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to think they could have said sooner?

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OhTheConfusion · 03/09/2012 23:17

DH is currently working away from home. He was discussing accomodation with a workmate 8 weeks ago and said he was going to book a weekend down in July to view rooms to let etc with a view to move in on Sep 2nd (yesterday). Workmate responded that he and DW were a bit hard up and have a spare room he could let for £300pcm. Excellent. DH said that was ideal, and caught a flight there yesterday afternoon.

Tonight DH handed the workmate an envelope with £300 in it for rent. Workmate responded that he is really sorry but he hadn't mentioned the arrangement to his DW and his DW had managed to get extra hours at work and they no longer need a lodger so how about they just call it £50 and DH finds somewhere else tomorrow!!!

I have just booked DH a hotel for a few nights until we can arrange for him to view rooms. God knows how long references etc will take and how big the hotel bill will end up :( It's already roughly a weeks rent for a room for one night!

AIBU to feel annoyed?

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OhTheConfusion · 04/09/2012 13:30

DH has just called and said the wife was rude from the second he arrived. I really hope she chokes on her sweets now Angry

Have found a b&b near his work (well 8 miles but not too bad) and near the train station. Have booked him in for a week to give him time to view rooms. The b&b would be £992 a month plus travel, we can't afford that long term :( he would be better taking a job that pay's £££ less at home. Sadly no matter how many he applies for were getting nowhere :( :( :(

Thank you all for being so kind.

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DanyTargaryen · 04/09/2012 13:32

We'll call it £50? For one night? A night he also had to eat his dinner in the park??? I hope your DH gave him £0!

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OhTheConfusion · 04/09/2012 13:35

The £50 was for 2 nights, Sun and Mon. DH left this morning. I think he was so shocked he just went with it.

Its hard enough him being away without him being away and homeless :(

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MissKeithLemon · 04/09/2012 13:39

Confusion - just to add a point about private B&B's for you. At this time of year they may be able to offer a deal for an extended stay now the 'high' season is all but over. Worth mentioning it while you're calling round. My friend has a B&B in a touristy area, and they offer a contractors rate out of season. (About £180 p/w) and she lets them keep that room even on days they visit home then.

peeriebear · 04/09/2012 13:41

Wow, I am truly stunned at their sheer gall and rudeness. They accepted your gifts too Shock If you're not going to keep their 'friendship' anyway I'd certainly be tempted to phone them and tear them a new arsehole. Your poor DH having to eat his dinner in the park :( Cunts.

geegee888 · 04/09/2012 13:49

That is one of the rudest, most grasping, unwelcoming things I have ever heard! And they're overcharging him and making money out of him at £50 for two nights stuck on a loung floor with no cooking facilities! Hope your DH gets something sorted soon.

WandaDoff · 04/09/2012 14:13

Disgusting behaviour.

Tell DH to make sure that the office gossip gets wind of it.

MissKeithLemon · 04/09/2012 14:14

Grin Wanda

DameEnidSpink · 04/09/2012 14:18

What a horrid "workmate" and wife.

Nothing to add, other than to give you a pat on the back hug cos it is horrid when you're the one left at home, doubly so, knowing that he is unhappy

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OhTheConfusion · 04/09/2012 14:28

You are all so lovely, I just keep crying. I hate him being away and knowing he is so miserable is horrid. Just thinking about them makes my blood boil!!!

Thanks for all the b&b tips but we really can't afford more than £350 a month as we still have a home to pay for her too :(

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nippysweetie82 · 04/09/2012 14:38

Could he put an advert up in window of a local shop? He might be lucky and get someone local who would let out a spare bedroom on a short term basis and at a fraction of the cost of a b&b. You could try posting on gumtree for him too.
Hope he finds something soon.

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OhTheConfusion · 04/09/2012 14:43

I will put an add on Gumtree now, thanks.

DH has sent an email round work asking if anyone ls letting a room as he is currently in a b&b due to being let down by new landlord! I am rather proud!

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sheeplikessleep · 04/09/2012 14:46

Has he asked around at work if anyone (else) wants to let out a room or knows anyone who wants to let out a room?

Fingers crossed for a speedy room find for your dh.

sheeplikessleep · 04/09/2012 14:46

oops x-post!

kim147 · 04/09/2012 14:50

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3monkeys3 · 04/09/2012 14:56

What horrible people - I am stunned.

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OhTheConfusion · 04/09/2012 14:57

I sure hope so. I just want to give him a big hug and can't :(

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Spuddybean · 04/09/2012 15:41

What is wrong with people. I have never heard anything like it - what with this thread and the vomit on the ds's bedroom - i am Shock at peoples conduct.

Also, like the other thread, it just gets worse. How dare they accept all the thank you treats. Wtf did they think they were for? How dare they ask for £50 for 2 shitty nights on the sofa. They are they type of people who won see anything wrong in this tho, while stuffing their faces with nice sweeties.

I am furious on your behalf. My DP often has to work away and i hate it. So the thought of someone fucking him about too would make me incandescent. I would be tempted to send them an email.

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butisthismyname · 04/09/2012 15:44

I cannot understand people like this at all. Horrible, grasping nasty yuk

Binkyridesagain · 04/09/2012 15:50

Yanbu at all, I hope karma bites them in the ass!

DH is a contractor, in April he had to work in Dartford ( we live up north) because of the costs of hotels and b&bs and all expenses where paid for by us, he decided to camp instead even then it cost £20-£25 per night.

Another way DH would reduce expenses was asking for a discount at the b&bs because he wouldn't be eating breakfast. He would eat it at work instead.

UniS · 04/09/2012 15:51

Exeter university may still have rooms to rent till end of student holidays.
vmkineticsweb01.ex.ac.uk/kxbnb/

I'd expect a fair bit of churn on accommodation as students arrive/ depart in next month. NOT being a student will be in your DH's favor with some landlords. Some holiday flats in the coastal towns and pretty villages will start being advertised for 6 month winter lets soon.

Adversecamber · 04/09/2012 15:58

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bogeyface · 04/09/2012 16:10

I would email them asking for a return of the gifts as they are clearly not the kind and generous people you thought they were!

LivingInAGoldBubble · 04/09/2012 21:24

Was going to suggest contacting the uni too, I went to Exeter and my family stayed in uni accommodation even when term started, they had a couple of flats etc. I have a couple of friends who live that way still, will ask them for ideas.

Nanny0gg · 04/09/2012 21:43

It's clear the work'mate' thought it was a good idea, but forgot to mention it to his wife. But irrespective of how cross she was there was no need to be so rude.
I hope everyone at work finds out.

I'm sure if they do something better will turn up.

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