To want to get pregnant again RIGHT NOW!!

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Even though DH wants to wait?

We just had DS 8 months ago, and I said we would wait till DS was 2 before trying again. But now it looks like I will be changing jobs when my current contract is up (beginning of 2014), and where we live (Middle East) I need to be with the company 1 year before I can get maternity leave at full pay. (DH is going to Uni, so I'm the breadwinner). So that means no pregnancy till end of 2014 at the earliest. If we get pregnant right now the baby would be born next summer (when DH is off of school) and I'd have time to have maternity leave and go back to work and look for a new job before current contract is up.

Also, I'll be 34 in 2014, and well that isn't too old, I was internally planning for 3 so having #2 at 34 would push #3 till past 35, which increases risks blah blah blah.

Anywhoo, DH is totally against it and says I'm pressuring him. :(

"I'm afraid YABU. And 34 isn't old to have #2. I was 34 a month after DS1 was born and I had DS2 at 37."

What wonderful innocence! Getting pregnant definitely gets more difficult the older you get. While some people might just get pregnant at 34/37, others may not.

You don't know what is going to happen in the future, so you and DH need to have a proper discussion about timing and why you both want to wait or not wait, so you can come to a decision together. Being pushed into waiting (and perhaps not getting pregnant again) or being pushed into having a baby sooner aren't great ideas, so I hope you can come to some sort of plan that you can both be happy with.