To not want toys and bears from the flea market

[Svrider]

My DM keeps giving my 3dc toys and bears from the flea Market (ie second hand)
She gets something every week
I really appreciate the thought, but hate the idea of second hand stuff
My oldest dd had now told mil who also thinks this isn't on
Id be happy with £1 shop items, crayons or even nothing at all, rather than other people's rubbish
Aibu

There are "vintage" toys going for serious money on eBay because they had fab designs and parents who had them as kids want them again for their own children as they're better quality than what's available now. Look on eBay for the fisher price plane, garage or house. shows age

If she's buying any old tat with impunity, or things that are broken then UANBU. However if you just don't like the idea of 2nd hand, your girls are potentially missout out on a treat because you're preferring new over classic toys. Do you have any idea how much you can get duplo / lego for in Charity shops compared with new?

Did I need a flaming over my last post? Seriously?

And actually I wrote a nice post in support of the op even though fundamentally I disagree with her. Go grind your axe somewhere

It's the MIL who thinks this 'isn't on' -- the oldest DD told her somehow that some toys came from the flea market and that was the MIL's response, if I have read the OP correctly.

Also, the mum is buying toys on a weekly basis this isn't a case of an older generation making do and mending (or washing) it's a weekly piling up of toys that are not asked for and clearly not welcome. If she really does this 50 times a year, that is a serious amount of tat to try to put away neatly and also far too much for the DCs to really appreciate and play with. And the cost adds up too.

Do the DCs really need toys on a weekly basis that are 'new to them'?

Maybe the DM needs to be included more in the GCs' lives, maybe she would like to bake with them or read with them or go on outings with them if she is up to it, and stop trying to compensate for something lacking, if that is what she is feeling and if that is behind the deluge of toys.

Plus, all the washing is going to be almost as environmentally unsound as buying new and packaged.

I think you make a good point, math, about the being involved in the kids lives - an activity with the kids sounds like a fab compromise

Thanks to all
I have made the following decisions

1. Take gifts in which they are intended ie love
2. Clean them to an inch of their lives
3. Play for a while

1. eBay shall become my friend!

I have to say I barely buy them anything as I already have plenty to sort thru

DM does spend a lot of time with the children (more than me on the days if I'm at work and she's looking after them for me!)

Does she have an issue with you working? Is she trying to make up for that?