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To think he should let me know immediately

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TheQueenOfDiamonds · 26/08/2012 16:36

Possibly STBX OH is at cream fields. It's been called off early. He should have been coming back tomorrow, But they're all being sent home today instead.

I have not heard one word from OH. I only know this because my Mum rang to ask if OH was back yet, As she was meant to be having my son while we have a talk tomorrow.

He's switched his phone off now, As has his friend. I'm fucking fuming.

I couldn't give a shit if he comes back to stay, But the fact that he's not even called to ask how our son is, Or made any arrangements for his dog is what's annoying me. I cannot look after it. So now i'm sat here not knowing.

I feel fucking worthless tbh. I'm not even worth a fucking text.

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DoMeDon · 26/08/2012 16:38

I'm confused. He had arranged to be away but because the event has changed times it is now not ok for him to be away? What were plans for child/dog if event went ahead then?

valiumredhead · 26/08/2012 16:40

What is STXB?

I don't understand the rest of it either tbh...

minikimmi · 26/08/2012 16:41

If I was somewhere that had been arranged to last 3 days and was called off after 2, you can GUARANTEE I would not be rushing home. Give him some time to relax, sounds like the space is what you both need. Maybe he thinks you were looking forward to a few days break from him and doesn't want to spoil it for you?

minikimmi · 26/08/2012 16:42

Soon to be ex...

MrMiyagi · 26/08/2012 16:42

Soon to be ex, valium. She's leaving him but still wants to dictate his behaviour.

meetupmisery · 26/08/2012 16:43

If he's not late back I don't undstand why you so upset, is it cos he hasn't run home to you?

pictish · 26/08/2012 16:46

I don't quite get this either. If I was at the 3 day event that was unexpectedly shortened to 2, I'm sure I could find some way of filling up the extra day.

You were prepared for him to be away for three days were you not? Why are you now unable to look after the dog etc, because it has been shortened to 2? I don't understand.

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TheQueenOfDiamonds · 26/08/2012 16:47

Yeah soon to be ex. We have some issues we need to discuss.

There's a good possibility he won't be staying here, or coming back at all but he's not told me. I don't know if he's coming back at all and I need to really.

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scentednappyhag · 26/08/2012 16:48

If e is coming back early, surely any dog care arrangements etc will still stand? I don't get why you're angry he's changed plans if it doesn't affect you, have I missed something? very tired so entirely possible

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TheQueenOfDiamonds · 26/08/2012 16:48

MrMiyagi I don't want to dictate his behaviour, I want him to take some responsibility for his shit. If he isn't coming home at all, he still has things he needs to sort out - He's not bothered to see if our sons ok, He has a dog he needs to take with him..

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minikimmi · 26/08/2012 16:48

If you're barely talking why would he go out of his way to let you know about every minutiae of his life? Are you married or do you even live together??

BlackberryIce · 26/08/2012 16:51

Why dies he need to ring about your son?

When you are separated he won't be ringing daily

DoMeDon · 26/08/2012 16:51

I'm no psychic but am gonna say there's a lot more to this. Don't play the game Queen. Stop calling, texting. What willbe will be. You would be looking after your son and his dog anyway. See what happens tomorrow when he is DUE home, not when you expect him to be.

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TheQueenOfDiamonds · 26/08/2012 16:53

We live together yeah. I've not explained this very well.

He went to this festival on friday. He'd arranged it ages ago. He was supposed to be coming back monday.

Our son came down with the measles, And i've been at home alone all weekend with him and the dogs, I can't walk OHs dog he rags me around, so it's bouncing off the walls at the minute.

I rang him saturday morning because i found some messages about some girl he'd met. That's why we have issues. He told me i'm mad, and to go and put some money in his bank because he didn't have any on him for the festival, i told him i can't [bank was closed] and i got told i'm a lazy selfish bitch. I asked if he was coming back monday and he said he doesn't know.

So it's been cancelled now, I don't know if he's coming back, He could let me know. It's not like i can just go drop his shit off if he decides not to come back, as i'd guess he would go back to where we're from with his friends who he's with, and thats 2 hours away.

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minikimmi · 26/08/2012 16:54

The relationship sounds toxic, and it sounds to me like you're storing up things to throw at him whenever you do see him (phone off, the dog situation, mum calling etc..) You'll need to calm down for when you do separate, because that's when the real shit starts. I'd let it go until tomorrow if I were you, when you would have been expecting him anyway. Just spend the rest of the day with your wee boy and try and chill out. If he doesn't claim the dog, take it to rehoming, simples.

StuntGirl · 26/08/2012 16:54

If he was late back from the end of the weekend then I'd be bothered, but right now I wouldn't. I don't find it odd that their phones are off either. Have you ever been to a festival? My phone always dies after day 1!

Wowserz129 · 26/08/2012 16:54

I think you are being a bit petty. You have barely given him a chance to do those things. If his trip was 3 days and now it's 2 I would not be making an issue of it yet!

StuntGirl · 26/08/2012 16:56

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TheQueenOfDiamonds · 26/08/2012 16:57

doesnt matter. he's not coming home

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minikimmi · 26/08/2012 16:57

Well, if you're happy about that, then good luck

DoMeDon · 26/08/2012 16:57

Spend ZERO time worrying about IF he is coming home and all your time thinking about IF you want to stay with someone who utterly disrespects you. If he wants his things he will get them. He is an adult. If he wants his dog, he will have to get it or you will have to take it to a home.

He did arrange this ages ago though so you expected to be on your own. It is sad he isn't calling about his ill son but it doesn't sound out of character for the picture you paint.

Vagaceratops · 26/08/2012 17:01

It could quite possibly be that he is still trying to get out of CF. There will be thousands of people trying to get out of the car park.

WildWorld2004 · 26/08/2012 17:01

I remember your other post about your ds having measles. How is he btw?

I think he should have told you but hes probably just being a wimp & hes scared to face you as he knows u know about the OW.

Id text him/phone him. Tell him if hes not back by such & such the dogs getting put out(along with his other belongings).

HmmThinkingAboutIt · 26/08/2012 17:01

Not being funny, but have you ever been to a festival?

You do realise how common it is for the mobile phone network to be so busy that you can't get through to people or send / receive texts?

Given that they've cancelled the event so the world and his dog will be trying to use their phone...

... well you are being hysterical, over dramatic and completely bloody unreasonable.

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TheQueenOfDiamonds · 26/08/2012 17:05

He's gone back to nottingham. He would have had to pass where we live to get there. He told me he's sick of me and not bothered about me or DS. I'm going now.

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