Just so annoyed, and skint

[Nc4567]

The gas bill just went up, various other expenses mean we need about an extra £100 a month. I work as much as I possibly can. Dh got himself sacked.

Just...argh. For various, possibly identifying, reasons, I only earn a couple of hundred a month and can't possibly earn more. He did something so stupid and pointless and doesn't even seem othered - it's all about how he is goin to get an amazin new job.

Meanwhile, the rent is due, tax credits have randomly stopped paying, the kids are doing my head in and I feel like yelln at him, but that will just get his temper up.

Argh.

Name change, btw.

Sorry, my AIBU is 'to be so annoyed nd stressed and need sympathy'

I think.

No of course you're not being unreasonable.

Sounds like your husband's a bit of a tosser, though.

Can you get on to Tax Credits to sort it out?

Have been on to them, this was before he got sacked. Apparently I only have to panic if it isn't paid by Friday. Which I will be, because the rent goes out then and how the hell else do I pay it?

I'm visiting my parents ATM, 200 miles away. If it wasn't for the school starting in September I would be tempted to just stay here.

Go to the council and start a housing benefit claim immediately. That is your first priority. That will cover a lot of your rent and some of your CT. Get him to try to claim benefits too.

We already get HB, DLA, CTB, CTC, WTC, CB. Although I suppose WTc will go.

We can live off what we get, it is just that w can't cope with nexpectedly having to, on top of the extra unexpected bills.

If he go made redundant, I would just get my head down and get on with it. But he got sacked, for doing something that would obviously get him sacked.

Leave the bastard.

If you are getting DLA, is one of you entitled to Carer's? If the DLA is for a child, are you getting the right amount of CTC, it is higher for a child with a disability?

I think if there is a disabled person in the home, you cannot be cut off even if you have arrears, so if you can't pay all the bill at once, at least there's no risk of not having heating. Also I know there are funds to help pay utility arrears, households with a disabled person and/or child are prioritised.

Have and/or and a un-MN (hug)

Thinking immediately, can you borrow the rent from your parents? Can you do a car boot? Anything valuable to sell?

In the longer term, can any outgoings be reduced? Dh get a temp job? You work 2 jobs?

Been in situation (though dh redundant) and its hell on earth. I know how you feel. You have my sympathies.

What proactive measures is your dh taking? I would expect him to job hunting at least an hour every day minimum, and sorting out every benefit your entitled to. He got you into this mess, he can get you out.

He says he is sorting out the benefits, but he has said this before, when I was in hospital or too ill. He always does it wrong. I was checking our online bank on m phone in hospital. Sigh. I essentially give him pocket money - he says he can o the bills, but then I find he hasn't been paying them on time and thinks I am too anxious for worrying about paying things on time. Sigh.

I feel awful, because fo most of our time I have been too I'll to work full time or at all, and sometimes he hasn't been able to work because of me. . I'm not annoyed at him for bing unemployed - he has been in and out o temp jobs for ages. This was permanent though, in a big company that wont go bust. Minimum wage part time, but I kept saying that any wage is better than none.

I already work two jobs and do uni on top, despite still being well within the time I was assessed as not even needing to look for work. I mostly started work as therapy. I also do mst of the childcare. He does do most of the housework, but that isn't enough. He has one week before the deadline to apply for his last chance to do uni. He keeps saying h will do it, but he hasn't yet. He could honestly pass a degree standing on his head, but it would involve motivating himself and admitting he doesn't know everything. His mum despairs - she gave up so much to give him the best chances in life and he jus throws them away.

He has already had one interview, for a better job, and he is really pleased with himself, saying that it will turn out to be a good thing.

I know we can survive on benefits, we have done it before. I just don't think he should have made us have to.

Last night he told me I shouldnt worry - his parents will help with th rent.

I am worried though.

Feel like going round and telling them exactly how he got sacked and how useless he is being, but what good would tht do?

Oh, and, as usual in stressful times, he is giving up smoking. He always lasts just long enough to get away with shouting and slamming doors, then starts again.

'my dad will give us £200 to cover the rent'
'that doesn't cover the rent...'
'Yes it does, stop worrying. We already have £350 in th bank.'
'...rent is £600'

How does an adult not know how much their own rent is? It goes from the joint account, every month I am worrying about it and he doesn't care.

How did he get sacked?

He sounds a complete waste of space. You'd be better off without him.

H got sacked for describing exactly how he would like one of his supervisors to die. On Facebook.

Dickhead.

you'd do much better as a single parent.

He sounds like a teenager
Sorry you're having such a tough time OP, the never-ceasing bloody worry is horrible when you're skint, I hope you find a way around it

seriously, you should consider leaving this guy, you sound like you'd be a wholr lot better off alone with your kids and your sanity

let him go back to his parents and never grow up

I'm so angry for you Nc. No decent dad or husband risks a decent job and the livelihoods of his wife and children for the sake of facebook. They just don't. :(

Stay at your parents. Change schools. Let this man child sort out the rent and bills himself. I agree with another poster that you would do much better as a single parent. My ex was irresponsible like this and the constant low level anxiety over money drove me to distraction. It was horrible.