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To respond to this utter twat?

66 replies

FermezLaBouche · 01/09/2012 09:47

So, having moved back to my old uni town, I was invited by an ex of about 7 years ago for a drink and a catch up last night. We dated for a month or two and it certainly wasn't serious. According to his FB page he's now engaged and got 2 kids so lots to talk about on his side anyway.

Within 10 minutes he:

  • told me he wasn't "properly" engaged and both the mums of his children are "psycho bitches"
  • Openly took pride in the fact he pays both the mums of his children £20/month maintenance.
  • Kept "joking" about one last time for old time's sake.
  • Said aggressively "Who do you keep looking at?" when I was looking round the room wanting to leave.

I felt really uncomfortable and made my excuses to go after an hour or so, and he insisted repeatedly he was going to walk me home. I had to get really pissed off and it was quite embarrassing as he kept trying to walk alongside me. When I got home I just wanted to cry. I've been skint all month due to the move and was looking forward for a look about town.

I've come down this morning to a delightful message in my FB inbox saying "Fucking whore." Just that.

Do I respond? I am so ANGRY!

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jkklpu · 01/09/2012 09:48

what a horrible situation - don't respond just delete him

Louboo2245 · 01/09/2012 09:49

No, report him to facebook and block him.

allthegoodnamesweretaken · 01/09/2012 09:49

No, delete and block. What a loser.

PiggyMad · 01/09/2012 09:49

What a dick! I wouldn't respond - I would delete it and block him.
Was he always that twattish or is he bitter at how his life ahs turned out?!

gordyslovesheep · 01/09/2012 09:49

delete him - nasty little man

FutTheShuckUp · 01/09/2012 09:51

I'm a bit confused here- did you see his Facebook page after you went out with him or before?

PerfectStranger74 · 01/09/2012 09:52

No, don't respond, and try not to take it personally. (I know I would though)
Responding will just make him vent his filth more.
Put this awful experience behind you, and look forward!

antsypants · 01/09/2012 09:52

Don't respond, block him, what a charmer, well rid seven years ago by the sounds of it.

Dickhead

AGiraffeOnTheDivingBoard · 01/09/2012 09:54

There's nothing to be gained from responding - he clearly doesn't know how to behave and is an angry nasty twat. Does he have your mobile? Block that too. Hope this blows over soon.

IawnCont · 01/09/2012 09:54

You poor woman! He sounds like an utter arse. Block him.

Softlysoftly · 01/09/2012 09:55

Be very very very very glad he's an ex and you are not one of the unfortunate mothers of his children.

helenthemadex · 01/09/2012 09:56

Nasty little shit, as others have said block and delete.

Responding to him will show him how upset you are, he is unlikely to just read your response and feel sorry or ashamed at how he behaved he will reply and so it will go on. Ignoring him just says you are so not worth my time

Latara · 01/09/2012 09:57

Yes; just delete & block.
He sounds bitter & twisted; sad really. If he doesn't change then he will end up a very lonely old man with no friends!!

But that isn't your problem - you don't need to even think about that idiot ever again.

bemybebe · 01/09/2012 09:57

Hahaha, what an utter loser and a comedy character! Please don't respond, you cannot add anything to what his own behavior says about him. Not worth anybody's glance at him, let alone any of your attention paid to him on or off FB.

vintageviolets · 01/09/2012 09:58

God, he sounds so nasty.

Ignore, dont let him take his anger out on you.

Nagoo · 01/09/2012 09:58

I would delete block and thank jeff I never had to see him again.

Do not gratify him with a response.

FermezLaBouche · 01/09/2012 10:00

Sorry, on phone now so expect decline in spelling! Yes i saw his fb page before i met up with him. Have to admit, we were quite good friends.before and we worked in the same pub. Relationship just fizzled out. Youre rigt, i think blocking is best and.must resist temptation not to send a response. Idiot.

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fuckbadger · 01/09/2012 10:02

Agree with others that not responding is the most dignified approach. I'm not sure if I could resist the urge though!

savoycabbage · 01/09/2012 10:02

He's a wanker and he's not your wanker so that's good!

DefinitelyDarwin · 01/09/2012 10:02

Delete him and resist the temptation to contact his fiancée and tell her all about him.

Goldchilled7up · 01/09/2012 10:03

What a horrible man Sad don't reply, just delete and block him

MigratingCoconuts · 01/09/2012 10:06

Wow, I pity those wives and kids...what a loser!

kitbit · 01/09/2012 10:06

Sounds like he was meeting you thinking he was up for a night of jollies and got put out when you refused to play along. Sounds like a rejection reaction to me - thank god you didn't get involved!

Pity him. And feel sorry for his poor fiancee, but step away from the loony.

dequoisagitil · 01/09/2012 10:07

What a horrible experience. Poor you.

Definitely don't respond.

Schnarkle · 01/09/2012 10:09

Completely agree with kitbit The idiot thought he was going to get his leg over and you didn't play along. Delete and block the arse.