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To find this patronising

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pouffepants · 08/08/2012 21:59

I don't know, maybe others haven't experienced this, but during the many conversations that everyone is having about the olympics, I hear lots of people admit they're not massively into sport, quite like the fact we're doing well in the olympics, but are really looking forward to watching the paralympics. Usually followed by some kind of statement like 'that's where the real heroes are'.

Why would you watch the paralympics if you're not into sport? You aren't interested in competition of nations, you're even less likely to know the rules etc, which are often tweaked or entirely new, you have no appreciation for physical brilliance, you might just have a smidgen of patriotism. So frankly the only reason you are watching is to goggle at the disabilities as if it's some kind of freak show.

They are elite athletes who train as hard as the 'real' ones. Don't start telling me that this is inclusive sport for all abilities. No, these are the most talented physically disabled athletes. There are many non-talented, disabled people too who are as shite at sport as me. Shall we go and watch them overcome their obstacles just for the hell of it, because I'm certain that some people have to put as much effort into getting out of bed and functioning (if that) everyday, as a paralympic athlete who trains to their limits just as an able-bodied athlete does.

Please, if you're going to support these athletes, then treat them as serious sportsmen and women. If you're not into sport then it's not for you.

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Birdsgottafly · 09/08/2012 00:08

'ohhh, how do they cope, aren't they amazing?' solely because they are disabled.

I actually don't understand what is wrong with that, it probably isn't just because they are disabled, but rather they have not stopped them from achieving what they want, even though the odds are not stacked in their favour (and society isn't positive about disablity). Doctors concentrate on what is 'wrong' or what you cannot do.

I have a collegue that is going blind and i (obviously) pass people on the street who are blind, my GrandFather went blind, i am in awe of them, as i honestly wonder if i would ever leave the house, if that happened to me.

It is nice to have positive examples of human strength, amongst all the doom and gloom that we experience.

Working in adult disabilityand end of life care, made me realise that i don't have real problems.

There was a thread on this recently.

Debeez · 09/08/2012 00:41

Bollocks.

Maybe it's the people you're hanging around with?

I'm looking forward to the paralympics more, but only as I am Eleanor Simmonds biggest fan! Saw her last time and her reaction to winning had me in tears. COME ON ELEANOR!

I know fuck all about sport.

Pickgo · 09/08/2012 01:00

It must be very annoying to be told your 'brave' and a 'hero' if in fact you are pissed off and bitter about your disability.

On the other hand to ignore the daily struggles some disabled people have because of their disability and not acknowledge the extra effort it takes seems unsympathetic and callous.

I find it very confusing.

Toughasoldboots · 09/08/2012 01:08

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Latara · 09/08/2012 01:10

I think the Paralympics is interesting because it shows how people with disabilities can overcome some seriously bad problems & go on to enjoy a good sporting career :)

exoticfruits · 09/08/2012 07:32

I still don't understand OPs problem - I find them inspirational - anyone who overcomes any sort of disadvantage ( not necessarily physical) is to be admired and celebrated. I would call OP the patronising one.

PeshwariNaan · 09/08/2012 08:38

I'm not particularly into sport but I'm watching the Olympics and enjoying it.

We were able to get lots of tickets to the Paralympics and are really excited about seeing sports not in the Olympics (wheelchair basketball, etc.)

Don't know where that puts me on the patronising spectrum...

Molehillmountain · 09/08/2012 08:57

There are loads of stories in the Olympics about people over moong adversity to get there. Is it patronising to celebrate their stories? If not then why can't people get excited over paralympians over coming adversity and achieving sporting excellence? Some people are very poor at expressing things which, said better would be perfectly reasonable. Nothing said in a patronising tone with head cocked sympathetically on one side is going to come across well. But don't throw out the baby with the bath water.

Molehillmountain · 09/08/2012 08:57

Overcoming Blush

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