to think it's unnecessary to announce that you're clearing out your Facebook friends?

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yesterday evening a friend announced that she was having a friends clear out.
Sure enough, this morning she's defriended me. Which is fine, if a little annoying because of the prior announcement. Why do people announce their intention to do this? It grinds my gears.

I had a quiet, unassuming cull a while ago, how anyone even noticed I have no idea as I very rarely post anything.

Within 24 hours a particularly annoying cullee had messaged me with "I just noticed we have have disappeared off each other's friends list. Is everything ok?"

How the frick did she "just notice" I hadn't bloody been on there?!

FB is bonkers.

My sister does this, but after she's had a clear out - she'll post things like "Just had another clear out, congratulations to those that survived the cull"

FB is bonkers.

so true

I have experienced similar to Cumberdick a friend did a clear out and then posted "If you can read this, you are one of the lucky ones" .... so I deleted her.

TBH i am getting bored of the whole facebook thing and hardly post on it but am too nosey to de activate my account

Announcing that you are about to or have deleted friends is unbearably self important and attention seeking and I wouldn't stay friends with someone who did. Purple and Fuckity, I don't see the distinction you make about announcing it after the fact being any sort of improvement on announcing it before.

read this, you are one of the lucky ones" .... so I deleted her.

It's the attitude of "I'm so fucking awesome and you're really lucky to have me as a friend". Ugh.

I bloody hate losing a friend though and taking ages to work out who it was, because I have a lot of friends in a lot of different circles. At least if they admit it, I can go back later and check and know.

Mine was along the lines of "Pidj hates it when someone she thought was ok posts racist shite. Now unfriended :( " so not quite the same as in the op

I want DS1 (13) to have a clearout. Can you just cancel people without them knowing?

YANBU, I remember a couple of 'Friends' would put.
''Well done if you can read this, you're still on my Friends list''

I'm glad I got rid of Facebook. I too am very nosey but if you stay away you really do realise what a pile of crap it all is (sorry to anyone who enjoys Facebook)

My DH went to a posher school than me and his friend list is full of self-important twats showing off their wonderful, amazing lives at every opportunity.

I have deleted & blocked people. They were utter bitches & I'm glad I no longer see their nasty spiteful attention seeking venom. And breathe!

Sparkling, the only way they'd know is if they noticed. They don't get told they're deleted (apart from when knobbers post that they're culling...)

I did see someone put 'I am having a clearout, let me know if you want to stay'.

Thanks Purple-I will get DS to sort it.

If anybody on my friends list feels they don't want to listen to my ramblings or don't feel they are 'lucky' to still be on my list then they can delete me.

Funnily enough, the people on my facebook share the same sense of humor as me and don't get so wound up about what is essentially a way of wasting time in the evenings

Ha! After reading this I though of an attention-seeking girl I know and she's unfriended me! I'm pleased I haven't had to read her self-indulgence for a long time (complete with horrendously amateur "photoshoots") but disappointed I didn't get there first!

There are only so many rants at people for not attending her god awful parties you can stomach!

I had someone on my FB friends list announce that anyone who didn't like/comment on their posts/photos/status updates regularly clearly didn't care about them or their perfect family enough to remain on their friends list, and as such they'd be getting rid of them . Translation - if you don't suck up to me enough, you're not worthy of being on my list.

Maybe you could have volunteered to be defriended? A bit like voluntary redundancy but without the cash? Would really piss them off too.

Its difficult to know what to do. I recently quietly edited my friends list and then heard that one of them was upset with me!

I don't know why people do this, unless the person they're defriending has done something offensive, rude or very silly. If you add someone, why would you then remove them a few years later? Why not just block their feed? It's odd.

I've volunteered to be defriended but they always assume I'm joking..... I find it really difficult to get rid of the drama queens as they provide me with far too much entertainment I don't have a tellybox so no JK for me How would I know who's friends with who at the school and who's sleeping with people's husbands without the great Book of Face?

Once every few months or so I carefully assess my friends list, and de-friend anyone who I've perhaps not spoken to in years (nothing personal), unless the person was very interesting. I do it without ceremony and haven't had any PMs or complaints. I have been deleted by people too. I have a moment of "hmm, I wonder why?" and then don't really care. What irritates me more than de-friending actually, is when someone you vaguely knew from school adds you, frequently comments on and likes your posts, but then ignores you when you see them in real life! Grr!

I try and keep my list under 50, it's only family and close friends on there so I don't see too much of the drama. Or maybe I just don't know any drama llamas?

For the sake of peace I have hidden one persons account because he drives me bloody nuts, other than that I see everyone elses boring updates about F1, geeky phone stuff and wrestling.