, hot pants, leggings..... Why does it matter?

I love my silvery locks, every so often during an insecure moment I consider dyeing it but I'm glad to say my confidence quickly overrides that urge. I'd much rather embrace my grey than be a slave to hair dye...my natural streaks are far preferable to monotonal colour out of a bottle, risk of roots and looking like everyone else.

to op ?I don't care what you think about me. I don't think about you at all.?

― Coco Chanel

ignore '― my keyboard is playing up

Allergic to hair dye.
None of your damn business.

YABU

The only grey hairs I have are in a mallen streak, the rest is dark brown. I love the colour of the rest of my hair so I don't want to cover it all for the sake of one streak.

42 now, started going grey mid 20s. V dark brown hair. Can't be arsed dyeing it. I have better and more important things to do in my life.
I don't really give a shit what you think OP. I pity you that you have so little going on in your life that you feel the need to bitch about others appearance.
Now fuck off.

OP seems to have mistaken us all for people who give a shit.

The Bible refers to grey hair as "a crown of glory" and "the splendour of the old", both of which I very much like. I'm 47, with dark hair, that is now greying. Like wearing reading glasses, it's a natural part of the ageing process. I feel about it like I do about birthdays - I positively welcome it. As a cancer survivor, it feels like the most wonderful treat to be here, celebrating birthdays each year and ageing - it's lovely. I'm very happy if other women want to dye their hair any colour of the rainbow - terrific, but I wouldn't dream of it personally and think it's great to celebrate different stages of life.

I want to know...
WHY ARE MEN ALLOWED TO AGE AND WOMEN ARE NOT????