to go out alone?

[LoopyLoopsOlympicHoops]

Friday night little DD vomited a lot, still feeling bad now, just sleepy etc. Last night older DD vomited all night. I stayed up with her all night. Also still feeling peaky today. This evening, DH started feeling ill and has gone for a lie-down. I've fed, bathed and got to sleep both DDs, and am bored. I work full time (DH is a SAHD), we moved here only a few weeks ago, and I want to do something with my weekend. Tomorrow we won't do anything. I want a drink and some adult conversation.

AIBU to go to the bar here (gated community) and leave DH and DDs asleep? Is it unfair on DH, who isn't being sick but realistically might end up being a bit later.

I'm not getting stroppy, don't worry Worra. :) The 'pretending' weirs remark got my back up a bit I guess. Can someone explain that please?

It's 7.30pm here, both kids are asleep and likely to remain so for 12 hours or so. So, it's a question of is it selfish to go out for a bit, or do I stay in? Now I've said I think I'll stay in, I wonder what I can do with my time. Any suggestions?

go out - have you got a mobile? If so then leave dh with mobile number to ring if he gets too bad.

You need to have a life too - you are not just a parenting machine :) you are also not sending good messages to your children if you act like a parenting machine

He isn't reading on his phone, thankfully. In fact, he's looking for his phone.

A parenting machine for showing concern when her DH is ill and quite possibly about to come down with the same bug as the kids?

Really?

YOLO = You Only Live Once.

Where do you live? It sounds amazing. I want to live in a gated community with a bar full of drinks and adults a mere three minutes away.

It sounds like some sort of lovely permanent butlins.

Ahh I've never heard of YOLO before

I'm going to slip it into every conversation I can for the rest of the day

Ps is going out for a few drinks three mins away so bad? If he starts puking he can ring her and she can go straight back.

It seems odd that you are so easily bored with having to stay in for the evening.

You have been out at work all week, surely there is something in the house that needs to be done, or tv to watch, book to read, chores (because obviously your husband is a SAHP not a house husband, so you have your 50% of it to do according to MN rules )

Nor me. Im going to use that one today.

Oh, we won't be doing anything tomorrow because DH is likely to be unwell and I can't really take recently vomiting kids ti the pool or shopping.

you are also not sending good messages to your children if you act like a parenting machine

So parents shouldn't feed, clean and clothe their children, incase they get the wrong message

I want to live in a gated community with a bar full of drinks and adults a mere three minutes away.

Somewhere in the Gulf States is my guess.

Don't people ever sit in on a warm evening and think wouldn't it be nice to pop out?

Or get a bit bored?

I do sometimes.

I think I mentioned before sqeuaky - no tv, no DVDs, nothing to read, limited internet. House is clean (had all day for that).

And yes, it is quite like a hot and humid Center Parcs here. Very much so. Less archery and more mosquitos though.

So the kids were ill but on the mend and fast asleep.

DH is not asleep and thinks it is fine if you go out.

DH isn't feeling lively so not likely to want to go out himself instead of you, but equally probably not feeling like being much company.

I have no idea why popping out for a wee while a 3minute walk away would be selfish!

Good grief - no one is needing your tender care, and the only person it is likely to affect is not bothered if you go out.

OK, if the family were being actively ill, needing cool cloths on the head, help keeping hair out of the way while puking in toilet. A hand to hold cos feeling frightened - then yes stay home.

But that isn't the case from what you say.

Sometimes you just fancy getting out - and why not?

KL

Why not? Quite. I genuinely thought it was probably OK, but Mumsnet has baffled me.

Well he can cope with sick dc if they wake cant he? It's an hour?

I would say go op! Just do it, but then I'm looking at it from my perspective as a lone parent. If my dc are sick and u feel sick too we just get on with it. No chance of me going out

I see! They should do them here too.

Loopy, YOLO!

You might be joining them with your head down the loo in a few hours!

How are you feeling?

Personally, if I was coming down with a bug and had the prospect of being sick around the corner - I wouldn't particularly feel the need for my DH to be on hand while I emptied my guts. All I would want is a glass of water on hand and a bed to collapse into.

He is OK at mo though and his imminent physical symptoms could be a while - so what would not going for a couple of drinks achieve apart from matyrdom

It'll perk you up no end, which after nursing your lo's for the last couple of days isn't a crime!

This is a non-dilemma to me. If my DH said he was happy for me to go I'd be there already!

Also baffled why this makes you selfish.

Yes, I'm a bit worried that I might come down with it too, but so far feel fine, if a bit tired. I suppose there is always poor unsuspecting bar people to be concerned about?