To respond to this utter twat?

[FermezLaBouche]

So, having moved back to my old uni town, I was invited by an ex of about 7 years ago for a drink and a catch up last night. We dated for a month or two and it certainly wasn't serious. According to his FB page he's now engaged and got 2 kids so lots to talk about on his side anyway.

Within 10 minutes he:

• told me he wasn't "properly" engaged and both the mums of his children are "psycho bitches"
• Openly took pride in the fact he pays both the mums of his children £20/month maintenance.
• Kept "joking" about one last time for old time's sake.
• Said aggressively "Who do you keep looking at?" when I was looking round the room wanting to leave.

I felt really uncomfortable and made my excuses to go after an hour or so, and he insisted repeatedly he was going to walk me home. I had to get really pissed off and it was quite embarrassing as he kept trying to walk alongside me. When I got home I just wanted to cry. I've been skint all month due to the move and was looking forward for a look about town.

I've come down this morning to a delightful message in my FB inbox saying "Fucking whore." Just that.

Do I respond? I am so ANGRY!

OP you have behaved entirely correctly. I too don't buy the cant meet up with an ex one-one thing, self control is what separates us from the animals after all. Pity this guy doesn't seem to be as far removed as most... Block and ignore.

Be on your guard in case he tries to contact you again but also dont worry yourself sick, there is nothing to suggest he will definitly try and see you again. (the fact that getting angry with him made him back off and not actually follow you home regardless is a sign that while a knobber, he isn't neccersarily a dangerous one!). The message this morning was cowardly, designed to upset you. Don't be upset, or respond=you win!

Don't forget to enjoy the feeling of massive relief that a long gone youthful brief relationship was as close as you came to anything serious with this guy - congratulations on swerving a pit of misery!

Phew, SGB! Have a great time

End of rudeness. Apologies OP.

Bet he keeps checking his FB for your reaction tho Nothing better than showing what an insignificant hour it was of your time by not replying.

Have you a prepared response if your paths do cross again in town?

Write a letter throwing all the abuse you want, then rip it up and throw it in the bin. It makes you feel loads better. And then delete and block him. Which will piss him off more because you're not engaging with him

breville can I have the network block message too please? My friend could really use something like that at the moment.

He may well have shot his bolt and decide to back off: woman-hating bullies like him are essentially chickenshits who often decide that a woman who stands up to them is too much trouble so they go after someone more vulnerable instead.
However, some of them become more determined and more dangerous; they consider themselves 'disrespected' and therefore feel compelled to attack and 'put you in your place'.
If you have any further nonsense from this man, send him an email/text saying 'Do not contact me or attempt to contact me again.' Save a copy. Then if you hear any more from him, take all his texts etc to the police, explain the situation and ask them to have a sharp word with him. It's not impossible that he's got form for harassment and/or assault or at least the police might have him on their list of potentially troublesome arseholes.

Sad but true SGB.

Fantastic, I wish all arseholes acted like this on the first date, instead of waiting until you're in a serious relationship with them. Luckily he's shown his true colours before you were in too deep.

Noqontrol I have PM'd you.

Bugger, sorry for forgetting to come back to this thread. Thankfully the loser does not have my number, nor ever will. That message thing sounds useful though!

SGB I wholly agree about the woman hating thing but I'm absolutely sure he's not the "put you in your place" type. He's more the inadequate slinker-off. Which isn't any better - as you say, they will find someone easier bullied.

This is going to sound awful, like I'm sticking the knife in, but I'm really not, I just want to give a clearer picture. He basically has a really small cock. I was ok with this at the time of seeing him, it wasn't so small as to prevent PIV sex.... but half way through sex he would often stop and apologize for it and get really distressed. It was AWFUL. I think some previous partner might have commented as I would NEVER make those kind of remarks, but he was obviously really insecure about it.

I absolutely won't accept any shit from this idiot - he won;t be able to now as he is blocked, but I'm sure I will run into him at some point. The "Fucking whore" message just shocked me as it's so venomous...whereas before he's been...just a bit snivelly. :( (I wasn't going through the best period in life and attracted many such characters.)

Panda - it wasn't a first date! Nooo!

Oh, meant to respond to Fut - I do respect your opinion about meeting up with attached men but I will never consider a person's single/attached status when deciding to meet with them. If I want to meet someone I will. I would never, ever behave inappropriately around someone with a partner so I know my conscience is clear. If they do something out of order that's a reflection on them and nothing to do with me. I certainly won't encourage it.

You didn't need to tell us that he had a really small cock; it was obvious from your initial description of his character.

You didn't need to tell us that he had a really small cock; it was obvious from your initial description of his character.

Oh dear! :(

I have experienced people like the man you describe. He is what the French would call une douche. Loosely translated this means he is a douche.

Delete him from Facebook, close this thread and never think of him again.

Don't respond, ignore.