To think not stopping your child screaming out the window is rude?

[Pippinintherain]

The house we back on to has a child who stands at an open window and screams, top of her voice for hours.

We've been woken up at between 5 and 6 am at least 3 times a week by it and yesterday afternoon she stood there for 2 hours doing it.

No-one tells her to stop, she is about 7ish but has some LD. I know it isn't her fault but surely you would move her away or encourage her to do something else.

We sleep with the window closed and earplugs in yet it still wakes us up.

I feel a right bitch for being irritated but grrrr.

Flame away.

Pippin, I don't think you deserve a flaming - in fact I think you're being very reasonable about the entire affair probably moreso that I would be

The hanging out of the window is concerning. I would be inclined to drop a letter round saying I was concerned for her safety and perhaps window locks might be an idea, to avoid the confrontation of actually speaking to them. It may well be that they can't stop her screaming, but it does sound like they are allowing her (possibly unintentionally) to behave in a very dangerous manner.

Take away the possibly has LD that OP mentioned and it should to ring alarm bells to everyone that a 7yr old is unaccompanied at an open window at 5am for up 2 hours a day, every day with no one approaching her...

Why are we accepting of it because she might have SN?

I think that the parents possibly, as one poster has already said, do not know she is on the windowsil. They might think she is in her room - noisy but safe. They might think she cant reach it to open it and they might be grateful for the heads up...
I am parent with a child with ASD and at times I need a heads up so I have atleast half a chance of keeping up with him!!

Go round and tell with them with that you are concerned about her being near a window and see what happens... it might not make ANY difference, it might be they are currently 'in battle' to change the behaviour and if that is the case as other have said there is not a lot you or any more that the parents can do... however it might be something they can quickly nip in the bud with window locks.

I was caught on the windowssil with a friend singing out of the window... the neighbours dobbed us in - we were 10 and absolutely no SEN and knew better... ooooh my mum was SO grateful to that neighbour and I got into such trouble LOL!

YANBU

if i was you i would probably feel the same

post a note through their door explaining the situation (whether you choose to name yourself thats up to you)

atleast thats a start and make sure you mention the safety aspect (window locks cant be that expensive and the cost really shouldnt come into it)

this thread is going a bit ott with all the maybe reasons and so forth,you need to start at the begining and make the problem aware and work from that

best of luck

Thank you all.

It has been good to get opinions from both sides.

Will put a note through the door mentioning the fact we're concerned about her hanging out the window.

Apologies if I've offended anyone or seemed insensitive.

Pippin I'd just knock and mention it neighbour over back did to us years ago after she noticed cray neighbour roaring up at DS was really greatful I was out working but DH was here.

Pippin I don't think you have been insensitive at all. I don't think anyone was trying to flame you at all just canvassing opinions.

Not insensitive, we'd all like a magic snooze button on our beloved children. Or an off switch.

That kind of sounds like dd 5 (ASD) who when trying to put her to bed, stands at the window talking. the window is locked so she cannot fall out. We put her back to bed each time with a threaten to smack if she does that again. sometimes she does that in the night whilst we are asleep. SS wtaf!!!!! what can ss services do about her sleeping, the paed said there is not a lot you can do. children with ASD do have problems sleeoping, but we are coping well and do not need ss involvement thank you. its up to the families to decide not some busybodies well meaning neighbours

she does not do that every night, more like bed time, eventually at 10-10.30 she drops off to sleep. once asleep she normally sleeps through till 7/8 ish. because her understanding is limited normal parenting techniques are difficult. we just have to go up at regular intervals to check her and take her down and remind her not to climb the window so it eventually gets through. that is why it does not happen now that often but it used to when she was younger