to refuse to see my health visitor

[mummypig189]

The health visitor knocked on my door today unannounced asking if she could come in.
The point of this visit was obviously just to come and have a nose because non of the children were due any checks although she weighed my youngest.

I was already peed off that she just came in to check up on me for no reason but her questions were so patronising i couldve strangled the silly woman. Heres just a few of the delightful comments she made

"So your expecting again? Unplanned then?"
"Are you still with the father? Does he work? Does he help out? Is he looking after you and the children?"
"How are you/will you cope with number three then?"
"you know theres courses at the local childrens centre for young moms, cooking parenting etc do you want me to phone for you?"
"You do know to put suncream on them in this weather dont you?"

Do you think its unreasonable for me to ask to see another health visitor,when my LO is born in oct?

Im not sure i can deal with the old bat 2 weeks after giving birth!

[TooManyDaisies]

I wonder why she turned up like that? I've never heard of that happening to anyone I know.

I am so grateful to the hv's I've seen (never the same one) who have all been calm, professional and kind. I went to see them about once a month when my baby was born to ask questions, have him checked etc. They were all brilliant.

[OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere]

It happens all the time toomany
It is common practice.
So no need to wonder

[HmmThinkingAboutIt]

marriedinwhite Can I just say your way of dealing with doctors and power imbalance is nothing short of brilliant. Thank you.

[Takver]

Its funny, I've never in recent years (ie once obviously not a young teenager) been addressed by just my first name by a medical person.

Receptionist always calls out "Joanna Bloggs" - which makes sense as (a) there may be other Mrs Bloggs waiting, and (b) s/he doesn't know whether I prefer Mrs or Ms.

Doctor generally doesn't use my name at all but generally says something along the lines of "Hello, how are you".

And IME the doctors are generally referred to in the community as "Fred Jones" (or sometimes Doctor Max / Doctor Jane for the more well known local characters)

[StarlightMcKenzie]

Not sure I 'get' their role tbh.
HV came round for 3rd, when 2 weeks old asked if we ever co-slept and advised edge of bed, no duvets etc.

I told her I knew how to co-sleep safely in a house but we were going camping that weekend and coukd she advise on how not to lose the baby in my sleeping bag.

She could not!

[Sevillemarmalade]

I don't think HVs should ever arrive unannounced. After moving to a new area I checked in with the local health centre, had DS weighed etc, and the lovely HV there told me not to bother coming again as I was pg and should put my feet up.
I was surprised and annoyed when another HV called a week later and insisted on making a home visit. I tried to make it clear it was unnecessary but it didn't get through. She arrived and was utterly useless; never met a more incompetent person in my life. I wrote a letter of complaint and thankfully was never bothered again.

[Caitlynsmummy1114]

Can i ask you is it common practice to tell first time mum with 8 week prem baby if not having 3 meals a day dont give anything. My little girl has reflux and corrected age 5 months. Gp and consultant said they can see she not ready for 2 meals let alone 3. But hv adamant if she doesnt have 3 meals dont give anything not even bottle.

[melanieb32]

I am currently 32 weeks pregnant and still working, I finish on 24 July, I have just had a text message saying my HV has made an appointment to come and see me on 27 July but if inconvenient to ring. I rang to say the baby won't even be here then and she said its just an introduction meeting before the baby comes and it then cuts down on the visit when the baby's here, apparently its an opportunity to complete some paperwork and for her to introduce herself and her role. My MW has never mentioned this nor has anybody else, is this normal?

[HypodeemicNerdle]

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Start your own new thread for advice melanieb32

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[WhetherOrNot]

Seconded that melanieb32 start her own thread. WHY do people resurrect old threads where everybody has moved on.......just WHY?