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WIBu retaliating re the rude woman in the carpark

543 replies

olympicsrock · 26/08/2012 16:00

Yesterday morning I went to the supermarket. I was in a hurry as I had to finish a pavlova to take to a friends party. The supermarket was packed and traffic was standing waiting for spaces (one in one out). I was politely queueing when a driver got into her car just ahead of me obviously about to vacate a space. I waited behind the space indicating left that I was waiting . I gave her enough room and time to manoevre out. As she was doing this I saw an old woman in a bettered car behind me trying to squeeze down the inside to pass me and making it difficult for the other driver. I hooted as she almost scraped my car. To my disbelief she then swung into the space I had patiently waited for. I wound down my window to state the obvious that she was taking my space. She replied "so what" . I said you can't do that, we are all waiting". She relied I can do what I like. Two other drivers who had witnessed this also got out of cars to back me up. I was livid. In the end the parking warden came to sort it out. He pointed out another space ahead now empty and asked me to park in it. I did . I returned to speak to the other woman (aged about 80, dark glasses and very snotty). She continued to be rude when I repeated that her behaviour was unacceptable, and rude. After finishing my shopping 10 minutes later I was still very shaken up and angry. I tool a carton of cream from my bag and dribbled the word RUDE on her windscreen before driving off.

OP posts:
ShiftyFades · 26/08/2012 17:04

If she needed a wee she could have said "so sorry, really need the loo" to OP when she drove alongside OP, or when she parked.
She told OP that she didn't care. She didn't make any excuse for her appalling manners!

SPsFanjoSponsoredByFemFresh · 26/08/2012 17:06

If my great grandma had seen you she would have hi 5'd you and probably wrote something worse Grin

Age doesn't matter! If she had been in her 20s, 30s or 40s then it would have been ok?!

Ageism at its best Grin

TheVermiciousKnid · 26/08/2012 17:08

Of course age is no excuse for rudeness, and what she did was definitely rude. But putting cream on her windscreen was immature, pointless and potentially dangerous. It is not easy to clean something as fatty as cream off a windscreen - especially if it's extra thick double cream. If any of this actually happened...

LadyBeagleEyes · 26/08/2012 17:16

There's an awful lot of experts here about the effect of cream on windscreens.
This must happen a lot more than I ever imagined.

BlackberryIce · 26/08/2012 17:17

Yes lady had to remove ice cream once

And cream wiped up at home

SarahBellumHertz · 26/08/2012 17:17

Can't help wishing I'd had the balls...

olympicsrock · 26/08/2012 17:18

Bit worried now that I could get into trouble. Any police Mnetters out there with a professional opinion?

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JustFabulous · 26/08/2012 17:19

ANY moral high ground you had before doing your shopping was totally lost when you stupidly poured cream on her car. You deserve to get the bill for it been washed.

thisthread.... did your friend get done for criminal damage?

JustFabulous · 26/08/2012 17:20

Serves you right tbh.

BlackberryIce · 26/08/2012 17:22

Depends if they have CCTV or got your reg or even a witness

BlackberryIce · 26/08/2012 17:22

And of course, if she got home safely

sugarice · 26/08/2012 17:23

Stop worrying Olympic, it's too late now anyway, just start shopping at Sainsburys and avoid Waitrose til Christmas Wink

SigmundFraude · 26/08/2012 17:25

I expect there would be CCTV. The courts don't look favourably on acts of vandalism against the aged, on account of them being old.

SigmundFraude · 26/08/2012 17:26

I suppose it would be worse if the cream had dripped into the engine and written the car off somehow. Or, like Blackberry said, she crashed.

SPsFanjoSponsoredByFemFresh · 26/08/2012 17:27

It probably isn't the first time something like this as happened to her if she's that rude.

mumtotwonannatoone · 26/08/2012 17:27

well done wish I was brave enough to do it age is no excuse for lack of manners.

marquesas · 26/08/2012 17:28

Actually now that someone has mentioned CCTV that reminds me that there was a thread on here in the last week or so about some damage in a supermarket carpark, the police were involved and did check the car park cameras.

Maybe have your excuses ready Grin

PorkyandBess · 26/08/2012 17:30

If she complained to the shop, they will almost certainly check their cctv and get your number plate.

tanfastic · 26/08/2012 17:32

Well she won't do that again in a hurry will she. I'd have felt like doing the same tbh but wouldn't have had the balls to do it. I'd have just called her a fucking witch or something and went home seething.

Noqontrol · 26/08/2012 17:36

Meh, i doubt the cream did any harm to her car. If she's that rude I doubt its the first time someone has retaliated. Its not as if you keyed her car or anything.

mrseffington · 26/08/2012 17:38

No excuse for rudeness like that. But your reaction was extreme, vindictive and completely out of proportion. Who made you the rude police who has to teach someone a lesson. You had your say, you had witnesses to agree with you that her behaviour was indeed rude. By the time you'd gone round the supermarket, if your anger had not simmered down which obviously it hadn't, then quite frankly I would be seeking some kind of therapy to deal with your anger.

Noqontrol · 26/08/2012 17:39

Doubt you'll get into trouble for a bit of cream op. Whilst the police are watching the cctv they can also witness her appalling driving. Unlikely they'd go through all the cctv for a bit of cream though.

DancesWithSockPuppets · 26/08/2012 17:41

Olympics I don't care what everyone else says; I love you. This is exactly the kind of bad-tempered impulsive, slightly irrational act of revenge I go for.

I did once pour beer all over someone's windscreen myself. We were about to go to the cinema and saw someone chuck a full (open) can out the window as they went past and pulled into a nearby space. I coated the windscreen and then stood the can upright on the bonnet.

redexpat · 26/08/2012 17:44

So it's acceptable for an 80 year old to behave like that then is it? For the sole reason that she's 80?

Nice one OP. Best AIBU in a long time!

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 26/08/2012 17:47

Oh dear. I disapprove, I would never do it, but I'm taking slight pleasure hearing about it. Has anyone said "she got her just desserts"?

BTW an 80 year old who is able to drive and assertive enough to argue isn't some poor old lady. She is just rude

OTOH. As someone said, your anger should really have subsided by then .

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