I want to know if I am being overly sensitive and if I ABU. My bessie mate has no children and she is coming to the end of her time so to speak. Her and her husband have good jobs and are better off than me and DP. I only have one teenage son, but he is a wallet vampire, and as soon as I get money together for anything I want, he'll need stuff. As you all know, family holidays and days out, meals are more expensive with kids. Then there's residential school trips etc.
The thing is, her DH wants children and she isn't sure. She keeps banging on about what a great life her and her husband have and about how she would have to stop work, or go part time if she had a baby. She'll then go on to say that having less money and not being able to do the things she wants would be horrible. She'll point out how she can buy what she wants and do what she wants, and she would hate it if that had to change. Then again, what if she left it too late and then regretted it?
Yesterday I got rather offended. Yes, I don't have as much money as her and my son is 13, so me and DP can't just do whatever we want. I do feel as though she is being a bit rude. AIBU to feel as though when she bangs on about this, there may be a slight element of female competitiveness and subtle put down?
So, I just told her yesterday 'you're right, don?t bother having kids because it's just really shit!'. Was I BU and a bit rude to say this? I love her to bits, but I feel as though she is pointing out how inadequate we are whenever she starts on this subject.