to go out alone?

[LoopyLoopsOlympicHoops]

Friday night little DD vomited a lot, still feeling bad now, just sleepy etc. Last night older DD vomited all night. I stayed up with her all night. Also still feeling peaky today. This evening, DH started feeling ill and has gone for a lie-down. I've fed, bathed and got to sleep both DDs, and am bored. I work full time (DH is a SAHD), we moved here only a few weeks ago, and I want to do something with my weekend. Tomorrow we won't do anything. I want a drink and some adult conversation.

AIBU to go to the bar here (gated community) and leave DH and DDs asleep? Is it unfair on DH, who isn't being sick but realistically might end up being a bit later.

I would have gone [shellfish] :)

DC asleep, DH doesn't mind, why would you not go?

If I were the DH I wouldn't mind so long as the DC had been put to bed :)

DH says "Mumsnet doesn't know what it's talking about. I've told you to go out, that's not selfish. Bloody Mumsnet"

meh, you aren't going to snog any of them or make them a sneeze sandwich.

Anyway, I have about 3 minutes of internet left so will save it for a little while.

I'd go. You can be back in a couple of minutes if needed. You don't need to prostrate yourself at the foot of the sick beds on the offchance someone might need their brow mopping.

Have a margharita. When I think of KL I always think of margharitas

Yes, of course it's all right to go. Why not? --
the chidlren are
a/ on the mend
b/ asleep
c/ dh is there
d/ he's fine with it
e/ it's virtually next door anyway. You're at the end of a phone if he needs you and will be back within minutes in the unlikely event it's necessary.

Forget all the 'too precious for words' types. Go out for a bit. The rest of your weekend sounds grim, anyway!

Please someone explain the 'pretending' thing to me. Seriously flummoxed.

I fail to understand the point of this thread.

I think your living a fantasy life, your really an 80 year old from clacton called Mabel.

Your just showing off

I don't understand the point of those little dolls that sit on toilet rolls.

Not selfish at all. It's not far, you're not going all night, doesn't sound like you're needed at home - why ever not?

If it were me and the roles were reversed, I'd be happy for DP to go out as long as I could contact him if needed.

Are they called pootrolls?

They bloody should be!

Lost interest in the thread now - it's a non dilemma. Have fun while you're out. Have a G&T for me while you're at it cos I'm not allowed just now. ttfn

Well, I wen, and the only people in there was a family of which I teach all three children, so I came home.

'dilemma' over. :)

And apparently 30MB is left on the internet, which should get me through the night. Plus DH is up and feeling OK.

Well I'm not one to say "I told you so"

But I'm not feeling myself today, so:

"I told you so"

HTH

Are you in the Middle East, OP? If so, what's it like living there?

I'm not Imperial, I'm in Malaysia, and it is brilliant. Stopped in Dubai for a couple of days and I don't think I'd like to live there, but the people were lovely.

Is it a nice lifestyle? How many people live within that community? Do you live in a community like that because it's not safe not to?

It is fabulous, but I've only been here 4 weeks so I guess it might be honeymoon.

We live here because it's lovely, and close to where I work. DD is only 3 and comes to school with me 3 days a week, so adding a commute to her long day seemed mean. We might go into the city in a year or two, but really loving the lifestyle at the moment. No fears for safety, we would look at a condominium otherwise, which would still have security and excellent facilities, pool etc.

The mosquitos are annoying and the heat was tough with the baby to start with, but we've weaned ourselves off AC mostly now.

DH and DDs swim every day, there are lots of families here, loads of SAHPs so they are happy. The kids in my school are a dream and the ethos is much more family orientated and there's much less pressure. At the moment I'm 100% sure we made the right decision.

However, sorting stuff out takes a long time. We have no TV and have missed the olympics in its entirety. Banking isn't as easy as at home. The traffic/driving is, erm, interesting.

Expats are the most friendly group of people you could hope to meet - all having been in the same situation, and the type of people with the courage to do it, it has been really refreshing to meet a lot of interesting, nice people. The locals are lovely too, but it's a bit harder to get to know them quickly.

Oh, and no idea how many people live here. Maybe 100 families? 200? Sorry, not sure.

What prompted the move loopy?

Sometimes I think it would be brilliant to do something like that.

A job came up randomly that I was interested in. It took a big decision - I already had a job, was involved in a lot of community things, and obviously the family miss us the kids, but were ultimately supportive. But I think of life as an autobiography, and like every chapter to be exciting. DH and I thrive off adrenaline. It has been a really exciting journey. Actually, I was thinking the other day, in many ways it is more relaxing than a holiday. The planning to leave the UK was horrific, but once here it has gone much smoother than we could have hoped. On a holiday, you feel you have to cram everything in. Now we're just enjoying newness at a leisurely pace. Or we were, until the kids got sick!