To think this is wrong?

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We had a group of my dds (11) friends round for a sleep over at the weekend.

One the children woke up in the night and dd came and got me. I comforted the child and moved her into another room with a bed (rather than a blow up mattress) as she thought that would be more comfortable.

I was woken by dd in the morning asking where her friend was - she was not where I had left her.

After a bit of a panic I found a note in the kitchen - the child had rung her Mum about 7.30 and she came and took her home without waking anyone!

Is this odd or considerate?! I was shocked although I would have been quite surprised if the Mum had suddenly appeared in our room but think that she should have told the child to come into me or told my dd?

Even if I had agreed to pick my child up I would feel very odd sneaking around someones house while they were asleep and think I would have got the chlld to tell someone.

What do you think?!

Well before the days of mobiles what would she have done?

Used the house phone!?

Else (assume not even a house phone) she would have gather up her stuff & slipped out the door & walked home by herself, even if it was a mile or 2. And the hosting parent wouldn't have flipped out about it, either. Because even at 9yo it wasn't unusual for children to go to unspecified places miles away on their own.

Another one for starting her period. At 11 not that many of her friends will have started so very embarrassing to tell them.

When I first started my cramps were so bad that I used to vomit. I can see her lying awake terrified she would leak on someone elses bed and calling her mum as soon as she would be awake.

Yes she should have woken the OP up to let her know but at 11 I could never have gone in to my friends mums room and woken her up. Just impossible!

Thanks for all your responses - really great!

To answer some questions:

She hadn't got her period but gets regular stomach cramps apparently.

She did have a mobile to call her mum.

She must have opened our door to her Mum, it would then have shut locked from the outside as they left.

I am partially deaf and was very tired so if I am sleeping on my good ear I don't hear a thing - dh on the other hand has no excuse!

The Mum did come into the house because she managed to find a pen and some paper to write me a note!

We have spoken and there is no issue with it between us, just interested in others thoughts!

As you were......