DS (14mo) has been going to a childminder for about 6 months now. It's a very large childminders (almost a small nursery) with the childminder herself, her husband, and 4 staff. I like all the staff, but have reservations about one. She frequently says things like "I bet you're so much happier here than at home" (to DS) and "he hasn't wanted anyone but me all day. I think he likes me more than you" (to me), as well as several other comments about how much DS adores her and how great she is with him. She's also frequently telling me he's done things I know he hasn't (like speaking) and seems very eager to make out that he'll do it for her but not me.
I usually let it go. I'm grateful that DS is happy there (he truly loves it) and I don't think there's any malice. I think she's just a little naive and doesn't think before she speaks. It does bug me though. DS won't be going there much more anyway as I start maternity leave in 4 weeks, and DH is to be a SAHD.
Anyway, today she mentions that DS is the only child on Saturday. Usually when this is the case the childminder herself has him. This week this employee will be having him. She told me (not asked) that she'll collect DS from my house (I always drop him off) and will be taking him to a party with her friends (early 20's). I don't know where the house is, but she mentioned a "big dog".
I have huge reservations but don't know whether it's because I'm uncomfortable with her, or the situation. DS is used to dogs (We have two big dogs) but I don't know this dog, or the dog owner. I also don't feel comfortable with her taking him to a house full of strangers. It feels like she wants to go to the party, but wants to earn a wage while she's there.
WIBU to ask that she doesn't take him to the party and cares for him at the house as usual?