am i being ungrateful and stupid?

[mamamibbo]

MIL has decided the children need one of those big garden trampolines they are 10 (with asd) 3,2 and 7 months so she is getting them one for christmas, which is very generous

but i dont like them, i think they are dangerous

apparently i should be grateful she wants to spend that amount of money one them and accept the gift as that would be ungrateful and its stupd,i "cant wrap them in cotton wool, they wouldnt sell them if they were dangerous"

aibu?

We have one. The novelty wore off after a few weeks. Dd never uses it now. It's good for your pelvic floor though

They don't have to be dangerous. Some of them come with integral safety nets and are very safe indeed, unless of course you break the rules about number of people on at once and different weight ratios, but that is just down to supervision and common sense. Children don't get enough opportunity to leap about outdoors in the fresh air and trampolines are fantastic fun and great exercise for kids who are otherwise a bit hemmed in by a small garden without the freedom to play out safely.

sorry for over-long sentence.

I am what I would consider to be a pretty laid back mum.

However my MIL & FIL wanted to buy one for my DS who was then 3.

I said no. They argued that there would be a net all the way round it.

My sister knows someone who's child was jumping on one - aged 7 i think. He fell funny on his neck, broken. Paralysed.

I know accidents can happen at any time & they can't be bubble wrapped but I still won't let him have one.

It's your choice.

but would you let your child ride a bike? Or a horse? Or play rugby? Where does it stop?

This is exactly the thing bualou. The three accidents i know of were all on trampolines being used with nets, (one even at ground level!) one child at a time.

I don't know anyone who fell out of a tree.

Of course there'll be people who have had nothing but good experiences from trampolines. But it's up to the individual parent what equipment they have or don't have being used every day in their home.

I'd just like the OP to be able to say no if that's how she feels.

My DS has ASD and he loves the trampoline, he is out there every day without fail. He also has 2 indoor trampolines.

However YANBU OP, if you dont want one then that is your choice and I dont think you are being ungrateful.

Yanbu
But
I bloody love ours.
I put it off for ages but gave in last year.
I went for a small one so they can't all get on at once.
With a tent.

Ds2 has asd.

oranges I nearly bought the tent attachment but dh thought it looked gimmicky. Dh was also worried about not being able to see what they were up to on the trampoline. What would they be doing that would be that bad? Smoking? Gambling?

Ha ha. It's great so far. I hoped it would protect the trampoline a bit too.

I bet you've been in it too!

Well that would be telling wouldn't it

MY dc have had one for several years and it is the single best present they ahve ever had. It gets played on every day in the Summer months, even now they are 13.

And no one has ever hurt themselves.

They have however hurt themselves on their bikes, skateboards, scooters etc.

YANBU. When one of our neighbours got one DD was allowed to play on it with her boys. As she was so little I spent what felt like every waking hour supervising, instead of doing something more worthwhile/interesting. You will have to spend an awful lot of time watching/policing the children.

They wreck the lawn as nothing will grow under them.

I know they are very popular and the children will love them, but personally I don't like them.

I don't want a bulky piece of equipment squashing my lawn either. Feel free to say no, it's your garden.

They take up too much room and, as another poster has said, the grass underneath will get no rain and die.

what about this?

www.unique-landscapes.com/sunken-inground-trampolines.htm

we've got one and DS spends hours on it

can't see how they're any more likely to cause injury than a bike, a horse, a pogo stick, a skateboard etc...

My OH was on mine with my 2 dc. He fractured 2 ribs.
I got rid.

We shall be getting this year for a 3yo, who will only be allowed on it when watched and only on it by themselves, this is one that it made for 3yr up and is 6 or 8ft with a full net. I would be more worried about him opening his bedroom window and falling out than I would him hurting himself on a trampoline, hence the window is locked. You asses a risk and make it as small as possible,

Safety net, no climbing on the outside of the trampoline, one child only - and buy a really big egg timer so they can time their own goes so you don't have to constantly be mediating over whose turn it is!

Also no knee drops or attempts at somersaults EVER!!!

Not read the whole thread but every summer I see 100s of kids and drunken adults who have come to A&E after a trampoline accident. They do seem pretty dangerous overall!

We have 4 dc and the trampoline is the best thing we've ever bought them.
They love bouncing on it (obviously), but yesterday they brought down their duvets and pillows, made a nest on it and lay down and read their library books

If there is a safety net and you are happy to ensure only one child at a time on it, I'd recommend one 100%

"My OH was on mine with my 2 dc. He fractured 2 ribs.
I got rid. "

This is why the one person at a time rule is important!