new neighbours, taking the p*ss!! helppp

[claudz1990]

about 6 weeks ago we have had new neighbours, there are 6 children ageing from 2 to13, Our street was quite a respectful street but now its turned into a typical estate, the children are constantly running through my front garden and i have repeatedly asked them not to due to the fact that it gets boggy and ruins my garden. same with the back garden they just do as they pleased have tried talking to the parents does not work, I have stone borders in my front garden and are now around the street, they just leave there bikes on my property and the parents do not see what is wrong with this. I have 3 children ageing from 5 weeks to 4 years and they are in good routines in bed at 7 every night now these kids are out screaming til at least 9 at night including the 2 year old they don't watch them and they are in and out the road my health visitor had to slam on the other day because of this. The 2 year old is not the most stable but plays in the middle of the street cars are always breaking due to this. the whole street is stressed and we all have had words but nothing is working!! they have just disturbed us all. what do i do???

Am lol at all the slating of ha and council tenants yet the people you have the issue with privately rent just like you !
And heaven forbid kids play outside ! What would you prefer they sit on xboxes all day?

I wouldn't want neighbours' children running in and out of or over my property just for shortcuts. Are the gardens really communal areas but it's not made clear in the tenancy agreement?

OP YANBU. Your new neighbours sound ghastly. Unfortunately you said some words/phrases that will get the hackles up here. Ignore them.

Keep on at your landlord, and get your other neighbours to complain to them also. I don't know how feasible it is to threaten to withhold payment until they do something but it's an option.

Topkob (great name btw ) have you not read the thread? And would you really enjoy having your children's sleep disrupted at all hours, children running through your garden, and being told to fuck off when you ask them not to? It's not a question of "playing outside" as well you know.

I don't think you are BU. and I wouldn't let my 4 yo play out on the front (footpath or road) either. It's awful when you've tried hard to make everything nice in your garden to have it disrespected by people who don't share your standards. But, you can't choose your neighbours I'm afraid and 6 kids must be a lot for their mother to watch over constantly. If these kids really are causing havoc, you need to call community police. They are quite pro-active in our area (which is a typical estate!) and have organised bike and scooter ramps on nearby waste ground for the kids to use.

We currently have a similar problem in our street - although the children are a little older but very disruptive - late night noise, dangerous around traffic (esp with their new mini-motorbike), minor vandalism and a verbal abuse when you ask either the children, or their mum to keep the noise down/stop damaging property.

Speak to the council - we have an anti-social behaviour team who are getting involved and trying to "work with" the family and just generally letting them known that their behaviour is being monitored.

Some of the neighbours are completing noise/anti-social behaviour diaries that the council have supplied.

Log every incident with the 101 police number, your community officer will then be aware of the problem and you should get more patrols etc.

Its not a perfect solution, but in our street it has at least reduced the problems we have had (so far - fingers crossed!).

Oh jeez...I read the 1st few replies you got about the 'typical estate' comment and gave up.

I grew up on a 'typical estate' - sorry but it was what I would call it. I am not being a snob. This doesn't mean everyone that lives on an estate.

I had a very happy and loving family home, wonderful parents who both worked hard and yes our house was on a 'housing association' estate - it was lovely on the inside.

However our neighbours over the years that have surrounded our little cul de sac were horrendous. There was a crack den next door which was constantly being raided - the woman had her 3 DC's taken away because of drugs, prostitution, violence and neglect which was horrendous to watch and be helpless against.

My poor mum & dad are still there now and have several neighbours with children that sound exactly as your describing - however add spitting, swearing, destroying all plants, fences, trees and signs to your list. They are out at all hours, throw their rubbish on the front garden and are always in the road.

I don't know what you can do but if you solve the problem please let me know so I can tell them what to do!

the trouble is this sort of thing seems to be very common. Estates and cul-de-sacs which were once lovely are ruined by certain families who just don't know how to behave and don't care if their bad behaviour impacts on others. I suspect the mother may want the kids out because they are all on top of each other inside

it sounds like they have too many kids for the space. how big are the houses?

FYI

OP has apologised for the bad wording of typical estate several times.

Can we please keep to the issue of the unruly brats children...

We own our house and there are tenants next door. They have loud parties nearly every weekend at the moment which usually go on until 2am. As long as it's not raining their children play out unsupervised. They are 4 and 7. They drop litter on the green at the front of our houses and even left a broken scooter there. They graffiti with chalk on the walls of people's houses and one of their friends chalked big swear words on the side wall of our house. The boy also climbs up the wall of an old lady's house and just sits there. One of my neighbours spoke to the Mum about this and she was pleasant but did nothing. She's always pleasant to your face but does as she pleases (as does her partner)The children have a few friends that come from the rough place where they used to live and cause problems where we live. Parents are nowhere to be seen.
I second the idea of explaining to your landlord that you need a fence, but what about a sprinkler that only comes on when people go near it? Or, why not get in the habit of hosing your front garden when they are playing out.Wouldn't it b a shame if they accidentally of course got soaked. Or if you can't get a fence what about planting some big bushes/plants to prevent them leaving their bikes there.

Why so many sarcastic and degrading remarks? I am totally on the side of Claudz. and all the street is stressed about this family, not just her. How can any sane person approve of a 2year-old being left alone to play in a street where cars are coming and going ? It is bad that fencing your front garden is not allowed - why? It is not arrogance, but self respect and self discipline which seems lacking in so many people these days, that Claudz and DH can be proud of.

I think the idea of a sprinkler on your front lawn is inspired! It shouldn't take long for them to get fed up with getting soaked!

To be fair, I think you can find anti-social and selfish neighbours anywhere. Money does not buy good manners or kindness or consideration for others. I grew up in one of the 'poshest' areas in the country, but we still had certain children climbing on cars and roofs and throwing stuff. Moving may help, but it may not...

I also think families go through different phases. I have lived in my current home 20+ years. When my kids were little, I found one set of neighbours v difficult to live near - their teens were noisy and rude and anti-social. Now everyone has grown older, and those neighbours cause me no problems... But I bet some people on the street think my son is a nightmare! Your neighbours' kids do sound difficult, but it could be much worse if they were rowdy teens... Or DIY fanatics... Or fond of mowing lawns at 6am on a Sunday!

Why resurrect a thread from 17/8?

funny that , when i lived in london many years ago my partner was involved with some "right tasty geezers" who had the most stunning home(S) in Virginia Waters !>>>was one hellovan eyeopener !!!