My nephew gave my 8mth old daughter red bull grrr!

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I was at my mums this bank holiday, me and my sil were washing up after Sunday dinner while my mum sat down with a hot chocolate and dd on her lap. DD reached out and put her hand in the cup (it was cool by then) and as babies do put her fist straight in her mouth.
My mum was like "oh I don't think you should be doing that DD!" obviously it was too late to do anything and I honestly don't think a few drops of hot chocolate will do her any damage so I said it was fine.
My nephew was sitting at the table and said "oh she doesn't want that she wants this" and tried putting her dummy in his red bull can and into her mouth! I was and snatched the dummy from him (he is 18 and knows better IMO).
Then a couple of minutes later he "convieniently" spilt his can on the table right in front of my DD, she was right in there playing with the liquid on the table and fists straight in her mouth. My mum stood up (her and dd were soaked in the stuff)! Then nephew turns to me with this smug grin and said "see I told you she likes it!"
I called him a little shit and didn't really speak to him for the rest of the day. Now my brother has text me (nephew's dad) saying that I ruined a good weekend and thanks for that.
AIBU to not give a flying fuck and am still quite pissed off about the whole thing?

"Nice. How about just explaining to him why she doesn't need it & why she won't be drinking it any time soon. Most 18yr olds don't really know better about what babies can/can't have. "

It should have been pretty clear from OP's reaction when she snatched the dummy away initially that baby isn't to be drinking caffeine rich energy drinks.

Yes, he is a little shit (smug face/comment qualifies this) and YANBU. Your DB should lay the blame for a "ruined weekend" on his tool of a son.

Agree with lurking too.

Calling him names just exacerbated the 'fight' between you by dropping to his level but you were right to be cross. You could summarise events for your brother and ask him why he thinks his son did this and why he didn't apologise.

bogeyface, you'd really phone up a relative and bollock them for calling your adult son a little shit?
My DS has AS, I've often had to deal with situations that have gone pear-shaped and my first question is always 'Can you tell me what happened?' rather than a rant.
If someone is upset because of the thoughtless actions of an adult, that adult should be apologising and promising that although tto them it was funny, they will not do it again if it upsets someone that much.
Nephew is going to get a shock if the next funny prank gets him clobbered when he's in the real, adult world.

My ds is same age, I think if he put both his hands in something spilt on a table, by the time he got them both to his mouth (I doubt they would both fit in his mouth!) their wouldn't be that much going into his system.

Yes its annoying that he smirked and took pleasure in your reaction but I think you overreacted. I think if you'd said in a nicer way the first time something like "please don't give her that stuff it can be really dangerous for babies" instead of snatching the dummy the whole situation might have ended better.

I agree that the more worrying issue here is the baby putting her hand into the grandmother's hot chocolate, I would be more worried about that than a tiny bit of red bull on her hands, as a previous poster said you were lucky it wasn't hot enough to scald the baby, it's pretty irresponsible to have a mug of hot drink within arm's reach of a baby.

"She needs to learn that it is never fine to stick her hands in a mug."

She's 8 months old. How is that going to work?

You should never have hot drinks around a baby - always put them out of reach. It's a pain, but something you learn fairly quickly as a parent! Perhaps the OP's mum had forgotten.

Caffeine-rich drinks like Red Bull are dangerous, so I wouldn't have been happy about that, either. The DN sounds like a bit of a tit and so does his father.

YABU to call him a little shit YANBU to think he's a little shit! he is, but you really should have risen above it, and had a word with your brother about it. think you have probably inflamed the situation, and i would keep an eye on that little shit when he's around your dd in future

Your family sound like a sloppy lot, allowing the baby to stick her hand in the cup and licking it, the allowing her to play in a pool of spilt drink.

I wouldn't have called him a shit or ignored him, I would have very clearly told him how wrong he was and that I would store it in my memory for when he has his own children.

Fallen Sorry, it reads wrong, I meant if my son had done that then I would bollock my son!

I doubt a lick of a hand covered in it is going to do any real harm.

And I don't think its fair to say the op should have been surpervising more closely either! How close can she be!!???

I'd have a go at the nephew for being a wind up merchant and just forge about it to be honest.

I can't believe the amount of people that treat caffine like heroin. Yes red bull has a lot in it but she didn't even drink a gulp of it - just lick it off her hands.

YANBU for being annoyed at your nephew, my nephews are younger and wouldn't dream of doing that, you would have been right to tell him off. I know that his attitude is really annoying but I think you were wrong to call him a little shit and ignore him, not mature. I think your brother was right to call you on that aspect.

I don't think you overreacted at all. I wouldn't want my dc 9 months to taste red bull, and at 18 he should know better. He's acted vindictive. I would have said worse. Yanbu.

Can't believe the grief you're getting for calling your nephew a little shit. He's 18 FGS, an adult, if he can't handle being called names for behaving in a shitty manner then he should grow up and stop hiding behind daddy's text messages.

Lurked, its not an age thing, I wouldn't call anyone in my family a little shit for something like this.

This little boy sounds like a normal little lad, yes he shouldnt have done it, yes he was a little shit but it wasnt a boiling hot cup of tea or anything. I'm sure its not done her any harm!

You sound as bad as each other, sorry.

rock he wasn't a little boy/little lad he is EIGHTEEN!! Should know better imo!

Sorry only just realised he's 18 i thought it said 8 lol. Well he should know better, but as for calling him a little shit. I call my 18yr old brother all sorts!

I think the blame should be a bit on the grandma, she should have held the childs hands she she couldnt lick spilt drink twice of her hands, it doesn't sound like much attention was being given to the baby.

I agree the main issue is the hot drink, yabu to think harm will come to your dc from a lick of redbull, your nephew was wrong to try and dip the dummy in the drink but at 18 he probably didn't know, you should have just said "I'd prefer it if you didn't give her that she's fine on milk for now" rather than snatch it out of his hand.

YANBU to be pissed off with the the nephew.

YABU if you were in a sour mood for the rest of the weekend, though that may or may not be the case . . .

mammy its fairly simple,you just record them saying it. and fwiw preventing a tradition that is iliegal is not unacceptable. if they love him that much they would stop doing it,they are clearly to stupid to get that the law is the law. you dont need to stop contact they just need to think you might if they dont stop it.

some traditions often those that are now against the law are the ones that need to stop.

He was immature but so were you. You can't really take the moral high-ground if you let yourself be wound up so easily - and swearing at him was completely out of order. You sound as bad as each other tbh.