To be upset about my Dad offering...

[katykuns]

to sponsor me to lose weight?

I saw him a couple of weeks ago, he lives far away from me, so I see him a couple of times per year. I am very overweight and I have struggled to lose it, but am very slowly losing it since having my daughter in May. Today I received this:

Dear xxxxx,

I hope you won't be offended by this email, but I want to suggest a plan for you that might help you to lose weight. Please remember that I love you whatever happens, because you are very beautiful inside and out and a delightful daughter and mother.

How about if I sponsor you to lose weight? £100 to start the programme and then £100 for every half stone you lose. At the end I will send you and XXX on a holiday somewhere in the sun, so you can relax together and we will look after the children for you?

I have been on a diet that I can stick to.... for the last 4 weeks and have already lost a stone. It is specially designed for people who love food and it is do-able. Basically you eat what you like for 2 days and on the third day you have only 500 - 600 calories. We call it a starve day and it is quite hard to do at first, but you just think, never mind I'll have the take away tomorrow. We eat one slice of toast with a scraping of low fat spread for breakfast. 200 cals lunch at about 2pm, 200 cals tea at about 7pm and a packet of weight watchers crisps or 3 rich tea biscs at bedtime. On the eating days you have to make sure not to binge, but can still eat all the nice foods. You need to think about the calories in what you drink, so on starve days it has to be tea etc.. without milk or diet drinks and on the other days still sensible about drinks.

Please don't be hurt by my suggestion, I know how hard it is to keep weight under control and I'd like to try and help you be fitter and healthier.

Love Dad x

I am now feeling a bit upset and confused as to what to do. I am also having this image that they saw me the other week and remarked on how bad I looked weightwise.
However, I am also very tempted to say yes, as we need money, and I have a feeling that it may actually keep me on 'task'. And then I feel conflicted because I feel I shouldn't take their money, and that I should just lose weight because I want to be fit and healthy.

Basically I am just a fat idiot :/

appearance obsessed loser" lovebunny* ????

Did you read the letter in the OP???

Good luck OP I hope it goes really well for you.

My brother (who isn't massively overweight but wants to lose a stone or two) has been doing this 5:2 thing for four weeks. After three weeks he had lost nearly a stone.

It might work for you. But Slimming World or similar will probably be better - you'll be more focused on day-to-day eating rather than thinking about what you can't eat on two particular days.

I don't think your Dad's email was mean, it came from the right place. Good on you for taking him up on it. You've got some weight to lose, you'll feel better for it, you will be healthier and as an added bonus you'll get some money that you can perhaps spend on clothes or a holiday. Good luck :)

Your dad sounds lovely. Yes it hurts to be told you're fat, but you already know you are, do what's the big deal in that. It's probably the only way he can think he can help you - and we all know how annoying it is when we see someone we love not helping themselves

Luke you, I am fat and my dad tells me so- but after he's had a drink and says "you're getting fat again".

Take him up on his offer.

Oh, I'm sure you were a bit shocked when you received it, but it's a very sweet thought really. I wish my parents would do something similar. My Mum's a feeder... I find it very difficult to fight these days.

The diet's a bit crap though. I think the intermittent diet would be better (there was a thread on it recently). I will try it when I stop BFing.

You're not a fat idiot though. I bet you're lovely. I'm the fat idiot around here. Good luck. Hope you will keep us posted.