AIBU to be a pissed off with comments from 'friends'?

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I don't want this to sound like a stealth boast, it isn't. I've lost a lot of weight (approx 5 stone) in the last 20 months or so and I'm proud of it. I feel like it has been hard work but very worth it and I'm happy with myself.

Apologies in advance, its long!

I went out this morning with friends, I haven't seen them in 3 months or so because we moved away so don't see them as often anymore. When I started dieting they were very interested and would ask me about it, asking how it works (slimming world) and that they still have some baby weight that they want to shift and maybe they'd try it. So, at first they were really positive about it.

I made it a rule a long time ago that I only discuss my diet if I'm asked, its one f those topics that bores other people so I try not to bring it up. But, when we are in a restaurant all together and I'm asking to have the dressing on the side or whatever, it always does seem to come up.

When I got down to a size 12 they started saying things like 'ooo, you don't want to lose any more', despite the fact that I wasn't even in the healthy range of the BMI scale yet. I just said that I hadn't set my target yet and would be discussing it wit my SW rep to decided where my healthy range should be. I felt a little annoyed that they brought up the topic (I didn't) just to be a bit negative, but tried to just brush it off.

So, I saw them again this morning for brunch and the first thing they said was 'omg, you need to eat more, look at you, you've lost too much, you look so gaunt, what does your DH think, you've gone too far'. You get the general idea.

I didn't want their opinions, I didn't bring it up. I am not 'too thin', I'm 9 1/2 stone, BMI of 22.15 on the NHS BMI Calculator which is right in the middle of the healthy range.

I ended up leaving the brunch a little early because I felt like I was being attacked by them. Every time the conversation changed to another topic, one of them in particular brought it back to my weight, every time.

AIBU to feel pissed off?? Why, if they had to say something, couldn't they just say well done? Or just shut up and enjoy a rare catch up.
AIBU?

People are obsessed with weight, it's sad but true. I know a lot of people who would talk like this about it.

Wow 5 st well done, Im jealous . Im 5ft 5" and pre DDs hoovered around 9st-9st 6lb, I wasn't too thin. Before I met DH I was about 7 1/2st. It wasn't until I put weight on that friends told me I was too thin before, but it was just the way I was.

They sound jealous to me, but it can be a shock when you havent seen someone for a while, who has lost a lot of weight. I think you notice it around their face first. But they didn't have to mention it.

Totally yanbu. You have achieved loads and you should be proud. I think they should have just said well done, you've hardly become size zero freaky weird posh spice mental or anything. You get to wherever you feel happy, then stop. They're being judgy and unfair.

Well done!

I don't think bmi is the only factor in identifying your healthy range of weight though. At 5'3 I looked too thin and sallow weighing 10st 3. I fitted in size 10 skinny jeans, and that's with wide hips. Losing another stone would have just been wrong for me.

But they're wrong and daft to nag you like that, whether their concern is reasonable or not.

I love whenmy friends get skinny.

Just say "really? Do you think so? I feel fantastic !" good for you, I am 5 foot 4 and weigh 9 and a half stone. I think I am a normal healthy weight and I cycle 70 miles a week so I know I am healthy too.