to be getting pissed of with my friend

[msnaughty]

she comes round my house and she helps me out alot. she is an ace friend. her humour is very dry mine can be to. she swear alot i do to sometimes. everyone including the kids will get into a swearing match. such as. slag,fucker,bitch, hoe, and so on. when my 5 year said cunt she had a rigth go at him saying its a really bad word and he shoudl say that. but its ok for her to say fucker and all the other things and she seems to think my kids should now the difference between cunt and fucker.

and today everyone was messing about flicking hair bands at each other. so my 5 year old started doing it to. and she said if he can dish it out he can take it. if he flicks me i will flick him back and if he gets hurt its his own fault. she will start theses things then when she has has enough she has a go at everyone.

I feel sorry for your children because if they behave the way she does, swearing etc they are going to get into a lot of trouble at school. You seem to care and are aware that your friends behaviour is terrible. She may be a good friend to you in your opinion but she is horrible to your poor children. Have a good clear out of your friendship group and put the children at the very top of your priorities. They need to not be around her.

onlynice: i have been thinking about things since this thread, i have been moaning about her alot lately i have a couple of threads o here monaing about the same friend. she does this swearig thing round the kids, she moans about my daughters friends that i should keep my dd away from them as they are no good. she says my dd's bf is trouble because of the sarky remarks he comes out with. wich are in responce to her sarky commets. then there was how she wanted my dd home to keep her dd company and tried to get my dd into trouble with me. its lots of things that are building up.

She sounds a nightmare. Im surprised you haven't dumped her a long time ago.

She seems very controlling actually, dont let her bring you or your children down. Start again with your children and ban swearing, it's never too late to set a good example. I don't mean to sound all preachy but they will thank you for it in the future. Hope it all gets sorted out for you and your family

Your friend is a Jeremy Kyle reject.

onlynice: thats what i thought i would do. going to tell the kids no swearing because swear words make me sad and nice words make me happy. and explain when they are not swearing they talk really nicely etc etc...

im hoping things will change now the kids are going back to school as well as friend wont come up so much so it will be easyer to get things started with a few rule changes.

Seriously?

You don't need a reason for her not to come round so much, just tell her not to come!

Can you move house? She sounds dreadful.

I have friends who are much less trouble and far more mature, and I still don't like them for various reasons. I would seriously have nothing to do with someone like your friend.

She sounds like a complete idiot.

And it's not mandatory to let your kids swear - I swear a fair bit, mostly in humour but sometimes not, and mine do try and copy me and I tell them it isn't appropriate - and acknowledge it is wrong for me to do it.

It is something I need to work on. But mine rarely do it and know it's not a good thing.

'..although while the point is in debate, I hate the idea of a word for female genitalia being the absolute worst thing you can call someone'.

CakemeI'myours - agree with you wholeheartedly! I always say it is something warm that gives pleasure - why should it be an insult!

However -speechless at having a swearing competition in front of a five year old, and then turning on him because he wins!