To not expect this from my boyfriend over a spider?

[anditwasallyellow]

Last night I discovered that my boyfriend is even more scared of spiders than I am. I discovered a few weeks ago that he is scared of moths too.

So we're watching tv and a mahoosive spider starts walking along the floor, I scream and bf jumps up and stands on the chair. Cue me screaming 'get it get it before it goes under the sofa', him jumping up and down on the sofa even more. Then me screaming 'you're a man do something, hoover it up'. He screamed that he couldn't because it might get out of the air hole in the pipe. After 5 minutes of us both scrwaming and me threatening to get the man next door to catch it he stretched the hoover pipe out (it was already out) from the safety of standing on the sofa and got it. He explained afterwards that he only stood on the sofa because he believed it not to be a house spider but a tarantula. I have severe arachnaphobia but even I have never stood on a chair.

aibu the think he should man up what use are we together if we are both this pathetic?

There is a Mumsnetter who pays an odd job man to remove spiders.

Forty quid a time iirc and well worth the money

Oh, fair enough if your BF is playing the sexism card then he gets to do all the manly things. My friends have been married for years and are very happy along those lines.

How about the 2 of you go and get help with tackling your phobias? I've read articles where some zoos help with arachnophobia etc, and that way you can both deal with the spiders without freaking out and killing the poor things.

Haha, actually fiveflowers I reckon I could overcome my fear for forty quid a spider.

ah... well that changes things!

yy if he pulls the 'becuase i am a bloke' card he hasn't a leg or a chair to stand on

(Laughed my head off at DH being attacked in the bath by moths, excellent mental picture)

badger that made me laugh. Moths do attack though I remember my dad use to insist on sitting in his room with the windows wide open and all the lights on in Summer. We'd get swarms of them (or whatever a group of moths are called). I had to protect bf from a giant moth in the kitchen a few weeks ago he couldn't make himself a drink because it was in there poor boy.

My DP is scared shitless of spiders. It's my job to get anything from the shed. He's a manly man but does housework and dinners. HIBU if he wants to play the man card when it suits him. You can be VERY manly and still be a good partner.

You shouldn't stand for him playing the man card, but then he shouldn't be playing it.

what you need to do is... get in your car, drive to france and stock up on some of their fantastic insect killer spray. comes in a green can.

once you are home, any time a spider rears its ugly head just give it a blast of FIKS, which can be sprayed from a safe distance, it will then do a fantastic death fandango before dying.

OP I've had to not mind spiders because DP is terrified!

One casually dangled from the lampshade yesterday, waved it's legs about in a 'COME AT ME BRO' sort of fashion. I've never seem DP move as quickly. I felt awful because when I tried to catch it it scrurried up and burnt its legs on the bulb :(

we have bug screens on our windows - we can have open windows and lights on with abandon

but don't walk on the lawn in the evening or you risk death from loss of blood thanks to the mozzies

bamboo can you get this amazing stuff you speak of online?

Only problem is when spiders attack from above the doorframe or on the ceiling you risk them falling on your head.

So, if you find a spider you go looking for the nearest person with a penis to solve the problem? Do you think they're going to bash the spider to death with it?

maybe? i'll have to email my mum as i have run out of it and can't remember its name.

Suggest you move to the country. DH used to be like this but I don't mind 'em. However after 10 or more years of country dwelling he doesn't bat an eyelid at spiders ( arent they called loofahs on MN???) However cats bringing in live pressies: deffo a man's job..,

fuck spiders in august this has made me feel faint . Will now avoid bushes op

I feel your pain anditwas I have a fear of spiders that makes me squel when I see one. DP is blind so I have to deal with them. Makes me cringe every time. Blind or not he is the man of the house!!! (tongue very much in cheek before anyone gets on their highhorse) :)

Yuck, I'll deal with any number of spiders rather than the beastie I've just trapped and thrown out. Despite the cat getting very distressed and pointing out loudly that it was a waste of a perfectly good plaything.
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I'm laughing at what Badgers said!

Will everyone just stop fucking talking about spiders, please?

Oh same here voddie. my dh doesn't 'see' either, so all the nasties in the house fall to me. I have to take a deep breath and just get on with it.

agree with DawnOfTheDee "In every household there needs to be one Designated Spider Removal Person"

In our house its ds age 8 and he's really good at it!

Leave The Bastard

Reminds me of that seen in Annie Hall, when Woody Allen is invited round to "deal" with ex-girlfriend Diane Keaton's spider-in-the-bath. Its very funny.

get a cat. they are perfect spider/moth/grim insect killers :-D