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Original poster

to think it's unnecessary to announce that you're clearing out your Facebook friends?

71 replies

autumnlights12 · 11/09/2012 08:57

yesterday evening a friend announced that she was having a friends clear out.
Sure enough, this morning she's defriended me. Which is fine, if a little annoying because of the prior announcement. Why do people announce their intention to do this? It grinds my gears.

OP posts:
Tweasels · 11/09/2012 09:05

Attention seeking? Or maybe just being nice by letting you know it wasn't just you so nothing personal etc.

redpanda13 · 11/09/2012 09:11

I have a friend who does this. It is so everyone contacts her or sucks up. I ignore it. She is a bit of an attention seeker in real life too.

Tweasels · 11/09/2012 09:16

Facebook is an excellent platform for attention seeking fuckwits.

thebeesnees79 · 11/09/2012 09:17

lmfao! One of the reasons I deleted my Facebook, its full of self important twats

Original poster
autumnlights12 · 11/09/2012 09:19

she only had about 80 friends, so not sure why it was necessary to post an announcement saying she was pruning her friends. If she had 300 friends, perhaps. I'm far too nosey to defriend anyone, but if I did, there wouldn't be a prior warning about it.

OP posts:
boredandrestless · 11/09/2012 09:19

It reminds me of mean little girls who announce in advance that they are having a birthday party but only 10 girls can go...

Pathetic.

Mrsjay · 11/09/2012 09:22

Attention seeking nonsense making herself more important than she actually is bet you are devastated you are not in her gang anymore Wink

GoldPedanticPanda · 11/09/2012 09:26

That bugs me a bit, but then maybe she didn't want anyone to take it personally so warned in advance. What really annoys me is when someone posts a status update about something big that's happened, or they're upset, broke up with OH, etc, and you always get bloody one replying 'ive pm'd you

CremeEggThief · 11/09/2012 09:27

What Tweasels said.

HairyPotter · 11/09/2012 09:27

I think I've only ever defriended a couple of people, but I certainly wouldn't have told them first. I did it in the sly and hoped they didn't notice Grin

pigletmania · 11/09/2012 09:29

Very immature, smacks schoolgirl playground behaviour. Nah nah your not my friend anymore. Just do it silently

Mrsjay · 11/09/2012 09:30

I defriened a really annoying person and they PMd me to ask why i said oh it must have been an accident and said i will refriend you I am such a wuss Grin I am still to re friend though

getmeoutofthismadhouse · 11/09/2012 09:33

Ive seen it where someone has announced a "clearout" then they get a lot of their friends commenting "i hope its not me , please keep me" bla bla then they reply "of course not , like I would get rid of you" . its all for them to get a bit of attention and to feel important !

Load of crap , FB is full of self centred attention seekers. I bet they don't even delete anyone

lottiegarbanzo · 11/09/2012 09:33

I've seen this 'I am reviewing my friends list, do you want to stay' message a few times and thought it was spam. Are you sure your friend wrote this message?

CharminglyOdd · 11/09/2012 09:35

I hate it. Meant to make everyone left feel 'special' whilst asserting the superiority of the person over those they have defriended. A friend once defriended me - I thought by accident as people I knew that she had fallen out with were still friends, whilst we got on well enough - and when I was readded (was much more naive 3 yrs ago and just added her back) she had left a lovely status update saying, "If you can read this then you are the chosen people and well done for being so great to me [paraphrase]". Basically congratulating them on their good taste in a friend. I wish I'd had the courage to defriend her instantly once read but I quite enjoy snooping on her life Blush

WhispersOfWickedness · 11/09/2012 09:36

Ooo, yes, this is annoying. I had a trim last week but didn't announce it. Not as annoying as those 'argh, i'm so upset/annoyed' ones followed by 'what's up?' comments, followed by the op saying 'will pm you hun' Hmm grr!!
As an aside, my iPod just tried to autocorrect hun to hub, so it's clearly a mner as well Grin

Bossybritches22 · 11/09/2012 09:38

Bit like on here when folks announce they're flouncing!

Gowan then .....why bother announcing it?!

Mrsjay · 11/09/2012 09:39

I am leaving threads really get on my wick to the point I want to post What you waiting for but i don't I just tsk

boredandrestless · 11/09/2012 09:43

Yes it is just like a MN flouncer awaiting suck ups and pleas of "on no, please don't". Hmm

FuckityFuckFuck · 11/09/2012 09:45

If I have a clear out, I put a message up afterwards saying 'well done for surviving, you all keep me amused' etc but if I delete someone, it's for a reason and they don't then get re-added

kiwimumof2boys · 11/09/2012 09:46

Attention seeking. I've had a few FB friends 'announcements' like that as status updates. What do they want me to do ? beg ?
Pathetic

PurplePidjin · 11/09/2012 09:46

I announced that I'd deleted someone recently, and it sparked a very interesting discussion.

In my defence, a) i didn't name them b) they know me (and dp) well enough to know I won't tolerate certain things c) they're old enough to know better and d) they posted a c+p status which was racist. Oh and e) i deleted them first.

I know that the next time i see them I'll be asked, and i will happily tell them exactly why face to face!

YANBU that "I'm having a clear out of my friends list" is akin to "look at me look at me la la la" Hmm

purplehouse · 11/09/2012 09:47

I have never understood facebook. It seems like an online version of Jeremy Kyle.

TapDancingPimp · 11/09/2012 09:49

I haven't the balls to de-friend, I just unsubscribe from their posts so I don't have to read their bullshit.

YANBU by the way.

OhTheConfusion · 11/09/2012 09:54

Ah I have a friend a bit like you Fuckity... that drives me nuts. I always want to reply that I am in no way lucky to be still listening to her nonsense.