To think 7:30am is a perfectly reasonable time for young children to get up

[lechatnoir]

I've just come back from holiday with my family that all went well except for a daily debate about what the time the kids should get up!
We've always known my DC get up much earlier than DN's so I equipped mine with a clock, torch, books, toys etc & told them to stay quietly in their room til 8am knowing it could be nearer to their usual get up time of 7:30. On the first day they slept until 7:50 & when everyone else surfaced SIL kept commenting that my nephew would be really grumpy without his sleep and it was far too early to start the day on your holidays. I agree that 7:30 can't be classed a lie-in but really can't imagine many young children are tucked up asleep past 8am & expecting my DC to creep around until 9am is every bit as 'selfish' as mine are for being up & about before 8.
Maybe I was being overly sensitive but I really felt she was suggesting we were to blame for allowing them up at such an ungodly hour and if we just laid down the law they'd sleep in like her DC. So as not to be accused of drip feeding, we would take them downstairs & shut the kitchen door and wouldn't allow the usual noise but my DC are very much up & raring to go in the morning & definitely not the silent types

AIBU waking her kids up at this time or is she being unreasonable in expecting to sleep in?
LCN
Ps kids are 2, 3, 6, 6 & 7

She's mad. They are on holiday and excited, of course they would be up!

She's being very unreasonable

7.30am is a long lie in for some parents. Ok so her kids don't get up that early but she knows yours do, so why choose to go on holiday with you all?

Twonk

Yanbu. I feel really lucky that my dd 2.10 gets up at 7.30 every day. It's not too early though I love my sleep and would love to lie in until 10 on holiday.
What time do their kids go to bed to not be up til 9?
No matter what time dd goes to bed she will be up at 7.30 so she is very rarely kept up beyond 8pm. Her usual bedtime is 7.15.

She's being VERY unreasonable. Wouldn't like her to come on holiday with me and mine, they're up at 6 no matter where we are!

7.30 is normal, can understand her upset if it was 5.30 each day. you could argue the other way that sleeping in til 9 means half the day gets wasted!

Also, how do they manage the rest of the time being up for school? Do they go to bed earlier?

How do you get them to 7.30???!!!! Expect I'm not the only one out here who's up by 6am most days.......

And YANBU!

I'd love it if my DD got up at 7:30am...

You SIL sounds precious!!

What time do her children get up on a school day? How can you have a 'day out' if they are not ready to go out until about 11.00am?

Well, it would be early for me, but that's why I didn't choose to go on holiday with my sister, and wouldn't with you. Or, do the compromise thing of both getting a cottage / flat / caravan on the same site, so you can spend some time together, but have some time apart.
She IBU to complain if she knew that yours got up that early and still agree to come.

Mine are up 6am no matter what i do, how late to bed they are, or if they are up all night because of a bad dream or ill.

She is grumbling about something you can't do anything a about!!

7.30 is a positive lie in to most of the parents I know! If you get a lot of young kids under one roof of course they're going to affect each other's sleep, especially if they're in an unfamiliar place and its all new and exciting- there's not an awful lot you can do about it. YANBU

YANBU kids wake up early

that said - this holiday I was waking all 3 of mine up at 9am (3,8,9) but they where active all day and going to bed at 11pm most nights

YANBU 7.30 is a sleep in for me

My son is 2 and he's up at 6/6.30 normally.

How old are hers?

My DS7 will sometimes sleep till 8.30 in the hols, sometimes 7. And saying 'go back to sleep DS' doesn't really work somehow

She is BU. That said, now DS is old enough to amuse himself in room or with tv for a while until I deign to rise there's no way we'd be sharing accommodation with tinies that get the whole house up at 7! She is not only U but daft.

My DD wakes up at 8.30 or 9am. DS wakes up at around 6.30 and then goes back to sleep until 9am. Dreading when school starts next week. She's going to be very tired.

7.30 would be a lie in for us! YANBU.
However, we've just got back from holiday with my sister, BIL and DNiece (18 months). DNiece woke at 5.45 every day and was allowed to get up and play (noisily). My sis WBU!

My DS needs to be dragged out of bed. We are out of bed by 7.30 for a school day, but he is woken by alarm, not naturally. Weekends he could sleep till 10.He is 6, nothing wrong with him, just has inherited my sleep gene I could sleep on a washing line!

Having said that, I wouldnt be creeping around trying to be quiet for anyone once it gets past 7.0 on a weekday, 8 on a weekend. If you want a lie in after that, then you wil have to do it through the noise of our house! YANBU especially on a holiday. Tell her cop on!

Sneezy are you the OP's SIL??

YANBU. 7.30 is a perfectly respectable time for little ones to get up. Especially on holiday when they are going to be extra excitable!

You see, my kids have always been liers in they must have inherited from their lazy arsed mother and on holiday with my mom, sister and her kids last week they slept till well after 9

Having said that, I still think YANBU because even though my kids lie in, I realise not all do. And 7:30 isn't that nightmarish.

However, I do think YABU to take it all so personally. I think you're reading a personal slight into some random comments and you should get over it.

They all go to bed around 7:30/8 but her & her DC just seem to sleep longer!! On school days I know she leaves them as late as possible and they usual get up at 8 to leave at 8:45.
I agree not holidaying together is the answer but this was a treat from parents and we wouldn't have had a holiday if we didn't go!!
LCN

I know I'm in the minority of parents here but I'm kind of like your SIL.

I prefer my DCs to be up late in the evening and sleep in in the morning.

To me it's no holiday to get up before 9 10.

But, unlike your SIL I understand that other people's DCs arent like this therefore I wouldn't go on holiday with other people's DCs.