to go out alone?

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Friday night little DD vomited a lot, still feeling bad now, just sleepy etc. Last night older DD vomited all night. I stayed up with her all night. Also still feeling peaky today. This evening, DH started feeling ill and has gone for a lie-down. I've fed, bathed and got to sleep both DDs, and am bored. I work full time (DH is a SAHD), we moved here only a few weeks ago, and I want to do something with my weekend. Tomorrow we won't do anything. I want a drink and some adult conversation.

AIBU to go to the bar here (gated community) and leave DH and DDs asleep? Is it unfair on DH, who isn't being sick but realistically might end up being a bit later.

Sounds a bit selfish to me if you have been out at work all week and you are already "bored".

Why go out and leave your husband, who sounds like he is coming down with it too, to be in charge of the kids. Sounds like he might deserve to have a bit of a rest too.

They are asleep

And I am a teacher, spend a lot of time with children, hence the 'adult conversation' bit.

Psarenting is boring at times. I would prefer to stay with my.ill family. I am n ou t sure you are not pretending about your situation.

Oh, and plus we have no tv, internet dongle thing will run out shortly and the only DVD we have is in the night frigging garden. Finished my last book on my kindle and no wifi to download more. AAARRGHHH!

Go out.

BTW I love the phrase 'gated community' - reminds me of a new fangled PC term for a lunatic asylum

ponders I shall be told off for that now

pretending? Eh? Pretending what?

If this were a reversed situation where the SAHP was posting how would it look?

"I have been at home all week while my OH has been out at work, kids are unwell, and I am coming down with it too I think. OH is bored at home already and has gone off to the pub, is this fair?"

Pity he is asleep, otherwise you could tell him you're going out but close by and say to text you to come straight back if needed.

If your DH does end up sick - there is little you can do for him anyway. I'd scratch the itch, go out for an hour or so, but not as long as you might otherwise. Leave him a note so if he wakes he will see and can ask you back.

Don't see what's wrong with that myself.

fair point. I'll stay in. What can I do with my evening though?

An hour out won't kill anyone - I don't think the Op is going to do a Friday night style "he isnt home yet and his phone is off" thus we get 9 pages of "is he having an affair" sort of nipping out

You will have you whole life to go out for adult conversation. Your children and DH will only be ill a few times in your life. Stay at home.

He's not asleep, the kids are.

In fact he just asked if I wanted to go out, and to go ahead, bless him. I'm a bit paranoid he may be reading this on his iphone...

Anyway, with his permission (and his suggestion), is it OK or still selfish?

Shit, my kids have been ill thousands of times! Is this abnormal?

The bar is about a 3 minute walk.

Why are you asking strangers for advice if you're going to do something anyway?

I wouldn't. You'd have to wake him up to make sure that he knew he was alone in the house with the children - in case they need something and he thinks you're there. Also, if he's feeling so ill that he's gone to bed, how fair is it to leave him alone with also ill children?

It's not very fair. There are plenty of opportunities to go out and socialise, when you are not leaving an ill person who is currently asleep in charge of ill people (that he doesn't know he's in charge of cos he's asleep!) and buggering off out

I think it's incredibly shellfish.

selfish aswell.

Who said I was going to do something anyway? I am asking for advice for, well advice. Do you know how am internet forum works?

oh. x-post. Thought he was asleep.

If he's suggested it, then I can only assume he means it and it's not one of those PA oh go out, it's ok, we'll be fine here, don't worry about us, we're just ill sort of things.

If he is awake and suggests it, and you want to go, then that's different. Go if you want to.

(I still wouldn't. [martyr emoticon] )

I wouldn't. I'd want to stay in and make sure he's ok if he's likely to come down with it.

He'd do exactly the same for me and the kids too.

But it's your life, just go if that's what you want to do...I don't know why you're asking here?

Especially since you seem to be getting so stroppy about the replies.

"I'm a bit paranoid he may be reading this on his iphone... "

Go on then, , get on your way... we will wait for his thread..

Why won't you do anything tomorrow?

Yes I do know how an internet forum works. You want everyone to say:

"OHHHHH GWAAAAAN, GO AND HAVE SOME FUUUN!! YOLO!! YOLO!!!!"

Well I refuse to.

I think it's WRONG. You should stay at home with your ill family.

What does YOLO mean?