to think deleting members of your family on FB is childish?

[OnlyWantsOne]

I have lost some ones phone number, my SIL thought I'd send them a quick FB message to ask if they got the present I sent them over 10 days ago - (I sent it 1st class so they must have or its got lost)

and they've deleted me off FB....

Bloody hell, Any one would think we were 14 year olds...

I would probably ring her and just ask her. Unless there's history between the two of you, she would have no reason to delete you so just ask her.

And I don't really understand why 'childish' or 'immature' is used as a snidey insult on here. I'm very childish sometimes (not for anything important, at those times I am terribly grown up and mature ) and frequently spend time doing ridiculous things to make my kids laugh.

Necessary, in my case.

Its certainly childish getting in a tizzie about it.

I recently deleted my uncle because I was fed up of his racist crap. My facebook is certainly a happier place since!

OP, if your real life relationship with your SIL is unchanged then you are being childish to be bothered about it.

I deleted a couple of cousins in last few months. They were making pretty offensive comments between them - racist, homophobic, other stuff - and I decided I didn't want people like that on my FB. So I deleted them. Didn't ever mention it to them - not as if I see them tbh (very odd family occasions, maybe)

Nobody's obliged to keep you as a 'friend' on fb. I've deleted a few of the inlaws for posting offensive/unwanted/personal crap on my wall or tagging me in photos I don't like or want to be associated with. It's not just them though, I delete anyone who offends or irritates me.

Why would she delete you though?

I deleted SIL and had to re-add her back because she went bleating to her mummy and daddy about it, so it was keeping the peace. She's 36 by the way.

She is most definitely not the sort of person I would have ever been friends with in RL, in fact I would have run a mile or more from someone like her. I just happen to be married to her brother who is so different, you'd never believe they were related.

BIL deleted me about 18 months ago now. I've only seen him once since then and neither of us mentioned it, and now he's emigrated anyway so it's likely that we will never speak of it.

I was a bit surprised and pissed off, but really, we are not 13, it's not the end of the world, so I told myself to get over it and that was that.

The reason I think he deleted me is because I didn't go to PIL's anniversary party as we are not on speaking terms. DH only told me about the party on the day it was due to take place and I told him to go but he didn't want to. PILs have told a lot of lies about me, have disowned DH more than once, and caused a lot of trouble but they also cannot understand why we are upset and angry with them and find it baffling that we would not go and celebrate with them (my being called a bitch by MIL, them wishing DH had never met me and them telling DH that he was a tiny part of their lives that they considered to be over now might have had something to do with it, to say nothing of their offensive comments about the babies we lost).

The reason I was pissed off with him is that he has never asked for my side of the story and because I don't have MIL's habit of ringing the entire family to cry and weep and insist they take sides, I've never given him my side. He's believed MIL's lies and the only comment he has ever made on it was passed on to me by his wife, who said he knows what his mother can be like but that she is too old to change so we all just have to accept her behaviour.

This is the strangest deletion I have had though. Recently I was deleted by a friend because I liked a picture from a group that had the word 'llama' in the group name. A few mutual friends were liking pictures and quotes from this group and this particular person had suddenly decided that it meant we were all in fact secretly and sneakily calling her a llama by stealth. "But why would all be talking about llama's if you didn't mean me?" She deleted us all, convinced that dramallama-gate, as it is now known, was all about her

but I dont post rascist crap or photos of dogs with their faces ripped off - we chatted on FB chat, and would message eachother about DC etc, and we see each other at least once every 6 weeks or so at family stuff,

Odd shes deleted you then, If I get deleted I think I've either pissed someone off or I've bored them to death

maybe its in error?

You dont play Farm Ville or owt like that do you? Thats a deletable offence right there.

I deleted my sister. Enough of her bollocks updates!

I deleted (and blocked) H when we parted company as I was sick of all his my ex wife 'jokes'. Only to find out that his sister and cousin had delete me for no apparent reason!
Kept his mother on there for a bit but then got fed up of seeing her posting pics of her her other grandchild and none of my dc's do she was swiftly deleted too
Something very therapeutic about pressing a big red delete button sometimes, if only it could be done in RL
Btw op could u just add her again and see if she accepts?

You don't post regularly stuff on your business page do you because I delete people that plug up my news feed trying to sell me things.

YANBU

BUT

I have just deleted my entire FB account in a fit of pique after posting a lovely baby picture and a comment acknowledging and celebrating my 13 year old dd's birthday and it being roundly ignored by every one of my 120 'friends'.

I never thought I'd turn into the sort of person who flounces off a social networking site because I feel I'm being ignored.

I'm off to the doctors later in the week to ask to go back on AD's.

It's facebook, why take it so seriously? I cull mine on a regular basis. she probably just didn't want you on there any more which is fair enough, fb is for keeping in contact with people you don't see/speak too much surely?

Haven't deleted family members yet though, I've blocked a load of them, especially my Iranian cousins, who I have never met and only started talking too two months ago, as they constantly post things like "I love you! We give you big kiss every day!" and hundreds of pictures of 'cute' bunnies and children on my wall My British cousin got blocked for incessantly going on about how much he luvs his babee angle xxxx Every. Sodding. Waking. Hour.

I have hardly anyone on my fb, I frequently have friend culls too. Mostly I just don't care about the inane shit people post. If people get annoyed if I delete them that's their issue not mine.

Just because you are related to someone and get on with them in RL doesn't make them the most annoying irritating twat in the world and a potential bust waiting to happen on FB.

Deleting someone is fair enough. I think its childish to get upset over it. You are investing too much of your relationship on social media.

this is why I won't have ILs on FB. Nothing good can come from it.

My BIL deleted his entire family because his (crazy) ex (who still has him by the balls) doesn't like any of us (feeling is mutual)....

Only thing that bothers me about it is every time she gets her hooks into him he ends up in an absolute state. But this is the third (fifth? Ninth?) time he's gone back for more so I'm more of the "crack on and don't come crying" mindset now.

I use "aquaintances" a lot - there are a load of people on my friends list who must think I never use FB because as aquaintances they can't see my comments hehehe! Likewise I have my pictures of my daughter visible to only a handful of people after someone got share happy and sent her picture to a randomer she only knows online - and who has no security settings. Not impressed.

It might be a glitch - I'd phone her and ask her.

My bil and his family ignored a picture of his late grandfather that I put on in tribute even though I messaged them to let them know it was on. They only seem to "like" their own activities......I think I have to let them be really but fb disappoints me sometimes.

Maybe she got the pressie, though it was shit and then deleted you

i deleted my exhusband a few years before we broke up,he kept on putting stupid messages on my wall and getting stroppy with any male who liked or commented on anything on my wall.
i figured it would be less embarrising if he just pissed on me instead.