To NOT make my DM a cup of tea?

[Eggrules]

DM is at a motorway services half an hour away having a cup of tea

She must drink 20 cups a day. She has just left a message asking me to put the kettle on in 25 mins so that a cuppa is waiting for her.

I really think she can wait until the kettle boils or even make it herself when she gets here.

AIBU?

My mum does this. I just flick the switch when I see her pull up, by the time she's in the house, been to the loo and sorted herself out its ready. I reserve my crappy electric kettle for this purpose. If I made her wait for the hob she'd be steaming

My mum has form for making tea or coffee and forgetting about it, then making another, drinking that, finding the first one somewhere random and sticking it in the microwave, wandering off to do something, coming back an hour later, putting kettle on, tea in cup, water on bag, spots original tea in microwave, reheats it again , forgetting about the one brewing, dad finds it later, all stewed and cold...

'It's the stopping for a cuppa when only a half hour away that would annoy me.'

I do that before sallying forth into a situation with my family. Tea and a treat and a quiet breather to gather the strength. I'm liking your mum more and more OP, she's driving 100 miles to see you and all you can do is revert to sulky bratdom.
Why is she coming?

Pascha signs of menopause from your mum
Great times to look forward to ladies
And all we want is a cup of tea
Too much to ask for ?

FannyFifer she is late for everything and at the mercy of the M6.

Pascha It doesn't take long for the kettle to boil. I don't need to chop a tree down and make a fire.

She makes tea in a pot that takes 10 and drinks it until it is gone. And repeat.

Jaffa - I love her dearly but she is not a caring earth mother type. I am more than happy to keep her in tea for the rest of the day. I just don't want to have tea waiting as per instructions, barked in a message.

she wants you to drive 100 miles to make her a tea??????

well in that case shes gone mad and yanbu

also she is now 10 minutes late.

Oh dear I say this to everyone when I'm on my way round. You'd think I'd have learnt by now never to say anything to anyone. Oh well!

It's probably just her way of letting you know her estimated arrival time! It's a standard greeting for that generation - "put the kettle on, I'll be home in 20 minutes". Have you never heard that before? Make the woman a cup of tea!

I do this when i'm visiting Mum and Dad. Only the request is by text and for wine or gin :o They do it to us to though. I don't mind this tbh but we have a good relationship like Mates rather than parents / children now.

me and my mum always do this, ring when we are 10 mind away so we can have a cuppa ready. Not a big deal at all.

Socknickingpixie posted how old are you? do you live in her house?

'I live 100 miles away in my own house'. Was my response. I know I have reverted to grumpy teenager mode and so didn't feel like I need divulge my age.

I can understand someone ringing to about a baby or small child. Why can't adults wait 2 mins for for tea? I'll even make a pot so she doesn't go short.

I think she is still drinking tea in the services.

Left I know her ETA and also know she will be late. IMHO, this is like you ringing to remind someone when you are 2 mins away.

It isn't an ETA.

We discussed that before she left.

i wasnt being rude at all, i just have a rule in my house about tea making thats closely done by age and residency

Wow. Just make the woman a cup of tea FFS.

YANBU, relatives bring out the worst of my rebellious streak.

And that she had to stop for a cup of tea half an hour from your house. Thats bonkers.

For crying out loud, OP, just put the kettle on!

Is there something else on your mind or have you just woken up in a foul mood?

and FWIW I would not put the kettle on I would make her wait for it when she arrived. But I am a stroppy britches too and hate being told what to do. You can guarantee it will have the opposite effect

Bloody hell. Your inner sulky teenager has come out to play hasn't she?

Ten minutes "late" on a 100 mile journey isn't late. She's had the courtesy to tell you she's half an hour away, make the woman a pit of tea and stop being an arse about it.

'And that she had to stop for a cup of tea half an hour from your house. Thats bonkers.'

Do you have teenage children Funnys, or have to head out on uni visits?
Sometimes I struggle not to pack a large hip flask to feed my inner Father Jack.
So why is she coming OP?

There is a difference between someone saying 'get the kettle on love, I'll be there in about half an hour' to them 'barking' 'make sure you put your kettle on, in your kitchen, before you sit and await my arrival in half an hour'.

If the OPs mum's not saying it in a friendly way then I can see why that'd get her back up.

Is she controlling in other ways OP

mountain meet mole hill

my pil are always late for everything because the insist on "just having a cup of tea" 2 seconds before going out anywhere.

Infuriating.

wow, she is driving 100 miles and you are moaning about her asking you to have a cup of tea ready for her.....grow up