to think this woman was rude to my DSs and not the other way around??

[songbird33]

I took my DSs (7 and 5) and their friend who is 6 to the local park, and they were really keen to go to McDonalds on the way back so my DS1 shouted 'MCDONALDS' very loudly on the way back to the car. There was a woman, probably in her twenties, sitting in the car reading and she did look up and give DS a strange look (she had the windows open.) This prompted my other DS and their friend to all keep shouting MCDONALDS as I was fumbling around, putting their bags in and so on.

As I was driving off there was quite a long queue of traffic at the lights s we were sort of parallel with this woman's car and my DSs and their friend started shouting MCDONALDS again through the open windows to this woman who had been giving them dirty looks as they were shouting and this time she put her book down and looked at me and said in really terse tones "can't you keep those children under control?"

AIBU to think she was the one being rude? She was parked next to a children's play park and leisure centre and I assumed she was waiting for somebody but if she wanted peace and quiet there were better places to wait? I accept my children shouldn't have been shouting AT her but then they wouldn't have if she hadn't given them a funny look to start with!

Fut

oh sorry fruitizz is one of their five a day, innit?

I was'nt particularly Joking. The O.Ps children did not deliberatly iritaing the woman for fun. A boy shouted, the lady got irritate and the boys seen the funny and ridculous side to her irritation and mocked her and had a laugh, It is no big deal as far as Im concerned. there is a very big over reaction taking place to this situation. If i where the woman I would hope I could see the funny side and if i didn't and where laughed at then Im sure my ego would survive.

and my grin indicated I was laughing at your massive over reaction.

Shouting at people through their car window when they are driving is rude. The Op accepted this and has dealt with it.

I don't think "mocking" people is ever funny.

She looked at them Enthusiactic Troll. Nothing else. Looked at them. So they shouted through her window.

Luckily OP sees that's not acceptable behaviour.

Isn't Fruitizz that new drink they are selling?
You must pop in a fair bit if you know about it.
Do you leave the kids outside?

Hmm Im not sure they shouted through her window did they? and Op described it as "strange look". thye pint im making is Its not a big deal it is in my opinion a small incident and fairly humerous at that.

Troll- read the OP, they WERE shouting through the window:

As I was driving off there was quite a long queue of traffic at the lights s we were sort of parallel with this woman's car and my DSs and their friend started shouting MCDONALDS again through the open windows to this woman

i take the op as meaning through their own window and her not her window.

through their own window and not her window

'I thought they were just shouting and being stupid, which I was ignoring as I assumed they were over excited.'

'DS1 admits they were yelling at her "to wind her up"'

'I'd never accept them shouting at somebody but my mind was a bit elsewhere this afternoon'

'They have been told off quite firmly'

All from the OP in later posts Troll

Does it matter Troll? She could clearly hear them and the OP could clearly hear her response. Being shouted at whilst driving is rude, distracting and could be dangerous, even at the lights

The OP has taken all posts on board and agreed it was rude. It's just you that's having trouble.

Yes, we had our windows wound down and they were yelling but glancing over at her so it was aimed at her.

Boomy ... don't worry, the fact it got them excited enough to yell in delight probably indicated it isn't a daily event, but just in case there was any doubt at all, it isn't.

well yes I think it does matter as the Op has Been convinced she was out of line and has subsequantly punished her children on the say of the masses of this forum and the incident has been inflated to being something it really was not. The Op has admitted to being under stress and frankly i feel her stresses are added to. It just seems so ver very silly for such a minor incident. Who really cares if a couple of over excited kids are making a bit of a racket, personaly If i were the Op I would have asked the woman if requires assistance in extacting the pole from up her arse.

Troll- you sound delightful

Gosh. You're a gem. Some of us are trying to raise our DC to respect other people.

Having graciously accepted the advice offered on this thread OP is now entitled to retreat, leaving us to beat the crap out of each other. . Wishing OP's DH a swift recovery.

OP, can I just say good on you for ignoring the nasty posts calling your children names and seeing the advice that was meant in good will.

I'm not a mother myself, but I happen to think you're a TERRIFIC mother who under a moment of stress, wasn't sure what the right thing to do was. Along with the hardships in your personal life, you have taken nasty and unhelpful EnthusiasticTroll advice in your stride.

If I were lucky enough to be a mother and live near you, I'd be proud to call you my friend. You've been the bigger and more mature person. Kudos!

You've handled this so well OP, listened to posts, taken it in and been very gracious. Now THAT's how it's done!

Boomy, you are joking right? Please say you are.

How would you feel if I now started on your kids? Absolutely horrible thing to do, no excuse.

I don't have kids. But if my nephews or friends' kids ever acted in the way described in the OP I would be appalled - and would certainly be reprimanding them. Fortunately they are all pretty polite and well behaved as they have been brought up properly.

I knew very well you didn't have kids. If you did you wouldn't have said it.

I sincerely hope that if I do ever have kids I don't lose the ability to understand that it's not acceptable for children to harass people for "looking at them the wrong way".