To think it isn't normal to eat like this?

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Had a relative over for tea today aalong with her 9 year old daughter.

Served quite a large tea for a child as overcooked so at 6pm she ate (the 9 year old) a whole chicken breast, 6 boiled potatoes,.2 Yorkshire puddings and a large scoop each of cabbage, green beans, carrots and peas. She ate it all along with 2 slices of bread.

At 6.40 gave her pudding, just her as adults were too full to eat it , she ate all that and asked for more. Her plate was repeatedly filled with cheesecake until she had polished off a full cake designed to serve 6 .

By 7.30 she was complaining of hunger so her mum gave her a full pack of crackers (the big pack of Jacobs ones) all of which she ate.

At 8.15ish the adults were having a drink so got some nibbles out. doritoes, dips, mixed nuts, crisps and some cheese and crackers. She helped herself to these as well .

They left at 9pm by which point she was again complaining of hunger and her mum said I'll make you toast when we get in.

Needless to say she is overweight, now my daughter is a faddy eater so hard to compare but surely that's an excessive amount of food for a child?

No health issues, mum said she's always loved her food. Seemed to me like she was eating out of boredom a few times.

Of course the mother should have put her foot down, but the OP has a responsibility too, who the hell serves one child a cheesecake to feed 6?
Hardly unreasonable to take it away from the table, or to say no you can't have any more you have had 2 /3/4/5 slices?
Sometimes you have to step in if there is irresponsible parenting, it can be done quite discreetly.

Perhaps the little girl has prader-willi syndrome.

Well yes-"there´s one slice each & you´ve had yours"

The child had already eaten a good meal-so didn´t need anymore cheesecake to sustain her until she went home!

Completely agree Everlong. I think the majority of people in this situation would just say "we'll have to leave some cake for everyone else". I feel sorry for the kid being allowed to stuff her face like this. I think most kids given half the chance would eat bowl after bowl of cake or ice cream etc but most responsible adults wouldn't allow it to happen

Will people stop banging on about Prader fecking Willi! It's horribly ignorant. PW is a rare and specific syndrome of which insatiability is only a very small part.

My niece started her periods at that age and before she is due can eat t like that ( same as me)

Perhaps her mum knew and didn't want to embarrass her

Bloody hell, a whole cheesecake?
I bought DD one for her birthday last week, I didn't bother with it, as I don't have a sweet tooth.
I think it was to serve 4?, but could have been 6, Tesco Finest New York Cheesecake anyway.
She ate it all herself, I allowed her free reign, and it took her 5 days.
And she's a typical kid who will eat/does like sugary crap.

Thank you princess this is driving me mad. PW is genetic and complex and rare. If this child had it, there would be other signs. What is not rare is a child who eats too much and parents without boundaries around it.

Thanks everlong. My dp has prader-willi. It took years to be diagnosed. I know what I'm talking about thank you very much.

I don't think the OP should be vilified for allowing the child to eat the cheesecake, although in her position I wouldn't have allowed it.

The Mother really needs to look at her dds diet though.

Thanks again everlong. That's right, I'm not saying it is for sure either as obviously I don' t know these people. It was just a suggestion.

Thanks my lovely. I'm not trying to offend, it's just an unusual amount of food and alarms bells rung. I hope this child hasn't got it or any other health probs as I know what a despairing and progressive illness it is.

I think its a bit unfair to take a pop at the OP about letting the girl eat the whole cheesecake.

Most people work to social norms i.e. eating one slice so if someone in my house as my guest decided to tuck into the whole lot with their mother present I'm not sure what my reaction would be, shocked silence most likely and then a run off to mumsnet just like the OP.

No it isn't normal and you need to speak to the mother.

OK then, not ignorant. Would you prefer hysterical instead? I just do not find it at all appropriate or necessary to start chucking armchair diagnoses around at an NT child who ate an excessive amount of food on one single occasion.

I have been in this situation before with a friend and their dc. It didn't get to the extremes of the OP's though as I am not shy about saying no to other people's kids.

Slices of bread with a big cooked dinner wouldn't have been put out, and each person would have been welcome to a slice of cheesecake, but not the whole bloody thing!!

Did the mother have a packet of crackers in her bag? That's a bit odd. To be honest, it's all odd. The meal, the cheesecake, the snacks after dinner.

Some information about pws if anyone is interested. There are usually more symptoms than over eating

I am loving how the Op id at fault for not restricting the child.
Cab just imagine the thread if she had and her friend is a mnet.
'went to friends house for tea and she told my child she had eaten too much and was being selfish.....'
Its not up to the OP to monitor the child when the parents are there.