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to think they could have said sooner?

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OhTheConfusion · 03/09/2012 23:17

DH is currently working away from home. He was discussing accomodation with a workmate 8 weeks ago and said he was going to book a weekend down in July to view rooms to let etc with a view to move in on Sep 2nd (yesterday). Workmate responded that he and DW were a bit hard up and have a spare room he could let for £300pcm. Excellent. DH said that was ideal, and caught a flight there yesterday afternoon.

Tonight DH handed the workmate an envelope with £300 in it for rent. Workmate responded that he is really sorry but he hadn't mentioned the arrangement to his DW and his DW had managed to get extra hours at work and they no longer need a lodger so how about they just call it £50 and DH finds somewhere else tomorrow!!!

I have just booked DH a hotel for a few nights until we can arrange for him to view rooms. God knows how long references etc will take and how big the hotel bill will end up :( It's already roughly a weeks rent for a room for one night!

AIBU to feel annoyed?

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CoolaSchmoola · 03/09/2012 23:20

YANBU - your DH's workmate is an inconsiderate arse!

At the very least they could (should?) have let him stay until he found somewhere else!

LaurieFairyCake · 03/09/2012 23:21

Isn't there Travel lodges close - rooms for £19 in advance?

What a pain though.

aleene · 03/09/2012 23:21

That is really poor behaviour on your DH's workmate's part. And still charging £50 for one night? I would have put him up for free as an apology!

ripsishere · 03/09/2012 23:24

Agree, YADNBU. Workmate should have told your DH in advance and should be providing free board and lodging until something else is sorted out.
Morally your DHs workmate is a twunt.

DoMeDon · 03/09/2012 23:24

Call it 50??? Surely his workmate will let him stay a while for free due to MASSIVE inconvenience and fact he is NOT thier lodger. I'd rather pay for a hotel then stay with them TBH.

wanderingalbatross · 03/09/2012 23:24

At £300pcm, £50 should cover 5 nights!!

The workmate is very rude, hope your DH finds somewhere quick :)

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OhTheConfusion · 03/09/2012 23:25

The £50 was for last night and tonight... he is also on the lounge floor as they had not cleared out the spare room!

Nearest travel lodge is 22miles away from work and £58 a night as not a great advanced deal. Have got him a b&b for £65 a night close to work for the next 3 nights hoping something comes up SOONSad

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OhTheConfusion · 03/09/2012 23:27

I honestly can't believe he has been so selfish. DH is only working away as we can't afford for him to give up that job so extra expenses are a real pita!

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DoMeDon · 03/09/2012 23:28

Get the 50 back anyway you can. I suggest rifling for their best silver.

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OhTheConfusion · 03/09/2012 23:28

Dome, I think DH feels beyond unwelcome so is desperate to go :(

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McHappyPants2012 · 03/09/2012 23:29

is there any youth hostel

www.yha.org.uk/places-to-stay

CoolaSchmoola · 03/09/2012 23:30

Where is he in case anyone here knows of anything?

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OhTheConfusion · 03/09/2012 23:31

I would be surprised if the cheap sod's have any silver.
DH called tonight from the local park where he was eating fish and chips as they sat down to tea and didn't ask if he needed to cook etc.

I am getting to the angry tears stage!

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OhTheConfusion · 03/09/2012 23:32

He is in Exeter, well near but would out myself to be more specific.

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DoMeDon · 03/09/2012 23:32

That is really dreadful. I cannot understand some people's thought process (or lack thereof). His workmate is a thoughtless twonk at best.

LaurieFairyCake · 03/09/2012 23:33

Post which town it's in - a mumsnetter might have a good idea of a place.

CassCade · 03/09/2012 23:33

I certainly would be very angry. The crap wife has obviously said she doesn't want your OH staying with them and the work "mate" has been too embarrassed to tell your OH this before he arrived. Incredible behaviour... and then to charge £50 for staying for one night!!! Incredible.
Have you tried phoning some little B and B places? Phone a few, ask if they can do any kind of a discount for a long term stay (obviously I have no idea how long your OH needs to be staying)! Good luck. And send the arseholes the hotel bill.

LaurieFairyCake · 03/09/2012 23:33

X posted - hope there's a munsnetter in Exeter.

DoMeDon · 03/09/2012 23:33

That's just fucking RUDE! I hate rude. I have to go to bed now but I hope your situation improves Wine

MammaTJisWearingGold · 03/09/2012 23:37

60miles away but he can have my sofa if he needs it/it would help!

CassCade · 03/09/2012 23:37

Try independent B and B's not travelodges, they are more flexible. Have been in a similar situation, got a good deal...

kim147 · 03/09/2012 23:37

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CassCade · 03/09/2012 23:39

Is his work not paying for his travel expenses? Or at least part of them?

hippoCritt · 03/09/2012 23:39

Have you tried spare room .com? Sorry had to put spaces in because of autocorrect