I think a friend gave my child gelatine in food

[yetanothernamechnager]

I am very upset with him mum thinks I am being unreasonable

I think was an accident points taken will educate dc to check things and ask

The horror. THE HORROR!

I have a vegetarian toddler and anyone involved in his care knows this - he never gets offered anything that they think to be meat (eg sausages) but very few people think to check for gelatine. I know he's had haribo at parties, for example. While I won't deliberately give him anything with gelatine in it, I accept he will sometimes end up having it. It is hard for someone who eats meat to get their head round things like gelatine and shellac - more so the diet of a vegan I'm quite sure.

If it was religious I would still thinkt he same - a genuine mistake on part of the hostess is not worth losing friendship over?

YAB a bit U. If you don't eat an exclusive diet - of whatever variety - your often don't have a clue what food contains proscribed items other than the obvious. Eg I don't eat pork and a massive number of sweets contain pork gelatine. People often don't think about it. They remember not to serve me sausages but still offer sweets (which I politely decline). I really doubt she would have done it on purpose and, if she realises, she will probably feel guilty. Take a deep breath, remember she is your friend and is not being malicious.

How old is the child OP ?

really?????

Same deal, Medals - if it was a genuine mistake, which I suspect it was, it would be reasonable to point out that gelatine contained animal products and so could they avoid [list of common foods in which gelatine might not be obvious such as Haribo] from now on.

"Nobody would be dead" - well, except for the cow or pig who provided the gelatine, which presumably matters to the OP!

Will nobody think of the children?!?!?

You think. Wouldn't it be better if you contacted them and found out if they did? Maybe they didn't.

Well - I would still say that accidents can happen, Medals, and if you aren't living day in, day out with the particular do's and don'ts of a particular diet, be it medical, religious or preference, then it is not easy to know all the details - so you wouldn't feed bacon sandwiches to someone Kosher, but you might slip up over an ingredient in a dish that you didn't know was derived from pork.

Norks ROFL you need your own show . Hilarious!

Child is nine

"we" are vegan - tell me OP, did your dc take the decision.of veganism on themselves or did you make that decision for them?

Obviously I made the decision for my child

Ennis (great name btw) madge and others - yes I take your point and agree, definitely nit worth losing a friendship over if it was done in error!

What difference does being kosher or halal make? A mistake is a mistake.

Rearrange this well known phrase.

Over. Get. Yourself.

*not

oh FFS!!!

SDTG you're right, I wouldn't have known about the gelatine thing before I worked in a school.

Well, Gnocchi - when my children were 9, they were meat-eaters, which was the diet I chose for them. And surely that is true for the vast majority of 9-year-olds - their parents choose their diet??

Nine? Nine?

Could have said no, or asked if about it themselves if they were bothered then? probably wanted the sweets though

Not worth losing sleep over this one!