To not expect this from my boyfriend over a spider?

[anditwasallyellow]

Last night I discovered that my boyfriend is even more scared of spiders than I am. I discovered a few weeks ago that he is scared of moths too.

So we're watching tv and a mahoosive spider starts walking along the floor, I scream and bf jumps up and stands on the chair. Cue me screaming 'get it get it before it goes under the sofa', him jumping up and down on the sofa even more. Then me screaming 'you're a man do something, hoover it up'. He screamed that he couldn't because it might get out of the air hole in the pipe. After 5 minutes of us both scrwaming and me threatening to get the man next door to catch it he stretched the hoover pipe out (it was already out) from the safety of standing on the sofa and got it. He explained afterwards that he only stood on the sofa because he believed it not to be a house spider but a tarantula. I have severe arachnaphobia but even I have never stood on a chair.

aibu the think he should man up what use are we together if we are both this pathetic?

So its ok for you to be scared, but not him. Just trying to clarify.
As far as I know phobias are not gender based.

No use at all. In every household there needs to be one Designated Spider Removal Person. Fact.

If you say he's more scared than you of spiders, then it's understandable he had an extreme reaction.
Maybe you could invest in a spider catcher you could use at arms length.

I never knew that arachnaphobia was for females only

Why didn't you hoover it up then?

Yanbu. He needs to man up and protect woman! (cave man styleee) my dh isnt keen on spiders either but I expect him to deal with them (I'm a bit scared too)

Come on everyone knows that spider catxhing is the mans job.

I am only joking btw this post is supposed to be tongue in cheek but seriously like you say dawnofthedee there has to be a designated spider catcher.

YABU, why is he immune to arachnophobia? I think you're both being U really (unless you live in a country where spiders are poisonous) but I accept that phobias aren't rational.

YABU and sexist.

All you need is a tumbler and a piece of card or a used envelope. Catch the spider under the upside down tumbler. Slide the card underneath it to entrap it. Take it outside and empty it out. Be a woman and show that you are not scared. Does he get on a chair when mice appear?

I have no time for wimpies.

Honestly guys I am only joking. We've been together a few years but this is the first time we've encountered a giant spider and there was me thinking we knew everything about eachother. It really was hilarious my son has no hope.

no way bulldog hands too close. We have decided to invest in a spider catcher. I've not had a mouse yet but have in the last few weeks found out he is afraid of spiders, moths and butterflys. I managed to overcome my fear of moths by telling myself they are just ugly butterflys.

Don't know what we're going to do when we go camping in a few weeks.

leave the bastard

(someone had to say it)

I think I might have to badgers tell you what if someone had been there to film it we'd have made a fortune on youtube or you've been framed. Don't know what the neighbours must have thought about all the screaming.

You're right op. There should be a designated spider catcher in every household. Unfortunately in this house that role falls to me

Let's hope he doesn't keel over stone dead if he clocks a monster slug like one of the whoppers that live round here! The wet summer has lead to a bumper year for them, and they're all over the place. Bleurgh.

Has he got any other redeeming features? Otherwise, what badgers said...

Yabu. There's always going to be a hierarchy of spider-frightness and you've just discovered you're not on the top rung. Nothing to do with gender - dm or dsis clear spiders for df as well as me. Of there's no-one else available we throw books at them til they're all dead. And then squabble about who's going to clear it up.

Stop being such a wuss OP. What hope do women have of being equal when all the nay-sayers have to do is locate a minute arachnid to turn you into a puddle of squealing girlishness?
You should have grabbed the hoover womanfully and sorted out the problem yourself. Although I'm appalled that the solution is usually to kill the poor little thing.

I scream at most things. OH screams only when trapped. Last year on holiday he would take an evening bath and the moths would fly in and attack him. Lots of splashing and screaming each night. We take turns protecting each other. I will chase the spider if I'm nearest because I cannot bear it getting under a cupboard and hiding only to come out and kill me in my sleep. But I scream the whole time I'm catching it. (And by "catch" I mean "squish")

So why can't a bloke prance about jump on the sofa when faced with a killer spider? Sorry, I don't mean to belittle your fear,but you kinda did that aready by feeling that a man isn't allowed to be afraid of the same thing that scares you. Sorry, YABU

fallen this was no 'little' thing it was a beast. I know it is cruel and unfortunate but it's either that or me pass out on the floor which I'm sure I would eventually.

I've been like this since I was a kid I stuck my arm in a bush and pulled it out it was covered in spiders. Ever since then I hyperventilate when I see a big spider and get all hot and dizzy. It's funny but it's kind of not aswell.

So he's not allowed to be scared of spiders because he has a penis ?

Bigger than a dinner plate?
Somehow I doubt it, what could it do to harm you?

BUT in my defence my boyfriend claims that he is messy, because he has a penis, doesn't like cooking, because he has a penis and even that he needs afternoons naps because of his penis. So he can bloody well catch spiders because of it too!