to.be upset that he hid in the bathroom.and

[fugglinfuggler]

Masturbated.....
Wow. Since having dc number 5 twelve weeks ago me
And DH have dtd once. I found out late last night that when he's in the mood he sees to himself in the bathroom. He is well aware that I have a high sex drive and would not have said no. Obviously after having baby my self esteem and confidence is low. AIBU to feel so distraught???

Well did he intend for the two of you to have sex soon but it just hasn't been easy to fit in?

Has he actually forbidden you from wanking or just asked you to save it for him? There's a massive massive difference.

You need to tell him you will wank if you need to and also stop sulking. Its a huge turn off in any relationship!

So he hasn't actually said you can't masturbate, you just interpreted it as that.

I honestly think you just need to talk to each other.

I don't get how you have managed to have 5 dc when you clearly have communication issues??

Am intrigued how you found out what he had been doing in the bathroom?

I agree with others that he probably thought he was doing you a favour with 5 kids to care for-if dh had woke me in the middle of the night 12 weeks after giving birth for anything other than a life or death situation he wouldn't need a vasectomy as I would have had his balls on a plate !!

He should have had his check 4 weeks after the op so needs to sort that pronto, then you need to have an adult conversation to discuss your sex life or lack of at the moment so then there is no confusion as to what you both expect.

YANBU but you are overreacting.

He asked you

You can say no go fuck yourself...
Oh.. Wait...

Thanks all for your advice, most of it has been really useful the sarcastic comments no so much so as really did need some helpful support x

Perhaps he felt he wouldn't be tender enough with you if he hadn't had a pre-loving-moment pressure release?

Maybe he's planning a nice romantic post-birth re-union?

Ruby lol that is so funny. First laugh I have had all day x