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Original poster

to think deleting members of your family on FB is childish?

57 replies

OnlyWantsOne · 13/08/2012 11:54

I have lost some ones phone number, my SIL thought I'd send them a quick FB message to ask if they got the present I sent them over 10 days ago - (I sent it 1st class so they must have or its got lost)

and they've deleted me off FB....

Bloody hell, Any one would think we were 14 year olds...

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honeytea · 13/08/2012 11:56

Are you sure they are still on FB? If they delete their profile it comes up as you being blocked.

If she really has deleted you I hope you don't send her a pressie again!

WorraLiberty · 13/08/2012 11:56

She deleted you because you asked about the present or you logged in and found she deleted you before that?

HecateHarshPants · 13/08/2012 11:57

Grin oh dear. someone interpreted that message as a criticism, didn't they? Oh well, she'll get over it, I'm sure.

I'm guessing that however you'd asked - fb, email, text, call - she'd have got the hump just the same.

confusedgypsychick · 13/08/2012 11:57

I deleted my DB. I got sick of him posting about his meth & crack trips and his "attempts" to get custody of my DN.

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OnlyWantsOne · 13/08/2012 11:58

No she's still on FB, shes "friends" with my brother, other members of the family - my DH too, we have 12 friends in common.

Deleted me prior to me asking if she recieved the present. Havent asked her now, frankly I dont care if she got it or not now!!!

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DozyDuck · 13/08/2012 11:58

What did you send her??? Grin was it anti wrinkle cream?

HecateHarshPants · 13/08/2012 11:59

oh, sorry. I thought you were saying that you asked her and then she deleted you.

Maybe she did a cull.

Did you talk a lot on fb?

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OnlyWantsOne · 13/08/2012 11:59

LOL @ Dozy

maybe I should... and some lighten the fuck up pills

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FutTheShuckUp · 13/08/2012 12:01

My husbands little (24 year old) brat of a niece deleted me off Facebook for asking her to clarify a comment my kids told me she had said. I am over the moon to be honest as she also used to tittle tattle telling DH who's not in Facebook about some of my status updates

NovackNGood · 13/08/2012 12:03

Do you post a lot of inane nonsense that she could have been getting fed up of having?

wannabedomesticgoddess · 13/08/2012 12:05

I have had people "delete" me only to add me again so I actually think fb deletes people itself.

As for deleting family, no it does not make someone childish. Being someones family does not guarantee you access to their life.

I have deactivated my fb for the specific purpose that I dont want my family knowing all about my life. We dont speak. IMO if they want to know something they can ask me.

I know thats not the same as your situation. But actually, taking offence over your SIL deleting you on fb is the only childish thing I can see here.

oranges · 13/08/2012 12:05

I deleted my inlaws, because I realised they were getting annoyed whenever I posted stuff about a day out (that we hadn't included them). I get on fine with them in real life, and didn't like the idea of them seething about stuff I do.

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OnlyWantsOne · 13/08/2012 12:06

Novack - not especially, shes still a "liker" of my business page - which is a fuck lot more boring

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OnlyWantsOne · 13/08/2012 12:07

ha, im not offended, I genuinely think it's quite funny - it doesnt look like shes going to thank me for the present...

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stressheaderic · 13/08/2012 12:08

I deleted my two BILs because they are very much fairweather relatives so I didn't want them knowing about our daily lives. Oh, and they are a pair of cocks.

NovackNGood · 13/08/2012 12:09

Well since you post threads like "ha, im not offended, I genuinely think it's quite funny " maybe she finds you rather immature.

ddubsgirl · 13/08/2012 12:12

my brother did this to my & my family havent spoken since-his friend posted on his wall an offer to come and sort me out wtf!i still have no idea what i did to upset him!

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OnlyWantsOne · 13/08/2012 12:13

Yes because deleting your SIL is completely mature, after they've gone to the effort of selecting you a special gift and posting it to you... Hmm

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GlassofRose · 13/08/2012 12:17

It's not childish. I've deleted members of my family because they seem to have Narcissistic personality disorders. I also deleted my uncle because he keeps posting pictures of him and his "dad" but the man in his picture is just his mother's new husband - I don't want to see it and commenting "That's not your dad" would be childish.

Kladdkaka · 13/08/2012 12:20

YABU and taking FB way to seriously. I deleted my SIL because she's forever posting pictures in support of animal welfare charities. Nothing wrong with that, except who want to log in and be confronted with the picture of dog with its face half ripped off as a result of dog fighting Shock.

I also delete my mother because she feels the need to 'like' every single thing I post and does my head in. I re-accept her when she notices and complains and then delete her again at the next available moment :o

My brother got deleted because he's an arse.

ObviouslyInvisible · 13/08/2012 12:27

I don't think it's childish. I deleted most of DH's family because I want FB to be for my friends, not family. I only kept the ones I was actually friends with on a social level.

Hardly any of my side of the family are on there, and they live away so I kept them as friends so we can keep in touch and they could see DS grow up. DH's family are all local to us so we see them all the time.

vj32 · 13/08/2012 12:32

I deleted several relatives from Facebook for 'liking' loads of racist/offensive crap. I don't think they had really thought through the implications of it, but still, I didn't want to see it.

SlightlySuperiorPeasant · 13/08/2012 12:34

YABU. I deleted and blocked my SIL because I was fed up with self-pitying, attention-seeking status updates 5 times a day and being tagged in photos that had nothing to do with me. I played the 'Sorry to hear that hun, what's up?" game for 4 years and I feel that was a good innings.

Groovee · 13/08/2012 12:37

I deleted my dads other family who caused me bother and they went running to our auntie who then had the gall to phone my dad who then had a go at me.

Was fun when someone got married as my auntie was annoyed we weren't there and got her daughter in the USA to keep asking me why we weren't there. They wanted some ammununition to go running to my dad with and it backfired as I wouldn't give them it.

It's my friends list, I'll do what I want.

ViviPru · 13/08/2012 12:38

I think I was deleted by my SiL from my nephew's account as I unwittingly 'liked' a friend's Inbetweeners link that came up in my news feed as the quote

ViviPru Likes "Oh, please just work you ugly cunt!" Confused

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