about neighbours smoking in the garden.

[Solola]

Quite possibly I am, but it seems like every time I hang my washing out then 5 min later neighbour is having a fag in her garden. Our gardens are only about 5 metres wide so my clean washing ends of smelling of cigarette smoke. So does my house if windows open.

I appreciate she doesn't want her own house smelling and that's why she's in the garden but AIBU in thinking this is anti social behaviour??

Oh dear god honey, tell me that's some sort of joke.

Nah YANBU

Smoking should be banned outright. Nasty disgusting habit.

Do you really HATE smokers porky ? ie everyone who smokes full stop. Or do you hate smoking? I am genuinely asking as i wonder how people can feel so strongly about it. I can see it as annoying but i don't think i would blanket hate every one who did it.

It's not a joke at all, I really believe it's dangerous and wanted them to know it's not just us being fussy, I'm not bothered about the noisy parties they have or the stuff they leave in the hallway, before I was pregnant I wasn't worried about the smoke but now it really bothers worries me.

Um, OK, I hate smoking.

But I reserve the right to hate strangers that smoke especially the silly bint at Carluccio's today at the adjoining table that smoked all over me and my kids.

Also I bet the reason she 'seems' to go for one after you've hung the washing is that she feels awkward smoking in her garden while sensing all the pursed lipped disapproval, so she'll wait until OP has gone in.

If you open your windows, you smell stuff and hear stuff. Rates of cancer due to passive smoking set against 'people who ever smell cigarettes' must be fairly low, on the whole.

Honey That's true, but every time you sit by an open fire or step outside in an area with heavy traffic you have the same issue.

Even if you go to the middle of nowhere where there is no man made pollution, there will be background radiation from the rocks. Even a single wave of this radioactivity can cause cell mutations leading to cancer.

There are plenty of things that are dangerous in this world, you can't avoid them all. I do understand the argument that cigarette smoke is 'preventable' but then so is traffic pollution, as is that from power stations and factories.

Where do you draw the line?

that makes more sense to me porky :)

I'm heavily pregnant and bloke sat next to me outside the library (despite ther being 3 other empty benches) and lit up. I was surprised to say the least.

YABU as the majority have already said.

I'm also a bit surprised at honey in sending DH round with leaflets to neighbours. Did it go down well?

I draw the line at breathing other peoples smoke in my own home. I understand the world is full of dangers but they protect their home from smoke by closing the windows our home should have the same respect.

I think there is much more danger from second hand smoke than radiation from rocks and we live in an extremely clean place in terms of air pollution.

Well while you're drawing the line, shut your windows then. Win win.

It works great they tell us if they arr going to have a party and the rest of the time they go outside in the yard far away from the houses.

Maybe you could strike a bargain- you hang out your washing in the morning and they only smoke in the evening? Anyway, it'll be winter soon and probably neither of you will be spending inordinate amounts of time outside!

I smoke outside but there are fences and trees in the way.

Yabvvvvu it's not illegal, it's on their property and land

Some people you think are smoking real cigs might just be having herbal ones. I sometimes do. They're not harmful.

Don't forget - we massively subsidise you non smokers. 90 billion in revenue a year from smokers - only 9 billion goes into the NHS .... where does the other 90% go? We die early and don't draw our pensions..Benefits 10 fold over for you non smoker by us smoker

Back to the OP, unless you've got a nose like a blood hound, your washing will not smell of smoke from 15 feet away - mine doesnt smell of BBQ smoke from 5 doors away, gushing for 2 hours.

A little bit of anti-smoking hysteria as per usual

Ok, so it seem pretty unanimous that IABU!

I do like my neighbour and I understand that she has every right to relax and enjoy her own garden. I know smoking is not illegal, but it is antisocial in some circumstances and I was wondering if this is one of them.

I don't think she does it on purpose and I am sure we may annoy her in other ways, children playing in the garden might be one example.

I have just spent the summer getting so frustrated that all our clean clothes smell of cigarette smoke. I can't afford to run the tumble drier all the year round and don't have space indoors during the holidays while DC at home to dry it all inside.

I'd prefer her to smoke outside her front door (by the road) rather than back door but I think, from the response I've had here that I'd be being rather unreasonable to ask.

(That's a roll up, OK, not a joint!)

I'd prefer her to smoke outside her front door (by the road)

how about you put your washing out front?

If it's any consolation (and it's probably not!), I live in a terrace too and one of my neighbours used to smoke joints in their back yard, several a day - firing up at about 10am and finishing off with a night cap at 11pm or so. Now that really stinks.

Ah this is why I love living a quarter of a mile away from my nearest neighbour! I can be Smokey McSmokerson to my hearts content in my garden and not have to worry about offending anyone with my stench.

Sometimes I prance and smoke.

I do get filthy looks from the ladies next door, but they're cows. Of the Aberdeen Angus variety

Well while you're drawing the line, shut your windows then. Win win.

in the summer we just can't it gets close to 30 degrees most days in our apartment because it is a top floor apartment. we do have aircon but that takes in air from the outside so smoke would come in anyway.

I hate the smell of fag smoke but I absolutely don't believe that the smoke from a small cigarette, being blown around in the wide open air in the breeze is going to make your washing smell.

I think it's all in your head to be honest.

Unfortunately YA(probably)BU, sorry. But I empathise. Hey ho, nearly winter so you won't be able to hang your laundry outside and your neighbour's addiction will force her out in the rain and snow - maybe it'll dissuade her from smoking altogether and you'll both be better off next spring.

Worra - I think its unfair to say that its all in the OP's head. I am sure that a grown woman can tell if her own laundry smells of smoke!

My neighbours sometimes have visitors who will pop out into their garden for a cigarette and if my laundry is out on the line at the same time than the laundry most certainly does smell of cigarette smoke!

Its not the end of the world, it doesn't even happen very often, but it does happen.