Mum looked after DS for weekend and DH not happy he didn't get updates

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Just that really
I'm very grateful to mum for looking after DS for weekend, while I went away.
Dh very annoyed that she couldn't get DS to phone him, or send any photos or updates

Did he call her?

Was your DH with you?
Did you not phone to see how she was getting on?

If you went away, why couldn't your husband stay with your son?

How old is your ds?

He is being ridiculous!

And doesn't his phone accept outgoing calls?

Why couldn't he phone your ds if he wanted to speak to him?

where was your H, with you ?

is he always a whiny little git ?

Send photos? What does he think your mother is? Some sort of BBC correspondent?

I don't know how hold your ds is but for sure, it isn't always as easy to get children to phone their parents and actually, for as little time as a weekend, it strikes me as nothing to get unhappy about. I'm sure your DM would have been quick to get in touch if there had been an emergency. Also, if your DH was so concerned, why did he not take the initiative to phone?

Photos ? He wanted 'photos' ?

Here's a life he can have

Your DH sounds completely barking. Photos for a weekend away - whatever for? Did he send photos of himself to DS?

Ok, just looking for some perspective, thanks

I went away, dh at home, mum looked after DS (5) because it involved a Friday and dh couldn't get time off work, so i took it as an opportunity for DS to spend time with cousins, family etc

I sent mum a couple of texts, but just left her to it really, but also if I phone and talk to DS, it reminds DS to miss me, iyswim.

I think dh has been sat at home by himself all weekend dwelling on this.
But no, he didn't pick up the phone to her

As it happens, mum was unwell and DS was a bit of a nightmare, so I feel bad.

He's happy enough for her to look after him while we go away together

I understand he missed DS and was home alone, but I think he's overreacting

Instead of being annoyed, a more gracious man would have been very grateful his MIL had looked after his son.

Unless there's some cause for concern here we're not aware of or if she repeatedly ignored his attempts to get in touch?

I think he's being very silly and more than a little self-pitying. Also, if he missed your DS so much and disliked being home alone why did he not look after him while you were away?

he sounds like a petulant child (your H, not your son)

perhaps next time he will take care of his own child, instead of getting annoyed at being "ignored"

photos ?

what a whiny arse

show him this thread, OP. I double dare you...

I truly hope for his own sake, and for yours, that he hasn't shared his petulance with your mum

Why was he sat alone all weekend when his wife and son were away?? Does he not have any friends or family of his own he could have done something with?

If I'd have been him, this would have been party time! Or time to enjoy the peace and quiet with a DVD box set, game of golf or whatever he's into.

As it happens, mum was unwell and DS was a bit of a nightmare, so I feel bad

Again, if he had any decent manners, he would have texted your mum a couple of times to see SHE was managing OK.

I could be totally wrong here, but did you go away with your women friends and 'conveniently' husband couldn't get the Friday off. Why didn't he look after your son for the rest of the weekend? Is he taking his annoyance at your girls weekend away out on the wrong person?

No
My mum would be so hurt

She's actually coming down this week and will be looking after DS again

Honestly, I think he's jealous

something is wrong here, your mum had your child when she was unwell, your dh was at home alone and your mum didnt feel she could call him and ask for him to take his child home so she could have a rest?

sounds like something fishy to me

If he really (really ?) couldn't get Friday off work, he could have picked your DS up on Sat tea time after he had spent the day with gp's and cousins etc

What a selfish man he sounds

why is your mum looking after your ds again this week when she just had him for the whole weekend despite being ill herself ?

Tell the whiny arse to look after his own child in future then.

Does your H always expect people to pussy foot around him, and think of him first and foremost in everything ?

Do you usually go along with it, OP ?

bless the poor diddums with a big stick

As said upthread, why could he not collect his own child on the saturday and be a father rather than whine about the lack of updates??

Any good reason for that or is he too important to be bothered with the mundane side of child rearing and only wants teh edited highlights??

He needs a stern talking to and to be taught how to use the phone for out going calls.