to be uncomfortable with the fact that my DD was invited on a sleepover, and the parent that I know went out for the evening?

[Chrishassix]

And left partner in charge, whom I have only met briefly twice?

And didn't mention it?

AIBU to be a tad upset?

Well then I'll speak to them, and I won't allow sleepovers if I'm not sure

P.S - please don't tell me I'm hopelessly naive because I'm clinging on to the illusion that things aren't going to change too much (even though I know that change is good blah blah blah)

It's a bit of a strange one this really. I had something similarish the other week.
Youngest aged 8 was asked to come and spend the day with one of his school friends during the summer holidays. They were going on a trip out to some sort of play centre. I don't really now the mother that much just brief conversations picking up/dropping off at parties.

I went to drop my son off and was a bit taken aback to find out when I dropped him at friends house that the mother was away on business and it was the nanny looking after them. Now I know she is a trained professional and all that but I just thought out of courtesy that the mother would have mentioned it??? I know with my eldest in similar circumstances the mother told me it would be her mother looking after them).

Now obviously the question is if you/I had been told would you have refused the invite?? In my case not but I would think it just courtesy to mention it so you at least know what the arrangements are?

Sorry not much help but have been musing this because of what happened the other week and had been canvassing opinion amongst friends and family. (General consensus is that out of the courtesy you should be told who is looking after your child but wouldn't have affected them accepting the invite)

Sorry but i think its your duty to ask what the arrangements are

My ds ask me if he can stay at a amtes my questions are can i have the parents number

I then ask
What are the plans
Who will be their
Will you be there all evening
Are you covered for dinner who si picking up and dropping off

The idea your child can just ask yu to go to someones house you then say yes with out asking any questions of the parent of that child is crazy