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My nephew gave my 8mth old daughter red bull grrr!

72 replies

killagorilla · 28/08/2012 22:48

I was at my mums this bank holiday, me and my sil were washing up after Sunday dinner while my mum sat down with a hot chocolate and dd on her lap. DD reached out and put her hand in the cup (it was cool by then) and as babies do put her fist straight in her mouth.
My mum was like "oh I don't think you should be doing that DD!" obviously it was too late to do anything and I honestly don't think a few drops of hot chocolate will do her any damage so I said it was fine.
My nephew was sitting at the table and said "oh she doesn't want that she wants this" and tried putting her dummy in his red bull can and into her mouth! I was Shock and snatched the dummy from him (he is 18 and knows better IMO).
Then a couple of minutes later he "convieniently" spilt his can on the table right in front of my DD, she was right in there playing with the liquid on the table and fists straight in her mouth. My mum stood up (her and dd were soaked in the stuff)! Then nephew turns to me with this smug grin and said "see I told you she likes it!"
I called him a little shit and didn't really speak to him for the rest of the day. Now my brother has text me (nephew's dad) saying that I ruined a good weekend and thanks for that.
AIBU to not give a flying fuck and am still quite pissed off about the whole thing?

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MadgeHarvey · 28/08/2012 22:52

Sorry - was it sulphuric acid or some hideous tasting fizzy drink? Is anyone dead?

lovebunny · 28/08/2012 22:54

it's a horrible drink. i can't have it because it speeds up my heartbeat. bizarre. anyway, he shouldn't have done that.

but you should have been keeping a closer eye on your baby.

DefiniteMaybe · 28/08/2012 22:55

the smug grin and comment would have done it for me. What a tosser.

hermionestranger · 28/08/2012 22:56

Op's dd was with her mother! FFs. Hardly left alone! Nephew is a cocky little sod.

WorraLiberty · 28/08/2012 22:56

He sounds like a wind up merchant

But to be honest, the baby should be better supervised.

maillotjaune · 28/08/2012 22:56

When I clicked on the thread I imagined a baby bottle filled with Red Bull.

But seriously, fists in spilt liquid and then mouth?Hmm

JumpingThroughMoreHoops · 28/08/2012 22:57

Bit of an over reaction.

hardly going to do any damage licking her fingers.

Did the varnish come off the table?

larks35 · 28/08/2012 22:57

It all sounds a bit over-dramatised to be honest. He didn't actually pour redbull (urghh, hate the stuff) down her throat did he. It sounds to me like you don't like your nephew much and maybe he's picked up on that and chooses to wind you up by using your DD. Why not try and get on with him a bit better. Mind you, calling him a "little shit" might not be forgotten too soon.

NameChangeGalore · 28/08/2012 22:58

When I read the title I thought he'd put it in a sippy cup or something. My son is 8 months and I would have been fuming if someone gave him red bill to drink.

Your dd just put a tiny amount on her fists and licked it. What's the problem? You overreacted. You Snatched the dummy which is rude and that's why he spilled it to get a reaction from you. Grow up.

LynetteScavo · 28/08/2012 22:59

The baby was on the grandmothers lap...how closely could she be supervised, lovebunny? Confused

I think calling your nephew a shit and ignoring him was a bit extreme.

I think raised eyebrows would have been enough. Spilling a drink on purpose, over your grandmother and cousin, is a ridiculous thing to do.

I thought you were going to say he let her drink it out of a cup.

TheEnthusiasticTroll · 28/08/2012 23:00

you over reacted and thats why he did it, he was playing you. hook line and sinker Grin and you have fallen for it.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 28/08/2012 23:01

I thought you were BU until I read that your nephew is 18, old enough to know better.

Also YANBU as Red Bull is horrible, horrible stuff and contains so much caffeine it has a warning on the tin

BigOldFanny · 28/08/2012 23:02

he was a prick

akaemmafrost · 28/08/2012 23:03

My cousins wife gave my 2 year old a swig of her White wine spritzer, telling him it was lemonade, honestly I was so Angry.

Some may say you're overreacting but I would have been furious too.

MammyToMany · 28/08/2012 23:03

My in laws give my 14 month old a shot glass of guiness every Sunday. Apparently it's good for him Hmm

I wouldn't have cared very much about ds licking some red bill off his hand to be honest.

missymoomoomee · 28/08/2012 23:04

He didn't 'give your 8 month old red bull' he spilled it in front of her and she put what could only have been the tinyest bit in her mouth. Over reaction much.

It does sound like you just don't nephew much tbh.

Floggingmolly · 28/08/2012 23:04

Horrible little bastard. I thought I was having a heart attack after drinking just one can of that witches brew. It's hideous stuff. I'd have lamped him if he'd not only done that, but smirked at me to boot. Hmm. What did your mother say?

maples · 28/08/2012 23:05

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akaemmafrost · 28/08/2012 23:06

Do you let them do that Mammy?

Mrsjay · 28/08/2012 23:07

he sounds a right pain in the arse , The redbull won't have harmed her though

ibon · 28/08/2012 23:13

I can't believe some people think the OP was overreacting! Caffeine toxicity is a real danger with red bull and people die from drinking it: todayhealth.today.com/_news/2012/03/21/10780958-teen-girl-dies-of-caffeine-toxicity-after-downing-2-energy-drinks?lite I don't think ANY exposure is safe for a child, let alone an 8th month old. This is not a regular soft drink, and shouldn't be treated like one.

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killagorilla · 28/08/2012 23:13

I admit the red bull is an overreaction but it's the principle of what he done. He's 18 fgs, going to uni in a month. If he was 7 or even 14 then obviously I would put it down to him being a child but come on 18?!? Isn't that a bit too old to be winding people up? Maybe I'm just being a moaney old bat but I'd just had enough by that point.

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MammyToMany · 28/08/2012 23:16

Akaemmafrost - im not there, it's exes day with dc so there isn't a lot I can do about it. I would be laughed out of the room. It's a tradition of theirs that goes back generations (apparently) and the same applies for pregnant and breastfeeding mothers too.

SirBoobAlot · 28/08/2012 23:20

You should have been watching.

You also shouldn't have used that kind of language in front of your small daughter.

akaemmafrost · 28/08/2012 23:22

Shock that would drive me nuts!