To think 7:30am is a perfectly reasonable time for young children to get up

[lechatnoir]

I've just come back from holiday with my family that all went well except for a daily debate about what the time the kids should get up!
We've always known my DC get up much earlier than DN's so I equipped mine with a clock, torch, books, toys etc & told them to stay quietly in their room til 8am knowing it could be nearer to their usual get up time of 7:30. On the first day they slept until 7:50 & when everyone else surfaced SIL kept commenting that my nephew would be really grumpy without his sleep and it was far too early to start the day on your holidays. I agree that 7:30 can't be classed a lie-in but really can't imagine many young children are tucked up asleep past 8am & expecting my DC to creep around until 9am is every bit as 'selfish' as mine are for being up & about before 8.
Maybe I was being overly sensitive but I really felt she was suggesting we were to blame for allowing them up at such an ungodly hour and if we just laid down the law they'd sleep in like her DC. So as not to be accused of drip feeding, we would take them downstairs & shut the kitchen door and wouldn't allow the usual noise but my DC are very much up & raring to go in the morning & definitely not the silent types

AIBU waking her kids up at this time or is she being unreasonable in expecting to sleep in?
LCN
Ps kids are 2, 3, 6, 6 & 7

7.30 would be an amazing lie in for me. My dd rarely let's me sleep beyond 6. If her kids sleep until 8 or 9 I'm inclined to think she must be drugging them.

Lord, margery - do you think most of us with early risers want it that way, and haven't tried keeping them up? Ds pings awake at 6 if i'm lucky, no matter what. And you can put a child back to bed - but you can't force them to go back to sleep, nor can you rely on a 2 yo in a shared room to remember to play quietly. Your children have a great sleep pattern, but it doesn't follow that your routines guaranteed that.

YANBU - and my DD sleeps til about 9am (from 8pm). I don't expect every child to sleep like mine though, and I'm always up before her anyway lol!

CoolaSchmoola I was going to let you join my coriander hating club but now I hate you. 13 hours sleep a night. Waaaaaahhhhhh.

Mine (six and two) usually like a sleep in, 8.30-9 is not unusual in school hols, but were up at 7am every day on holiday - strange bed, thin curtain, muchos excitement. I lived! She is BVVVU.

We have the opposite scenario. Teenage DS1 thinks that midday is outrageous and IABU to expect him out of bed by then! Makes days out difficult at the start nagging him to get up. DS2 is 16 months and usually trampolines on his big "brobro" at 7:30!

My two are up at about 7:30ish most days - I have to wake DS1 a couple of days a week because we need to be out of the house by 7:00am.

Heres the thing though, just because they are up doesn't mean I am. At home DS1 gets the weekend cereal for DS2 and DH and I stay in bed. On holiday if the house was secure we would do the same thing.

I certainly wouldn't expect them to be quiet though, they turn the telly on, run around and play, whatever.

DS1 goes to bed 8:30ish and DS2 at around 7:30ish. Sometimes they sleep later, sometimes up earlier on hols I would probably think they would get into a bed later/up later pattern.

I am not really that fussed as long as they are getting enough.

7.30 is a lovely lie in for me too!!

I'm lucky in that my 2 year old wakes often at about 6/ half six, but is happy to spend at least half an hour lying in my bed talking lovely nonsense with me for half an hour, though he will prize my eyelids open if he thinks I'm dozing rather than joining in properly!

Keeping him in bed til 8 tho would just be silly! And short of pinning him down I'm not entirely sure how I could do it! YANBU!