To NOT make my DM a cup of tea?

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DM is at a motorway services half an hour away having a cup of tea

She must drink 20 cups a day. She has just left a message asking me to put the kettle on in 25 mins so that a cuppa is waiting for her.

I really think she can wait until the kettle boils or even make it herself when she gets here.

AIBU?

for your mum

You totally need a samovar.

Fact.

Fallen no teenage children or uni visits, and don't understand having to stop for tea half an hour before your destination. But I do understand the desire to pack a hip flask for long journeys

YANBU my father would do this sort of thing, bark orders about what I should be doing and it pisses me off, but I suspect it's a parent/child thing because if it came from anyone else we wouldn't bat an eyelid!! Just put the kettle on, it's your mother she ain't gunna change!

My mum does that, rings me to put the kettle on!! "I'm 5 minutes away, make me a brew"

Do you think the OP's too busy making huge urns of tea to post whether she's turned up yet?

I need to know she's got there safely before I go out

It occurs to me that if a new mother phoned to say "We're almost there, find a pillow now so I can feed the baby the minute I'm through the door" we'd have a few cries of "PFB" going around. The world ought not to revolve around timing of your mother's cups of tea!

She's addicted to tea. There's worse things in life. I would just put the kettle on.

Of this issue alone is not enough to judge, but I wonder if OP's annoyed because her mum acts so entitled in other ways?

*of course this issue

Hold on did she phone (whilst drinking tea) to tell you to make a cup of tea, directly after you put down the phone, so that it'd be there made (luke warm) on the table when she arrived?

if it's that then it's not the same as saying 'stick the kettle on, I'll be there in 30 mins" , that just a way of saying that the ETA is in about 30

OP sounds like your DM has tea addiction problems! She should go to TA! (just make sure she doesn't get it mix up of she'll be scalin walls and sniper crawling before you know it)

Entitled? Because she wants a cup of tea??

Some of you are going to reap what you sow when your children are older.

MeMiyagi I was thinking the same

Hang on a minute, you're pissed off because your mother has rung to say stick the kettle on?? Fuck me. If my family took offence anytime that happened none of us would have spoken in years!

Ha. I do this when I am coming back from the supermarket.
"Hello DH, I'm at the till, put the kettle on please!"

Yanbu - it's not like it's an oxygen tank that she needs on standby. Make the tea and forget to boil the kettle first

I think the OP's DM has now arrived and she is too caught up in a vicious tea making cycle to update us.

Update - sorry I haven't read all of the posts.

DF is playing football with DS in the back garden.
DM has popped out to the garden centre with DH.

DM rang at 12:15 and left a message. She mentioned she had stopped for a cuppa and stated that she wanted a hot tea waiting for her in on her arrival in 30 mins and to make sure I put the kettle on in 25 mins. By her reckoning, she was due to arrive at 12:45.

She arrived at 13:20 and had a cat's bum face because there was no tea ready . She was late because she was drinking tea in a service station when she called; we live 30 mins away; the M6 is always busy (it is known).

As soon as she got here, I put the kettle on and made her a pot. She is fine now. She may even stop in the cafe for a cuppa before she comes home. I will of course make her a tea when she gets back.

DM is a tea monster. Can you get caffeine patches?

Off to get dinner ready.

I think it´s really strange to stop & buy for a cup of tea when you´re half an hour away.

I also think it´s odd to phone asking that tea be ready on your arrival.

Isn´t the kettle being switched on as soon as you arrive good enough?

She does sound as if she has a problem!

My name is thixotropic and I am a tea monster.

I admit I have made people -angry- late by deciding to have a cuppa 2 mins before leaving the house. In my defence if I ask if there is time for a quick cuppa people always say yes, even if there isn't time.

I now have a travel mug. I pour the tea into that, put it into my coat pocket and leave the house.

Sorted

Get a flask.
Fill it with tea.
Problem solved

Since you knew she was going to be late you should have actually made it for when she said. Lovely cup of stone cold tea when she arrived ridiculously late.

My poor BIL had terrible stomach pains in the middle of the night once (turned out to be appendicitis) and before leaving for casualty, my SIL insisted on having a cup of tea.

That WU.

MY Mother asks me to do this and it really annoys me! She also bought me a kettle because "Yours is too slow."