To think it isn't normal to eat like this?

[2MumsAreBetterThan1]

Had a relative over for tea today aalong with her 9 year old daughter.

Served quite a large tea for a child as overcooked so at 6pm she ate (the 9 year old) a whole chicken breast, 6 boiled potatoes,.2 Yorkshire puddings and a large scoop each of cabbage, green beans, carrots and peas. She ate it all along with 2 slices of bread.

At 6.40 gave her pudding, just her as adults were too full to eat it , she ate all that and asked for more. Her plate was repeatedly filled with cheesecake until she had polished off a full cake designed to serve 6 .

By 7.30 she was complaining of hunger so her mum gave her a full pack of crackers (the big pack of Jacobs ones) all of which she ate.

At 8.15ish the adults were having a drink so got some nibbles out. doritoes, dips, mixed nuts, crisps and some cheese and crackers. She helped herself to these as well .

They left at 9pm by which point she was again complaining of hunger and her mum said I'll make you toast when we get in.

Needless to say she is overweight, now my daughter is a faddy eater so hard to compare but surely that's an excessive amount of food for a child?

No health issues, mum said she's always loved her food. Seemed to me like she was eating out of boredom a few times.

Very good point, indeed (and apologies for the tangent).
At that I will toss in a and leave.

Exactly Diddl

Downton, I think the dog has had more than enough. You can put your biscuits away.

Diddl _ she filled her own plate. I know she ate her own piece and another guest saw her eat the second piece her mum gave her. A few people saw her going back inside and getting more but she says she gave it the dog.

She has no reason to lie, she is in more trouble for feeding the dog! To all who asked yes dog seems fine. If i had of known what he ate earlier he would have been straight to the vet but seems to have had no ill affects thank god.

To the poster who commented, of course she was told off, she is 9 which is quite old enough to know not to feed the dog and to not ignore me when i said no.

My own children are younger and know to not feed the dog anything.

And the other poster who asked, as i said earlier yes she was ignored and left to her own devices really and yes she was most likely bored. This was an ADULT meal and evening and my own children had gone to grandparents for the night. Her mums babysitter backed out and so brought her along.

I gave her a meal, free access to my childrens toys and put a film on for her. Considering i was busy cooking, cleaning, refilling drinks etc. i think that was more than enough and that it wasn't my responsibly. She isn't my child to entertain on a busy night.

So no one saw her eat more than 2 pieces?

I really don't know Diddl.

I didn't see anymore than that but after she and her mum had gone i noticed it all gone and in a group conversation i asked what they thought of it.

Everyone there hadn't had any at all and a few people said x seemed to have a lot, or they saw x getting some, x eating some etc.

I've not really discussed it in great detail to see if the pieces people saw her eat were the same as me as i have no reason to disbelieve her explanation.

What do we learn from this thread?

1. Nine year olds are children;
2. Children get bored at adult parties even if the hostess is thoughtful enough to put a DVD on;
3. Children sometimes don?t do as they?re told ? even the good ones;
4. When they?ve had a couple of drinks, adults don?t always pay close attention to what children are up to, even if they are their mothers;
5. When adults aren?t watching, children sometimes get up to mischief;
6. Many children lie when caught getting up to mischief;
7. Children generally like cheesecake;
8. Children generally like dogs;
9. Dogs generally like cheesecake;
10. The term ?puppy-dog eyes? is widely understood to be the expression dogs make when trying to get something;
11. Most children, and even some adults, find this look impossible to resist no matter what they've been told;
12. Dogs making puppy-dog eyes are more persuasive than a roomful of tipsy, gossiping adults even if the cheesecake is meant for everyone;
13. Children and dogs are terrible judges of what?s good for them;
14. Sensible adults pay attention to what children are up to and if their attention wanders don?t try to blame them for behaving like children;
15. Nice adults don?t gossip about a child when she and her mum have gone home and then go on the internet inviting more comments on her weight, eating habits and general behaviour.

If nice adults don't talk about children online and their health, this website is screwed!

The child was very greedy and her Mum should have kept a better eye on her. What makes the greediness even worse is the fact that the girl shouldn't have even been there. It was kind of the op to give the girl a meal but taking so much was out of order.

Agree lurking

It is a lot, I agree - but while my DS doesn't eat anywhere near that amount, he does eat a lot at tea time as he hardly has anything during the day - his choice - I give him lunch and offer snacks at regular intervals, he just seems to prefer to eat that way (he does have SN, so that is probably the reason in his case IYSWIM)

It was kind of OP to give her a meal? Basic manners not kindness IMO. The child was a bit naughty but shouldn't have been there, you take your child, you entertain your child or at least watch them. Everything Limited said.